How Did You Come Out As An Atheist?

Greta Christina‘s writing her next book and she wants to know how you came out as an atheist:

I want to know:

what you said;
how you said it;
how the person/ people you came out to responded;
what the results/ consequences of coming out were;
how (if at all) things have changed with time;
whether, on the whole, you’re happy you came out or regret doing so

Just to be clear, she doesn’t need to know why you became an atheist, only how you told people.

More details about what she’s looking for — and how you can contact her — are on her site. You have a story! Tell it and help other atheists!

About Hemant Mehta

Hemant Mehta is the editor of Friendly Atheist, appears on the Atheist Voice channel on YouTube, and co-hosts the uniquely-named Friendly Atheist Podcast. You can read much more about him here.

  • AJ from GA

    What if we have never come out because it would destroy our lives? My boss, for example, said he only hired me because I was a “conservative Christian”. He has no idea…

  • Renshia

    Damn, I feel for you. Hope you can get a position somewhere that being a bigot isn’t a prerequisite. I also hope you get a chance to let your boss know that he was wrong about you.

    Good luck in that

  • JD929

    I’m pretty sure that’s illegal for him to do, but fighting it and even winning it can still carry a heavy price.

    I generally stay quiet around my parents and my grandma, it’s just not an argument and fight I want to have yet.

  • Stephen Macken

    ‘Coming out’ for me suggests the
    repression or concealment of something and I’m a firm believer that atheism
    is the default human position and that theism is the aberration. So no, I
    did not come out, I rid myself of aberrant behaviour.

  • Hollow

    I was lucky, my Mom understood fully while not agreeing. Other than my like minded wife she is the only family that knows. All other situations would be horrible.

  • Smlangolf45

    My boyfriend hates atheists, luckily he hasn’t asked about my religion. I’m sure he would be accepting though….

  • Smlangolf45

    And my parents didn’t raise me around any religion, so I could choose my own as I became older. Being a woman of science, I had no reason to believe in “God”.

  • Me

    I still haven’t officially told my family or my old church that I am an atheist. However, it’s probably clear now from the hints I’ve dropped and the fact that I no longer attend any church. The only time I’ve directly told a friend I was an atheist, I was scared of her response. I was being rejected by a lot of people (not for atheism, but for alcohol use) and I texted her asking if she was still my friend even though I had addiction issues and now considered myself an atheist. (Two unrelated topics, but I was scared of rejection on both counts.) To my surprise my friend, who is still a hardcore christian, told me she liked me because I was seeking my own way instead of my abusive family’s and that she had always liked my sense of stubborn determination. :) Just some comfort, it’s still possible to be an atheist and have very religious friends.