Mr. Tarte. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and experiences with all of us. I very much appreciate your honesty and candid demeanor. Until next time…Keep up the GREAT work! Best, Kelly
Edward speaks so clearly and honestly. Matter of fact. Seems that many do gain some sort relief from grief by believing the departed are somewhere “up there” overlooking the rest of us. I dunno if that really sounds all that attractive, but to each their own.
Thanks, Edward, for sharing you thoughts and your insights as a former priest.
Recently my cousin and his wife each died within a year of each other, and with each death their daughter (in her late teenage years) spoke at the funeral mass. Never once did she make a single reference to seeing them again, nor them watching down on her, nor them having spirits that would be in some other world, nor them being in a better place now, nor any other superstitious stuff. Instead, each time, she spoke warmly and clearly above what she loved about the deceased parent, her fondest memories, what she would miss about them, the areas where they set examples we all could try to emulate, and the areas where their memory would inspire her in the future. It. Was. Awesome.
Superstitious mumbo jumbo diminishes someone’s death. It taints it with lies and hijacks the event to have it be about Jesus H. Christ Incorporated, rather than about the person who died and the family/friends left behind.
Secular eulogies can be WAY move powerful, moving, and honest than any religious ramblings. Amen to that.
The hardest thing I found about being christian was not being able to forget this was what I was meant to believe. I knew not everyone was meant to get to heaven. But when someone died we had to pretend.
I went to the funeral of an old school friend who died of cancer aged 54 last week, it was a catholic service. It struck me that the full congregation were not fully engaged in the actual catholic sermon and prayers etc, but when his uncle came up to the pulpit and spoke about my friends life and achievements, he spoke eloquently about his early life and certain events, there were tears and laughter,.. and a huge round of applause at the end of his speech. That is the true essence of a funeral, .. remembering a persons life. RIP Peter Foley.
Another excellent set of observations. I have heard people utter some of the awful, trite things he talks about and I don’t recall seeing looks of comfort come over the grieving friends and relatives faces. I saw them furiously trying to not make a scene… And usually, the people crying and grieving the loudest are the most religious. How is that. According to most religions, unless the deceased was a real miscreant, this should be cause for celebration. I do not care how many times I hear otherwise, the death of a child or young person is never god’s will and they are most assuredly not in a better place.
Edward, your courageous and unflinching honesty is inspiring. Spoken without rancor or vitriol, the idiocy and lunacy of the things you describe speak loudly for themselves. Thank you for these gifts of your thoughts.