Rape Is Not Horrible for the Reasons Many Indian Women Are Led to Believe

The fatal rape and beating of a New Delhi woman that shocked and outraged the world last month has rightfully led to a global conversation about rape, women’s rights, and justice.

One woman in particular, Sohaila Abdulali, who wrote about her own experience at the hands of a group of men in a personal essay that has since gone viral due to the New Delhi incident, had this to say in a recent article:

Rape is horrible. But it is not horrible for all the reasons that have been drilled into the heads of Indian women. It is horrible because you are violated, you are scared, someone else takes control of your body and hurts you in the most intimate way. It is not horrible because you lose your “virtue.” It is not horrible because your father and your brother are dishonored. I reject the notion that my virtue is located in my vagina, just as I reject the notion that men’s brains are in their genitals.

If we take honor out of the equation, rape will still be horrible, but it will be a personal, and not a societal, horror. We will be able to give women who have been assaulted what they truly need: not a load of rubbish about how they should feel guilty or ashamed, but empathy for going through a terrible trauma.

In a world where even first-world countries let legislation expire that would help women, we are all way past due to have a discussion about violence like this.

Victims need resources to make themselves healthy again while rapists need to be properly penalized. Until our society learns that rape cannot be blamed on anyone but the rapist(s), tragic stories such as these will continue to happen.

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