Christian Pastor: I Carry My Wife Around the House Every Day to Show Her Who’s Boss

Our favorite misogynistic pastor, Steven Anderson of the Faithful Word Baptist Church in Tempe, Arizona, is back to tell us about his morning rituals with his family. (His previous sermons include one about how his wife cooks for him and another about how women shouldn’t have a say in how our country is run.)

Anderson talks about how, every morning, he carries his wife across the house and back (3:41):

Why does he do it? He explains around the 5:38 mark:

It puts us in the right role of our marriage, showing, like, “Hey, I’m stronger than you. I’m the boss.”

Right away, it’s a masculine thing. And it’s a feminine thing to be carried. Ok? So basically, what it is, is it’s putting us psychologically and mentally in our proper roles of husband and wife.

“Hey, I’m a man and you’re a woman! I’m gonna pick you up. I’m gonna carry you to that side of the house and carry you back.” Ok?

… I’m not saying this is a necessary part of your morning ritual, ok? I’m not saying, you know, you need to be just like me. But I’m just showing you that I’m taking a decisive action that says, hey, I want my marriage to be right. I want it to be spiritually right. I want God on my side. I want to have the wisdom of God from the Book of Proverbs. I want be in the spirit first thing in the morning. And I want to have a close relationship with my wife that is a Male/Female relationship, not this 50/50 relationship that’s garbage that our world puts out.

It’s a Male/Female relationship. I’m the man. You’re the woman. I’m gonna pick you up and show you that. And if I ever want you to go somewhere that you don’t wanna go, you know what? I’m just showing you, I have the power to pick you up and take you there.

… I’ll tell you right now, I’m not ashamed to preach that. Because, you know what? I have a good marriage.

Got that, ladies? If your husband really loved you, he’d take control of you, against your will, and show you who’s boss. Because he’s a man!

A MAN!!!

I’m sorry to say Pastor Anderson’s taken, though, so you’ll just have to look somewhere else for your future spouse/boss/personal carrier.

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  • Rain

    And if I ever want you to go somewhere that you don’t wanna go, you know what I’m just showing you, I have the power to pick you up and take you there.

    Usually this is known as intimidation or bullying. Although she would have to be a mind reader to guess all of those paragraphs of stuff he is “showing” her by picking her up and carrying her.

    • Chris B

      Depending on how far you go, it’s also kidnapping.

  • http://www.last.fm/user/m6wg4bxw m6wg4bxw

    I suppose it’s better than dragging her by her hair.

  • baal

    mmmm, quivering pecs – it’s insanely difficult to get down to his fat % (~<10% range) btw.

    Is anderson still talking? Maybe someone needs to send him a paper letter letting him know how he's received outside of his church ( and maybe inside it too).

    • http://www.facebook.com/henriette.wesselman Henriette Wesselman

      He knows.

  • C Peterson

    This guy just spent eight minutes to cover one minute’s worth of material.

    And “family bible time”? Wow, he just admitted, on camera, to psychological child abuse. Not surprising, I suppose, since he’s also into psychological spousal abuse.

    • Guesty Guest

      Family bible time is psychological child abuse? Way to leap wholeheartedly into the worst stereotype possible, ass. Parents reading a book which contains values and notions you don’t like isn’t child abuse, and it is fairly terrifying that you think it is.

      • Anad Regnillaps

        The Bible promotes rape, sexisim, murder, incest, infanticide… it is not a “moral” book.

        • http://itsmyworldcanthasnotyours.blogspot.com/ wmdkitty

          How many times did BibleGod order genocide, anyway?

          • http://www.facebook.com/nina.perez.94695 Nina Perez

            i should totally make that into a drinking game. every time god smites someone or orders genocides i take a shot. i would be passed out before the end of leviticus i think…

            • http://itsmyworldcanthasnotyours.blogspot.com/ wmdkitty

              Wait, is it one drink/shot for every order, or for every body?

              • Martha

                Every order. Every body would likely put you into the ER with alcohol poisoning.

                • Leigha7

                  And that’s just by Genesis 7 (Noah’s Ark).

          • The Other Weirdo

            Forget order. How many times has God committed genocide?

        • 3lemenope

          So no Shakespeare for your kids, eh?

          • Anad Regnillaps

            Shakespeare isn’t promoted as ethical tales for children. I’ve never heard of parents forcing children to Sunday School Shakespeare readings.

            • 3lemenope

              We have children read them, do we not? Stories about sex (even teen sex!), betrayal, murder, prejudice, jealousy, and war, wherein many of the above are glorified or at least normalized. Take Titus Andronicus, Richard III, Othello, Romeo & Juliet, The Merchant of Venus, or Julius Caesar and juxtapose them with your average sordid Bible tale; you won’t find much difference in the extremity of content. Romeo and Juliet is about teens committing mutual suicide because their parents were a bit jerky and didn’t listen to them; we tend to teach this tale in the 7th grade. It is pretty hard to sustain the argument that we only teach these stories for aesthetic purposes; The content of the stories matters, and they form some of the sinews of the wider culture.

              • Fred Rightsaid

                Still waiting for you to address Anad’s point. Nobody is holding up the works of ‘spear as a any kind of value system.

                • 3lemenope

                  That part of his point is a red herring, as (contra Feminerd below) Shakespeare does glorify what we today would consider quite nasty moral choices. Coming back to Romeo & Juliet, the star-crossed lovers are romanticized and their fate, while tragic, heaps on the Truffault Effect like crazy. The Merchant of Venice’s punchline is how to screw a Jew out what he’s owed through clever casuistry (and this is presented as a positive outcome). The setup of Much Ado About Nothing is the shaming of a bride for being framed for infidelity (this, you see, makes her un-marriageable to the point it is thought by the other characters that she had killed herself off-stage out of shame). And so forth.

                  So, while we don’t explicitly teach Shakespeare as a moral repository, the lessons (and the way in which they are delivered certainly changes their impact) that kids draw from the stories are certainly not limited to aesthetic ones about the English language. Even flat-out evil is often aestheticized as “way cool”, with many of the most memorable and interesting characters being the villains (and are often the standpoint characters to boot). We don’t say “Shakespeare is a moral paragon who tells us right from wrong”, but we *do* say “Shakespeare is the greatest author of the English language” and it’s difficult to reasonably argue that this doesn’t lend his presentations additional suasive oomph.

                • Lady Mondegreen

                  “and it’s difficult to reasonably argue that this doesn’t lend his presentations additional suasive oomph”

                  Oh, bullshit. Stop masturbating all over the thread. Nobody takes Shakespeare as a moral arbiter. Nobody.

                • 3lemenope

                  I’m certain to listen to someone who characterizes my expressed opinion as “masturbating all over the thread”.

                  If you think my claim is that Shakespeare is taken as a moral arbiter in the same way as the Bible, you either can’t read, or don’t understand my argument. Either way, you can take your condescension and fuck right off.

                • Know

                  Hey we’re all talking fantacy here anyway which ever book your reading so calm down

                • http://www.facebook.com/steven.rowlinson Steven Rowlinson

                  Well the bit about Romeo & Juliet; this is not expressed as a positive outcome. As the prince of Verona points out: ‘All are punish-ed’ (or words to that effect; I am paraphsrasing from memory). The point is that the deep seated predjuice and animosity between the two houses causes both to suffer, and two young lovers to die.

                  As an aside; my favourite chatacter in R&J has always been Benvolio; he provides one of the sole voices of reason and is also essentially a pacifist.

                • amycas

                  Every play/book that I read in school (including Shakespeare) was taken and dissected and discussed. Everything you said about Romeo and Juliet, The Merchant of Venice, Much Ado About Nothing, are all things that were discussed in depth when I read those plays in school. We discussed the good and the bad as well as the literary merit. The same cannot be said of how a Christian family’s bible reading time goes. They are not going to discuss why the misogyny in the Bible is wrong, they will simply read it and then give all glory to the god who sanctioned it. They’re not going to discuss the ethical implications of child sacrifice; they will only read the story of Abraham and glorify him for how much he trusted god. That is the difference between a Christian family’s bible reading time and the way plays and books with unethical or violent themes are taught in schools. The fact that the Bible is held up as a moral arbiter is not a red herring: it’s the very reason why it’s such a terrible thing for kids to read. If it were being studied for its historical, philosophical and literary merits, then there wouldn’t be a problem. But that’s not why or how Christian kids are taught to read the Bible. Now, I won’t necessarily say that having family bible readings amounts to child abuse, but there is something to be said about teaching a child that the stories and words of that particular book are the utmost writings and beliefs about morality and should be followed.

              • http://gamesgirlsgods.blogspot.com/ Feminerd

                We usually don’t say that Shakespeare is the arbiter of all that is right, moral, and good though. We in fact say that betrayal, murder, jealousy, and war are Bad Things(tm) and Shakespeare usually does portray them as bad things.

                The Bible on the other hand- God says kill that sumbitch, you go kill the sumbitch. You don’t question, you don’t let your innate morality or empathy go get in the way, you just go gack the fucker. How is that possibly a good idea to inculcate into children?

                • 3lemenope

                  I would quibble (see above) about the characterization of evil and villainy in Shakespeare. That aside, though, I agree insofar as it is probably a bad thing to inculcate such values as are found in certain parts of the Bible as good, morally-praiseworthy ones. My reaction was to this (imo silly) notion that because of the contents of the book alone, this disqualifies it from being appropriate material to consume, especially since from the extremely large data set we have on hand, the Bible is actually incapable of inculcating those values in the vast majority of people who read it, even among those who claim to take it seriously.

              • http://www.facebook.com/nina.perez.94695 Nina Perez

                shakespeare is also clearly labeled a work of fiction, not truth. the bible, which is marketed as divine truth, clearly says rape, genocide, murder, and incest are okay (not being gay though. apparently that’s waay wrong, unlike rape and murder?) one can make any type of moral argument they want with shakespeare. when your kids read romeo and juliet, you can try to reinforce the idea lovestruck suicide is tragic, or you can teach your kids it’s awesome and underrated. you can go either way with how you teach and interpret. with the bible there is only one way to interpret, and that is that god loves rape, murder, incest, genocide, sexism, slavery, and punishing people regardless of their guilt, because god does it, condones it, and orders it all the time. huge difference between the two.

              • Martha

                There’s the difference. Shakespeare & the like are taught in high school were the Bible stories are taught starting as toddlers/preschoolers. Teens are better able to cope, understand, & make their own decisions about the subject matter then even 1st graders.

                It’s like we’re pretty much saying that it’s OK to teach little kids about murders in the Bible (ex. Noah’s Ark), but we can’t outside of the Bible cause they can’t understand the reasons why things like murder would be in a story outside of the Bible.

              • Leigha7

                Seventh? Everyone I know read it in 9th. Your schools must be way ahead of ours.

                • 3lemenope

                  Nah, I was in 7th grade about twenty years ago. I’m sure the curriculum has changed since then.

      • Carmelita Spats

        I have to wonder at the twisted fu)k of a parent who would condone Yahweh’s monstrosity and call it ” objective moral standards”, INCLUDING substitutionary atonement. Rape, sexual slavery genocide, AND substitutionary atonement are despicable acts committed by a lunatic’s god.

      • C Peterson

        What stereotype? The bible is obscene. Religion is obscene. Theism is obscene. Teaching lies to children, and in that way teaching children to lie, is abusive. Christianity is fundamentally immoral; teach a child to be immoral, and they’ll probably grow into immoral adults.

        I don’t consider parents who teach their kids things I disagree with to be necessarily abusive. I do consider parents who teach their kids religion to be abusive, however.

        • Guesty Guest

          Considering merely the act of teaching religion to kids abusive definitely puts you on the ass end of the spectrum. I get that you feel strongly about how bad, oh excuse me, “obscene”, religion and its trappings universally are, but feeling strongly about something doesn’t make the expression of that feeling any less asinine. A very large number of people have been taught as children using the same playbook. Is it your contention that, since a person who is so taught will “probably grow into immoral adults” that you are utterly surrounded by moral idiots? Please.

          • C Peterson

            It is my contention that any religion that teaches an absolutist moral code engenders poor moral behavior. Christianity is particularly bad, of course, because the morals it teaches are themselves bad, and likely to result in bad behavior. I see those who maintain religious based morals as having an increased likelihood of acting in ways dangerous to other people, and dangerous to society as a whole- a view well supported by evidence.

            So yes, I do consider teaching children religious ideas as truth to be a form of psychological abuse, that predisposes them to grow up as less moral adults.

            • http://twitter.com/RowenaFW Rowena Fletcher-Wood

              Would you share some of the sources of this evidence with us?

              • C Peterson

                Pick up any history book. Look at the beliefs that drove colonialism, slavery, most wars. Look at the beliefs that create dysfunctional families. Look at the beliefs that attempt to influence legal systems. All of these things are driven by absolutist moral systems, all of which are tied to dogma systems, most of them of religious origin.

                It is hard to be a good person unless you can develop your own moral code.

          • amycas

            Actually yes, most people don’t progress much farther on the moral stage than “don’t/do something because an authority figure said so.”

      • onamission5

        So you’re fine with kids having to read stories of gang rape, incest and a woman getting hacked into pieces over breakfast? Because when I was a kid, that shit was fucking traumatizing.

      • Know

        I notice you are a guest, to ashamed to put your name on your post. your bible does not contain GOOD values so yes, child abuse

    • Say what?

      I’m sorry, but this is just asinine. What this man is saying is despicable, but calling “Family Bible Time” psychological child abuse is intellectually irresponsible. Were any of you raised by religious parents? Do you actually know what it’s like to be read the Bible? It sounds like you literally think that parents endorse genocide after they read a Bible passage. This is either excellent satire or really depressing ignorance.

  • DavidNorris

    “Romantic”? “Fun”? Doesn’t sound like there’s any “we” in this marriage. It’s all him. This is bullying. And yes, we do think he’s insane.

    Anyone else think this guy is majorly overcompensating?

    • Tim

      sounds like just the sort of thing a pastor would say before being caught snorting coke off a rent boy’s cock.

      • http://profiles.google.com/davydd.norris David Philip Norris

        Yup. That’s rather what I was thinking. Ted Haggard 2.0. Me thinks the gentleman doth protest too much…

        • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=824256543 Tepintzin Huehueocelotl

          The Phoenix free paper referred to him once as the “Best Closeted Gay Preacher”. Everyone knows he’s queer as a three dollar bill except him. Although given how many “men only” camping trips he takes, maybe he does.

          • http://profiles.google.com/davydd.norris David Philip Norris

            “Men-only” camping trips?? Who does he seriously think he’s fooling, besides himself? God, that’s sad. I almost want to stage an intervention. It must be easier when you have the Bible to distract you from dirty thoughts about guys all day. I can just imagine him crying in the bathroom every night, psyching himself up…

            “I do love sex with my wife. I do love sex with my wife. I do, I do, I do love sex with my wife…”

            • The Other Weirdo

              “I do love sex with my wife. I do love sex with my wife. I do, I do, I do love sex with my wife…Now I am on a horse.”

              There. Fixed it for ya.

    • Miss_Beara

      His wife is just as bad though. He is still probably overcompensating.

      • http://profiles.google.com/davydd.norris David Philip Norris

        Agreed. His wife is basically complicit in her own subjugation by agreeing to let him bully her (“for Jesus,” I imagine), which is just sad.

    • http://www.patheos.com/blogs/friendlyatheist/ Kevin_Of_Bangor

      Just enter a wife carrying competition and then it becomes fun.

      • The Other Weirdo

        Is that still legal? I thought that went out with dwarf tossing.

        • http://www.patheos.com/blogs/friendlyatheist/ Kevin_Of_Bangor

          The competitions are still very big all over the world.

  • Matt Smith

    Pics or it didn’t happen.

    And I’d love to hear his wife’s side of the stories.

  • Timothy

    Seriously Pastor Og, I cant even ask you to get out of the dark ages cause you havent gotten there yet. How about I start with asking you to drop the cave man mentality?

  • Sue Blue

    I’m sorry about sounding like I advocate interpersonal violence, but this here’s a guy who needs a good kick in the balls from a woman. I know a couple of women who have black belts. Maybe he’d like to try muscling them around – Mr. Manly-man would end up crying in a corner…or unconscious.

    • John

      Wouldn’t help, it’d just make him more adamant that non-traditional gender roles are what’s wrong with the world.

    • sicile

      ill do it!

      • Sue Blue

        I have to say that I wouldn’t be at all distressed to see this oaf’s Sacred Sacs impaled on the point of someone’s dainty size-6, steel-toed cowgirl boots.

  • http://twitter.com/nicoleintrovert Nicole Introvert

    My husband and I are laughing so hard at this because on occasion I have picked him up and walked around the kitchen. I am the maaaannnn!

    • GorillaAttilaZilla

      “I AM A MAN!!!!!”
      - Linkara

      • Helanna

        *PUNCH*

    • Gregory A. Rivas

      you are THE MA’AM!

  • busterggi

    He’d better hope his wife never finds out about firearms – god didn’t make all persons equal, Sam Colt did.

  • blasphemous_kansan

    >>”It’s a Male/Female relationship. I’m the man. You’re the woman. I’m gonna pick you up and show you that.”

    I must be doing it wrong. My wife and I find ourselves able to assert our biological sexuality without bullying, implicit threats, or schoolyard displays of machismo.

  • theatheistpig

    I’d like to borrow a quote from Goldeneye, M speaking to Bond, “I think you’re a sexist, misogynist dinosaur.” (Referring to the pastor in the vid.)

  • Stuart

    That is one hell of a kinky relationship they have.

    • Antinomian

      She rides him around the house like a Birthday Pony.

  • Mario Strada

    Here is a way the good pastor could round up his finances: pay per view of his morning rituals. Who wouldn’t pay a few bucks to see the insane at play?

    Or one could look at it as an anthropological study or a National Geographic Special. Homo Fundamentalis in his environment. It could be narrated by Sir David Attenborough as part of a primate special.

  • Tainda

    “If I ever want you to go somewhere that you don’t wanna go, you know what I’m just showing you, I have the power to pick you up and take you there.”

    Or if, you know, you don’t want to have sex and I do, I can force you. Ok? Ok? OK??

  • Levon Mkrtchyan

    I have to wonder whether or not this guy is actually an atheist and trying to drive as many people away from religion as possible by showing what kind of nonsense the bible contains.

    • Gus Snarp

      I don’t think so. I think he’s actually unhinged from reality. These sermons aren’t nearly the worst of what you can find in the Pastor Anderson rabbit hole.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=746759036 Wrich Printz

    So, if someone beats Steve Anderson to submission, and then carries him across the room, is he now the “wife”?

    The man is a shining example of why we should keep these folks out of making public policy.

  • http://twitter.com/fmacanadaguy Todd Sampson

    We should introduce him to Ronda Rousey.

  • http://squeakysoapbox.com/ Rich Wilson

    Nah, wouldn’t work in this house. I don’t think my wife can carry me that far.

  • Gus Snarp

    I’m opposed to violence in all situations. Certainly as a response to mere words. But something about that makes me want to beat the crap out of that guy. You know, because he’s a man. And I’m a man. And that’s how men deal with conflicts with other men, right?

  • Taz

    “Hey, I’m a man and you’re a woman! I’m gonna pick you up. I’m gonna carry you to that side of the house and carry you back.”

    And then I’m gonna throw rocks at you at recess, because that’s what insecure little boys do.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=613324421 Jay Darnell

    Honestly… every single thing about this video reaffirms why I’m no longer a Christian. I seriously cannot fathom the need to pray every morning at a set time and read from the bible over and over during the course of my entire life. FFS – if you can’t get the gist of how to be a good Christian within the first read or so then maybe its time to admit to yourself that the bible is a flawed book full of contradictions and documented acts of violence from a supposedly loving creator.

    Regularly scheduled family bible time is abuse. You’re forcing your children to subscribe to something they cannot possibly comprehend in full and essentially brainwashing them to follow in your footsteps before they are old enough to question things and seek the answers themselves.

    Everything about this man and the way he lives his life oozes insecurity… EVERYTHING.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=613324421 Jay Darnell

    Honestly… every single thing about this video reaffirms why I’m no longer a Christian. I seriously cannot fathom the need to pray every morning at a set time and read from the bible over and over during the course of my entire life. FFS – if you can’t get the gist of how to be a good Christian within the first read or so then maybe its time to admit to yourself that the bible is a flawed book full of contradictions and documented acts of violence from a supposedly loving creator.

    Regularly scheduled family bible time is abuse. You’re forcing your children to subscribe to something they cannot possibly comprehend in full and essentially brainwashing them to follow in your footsteps before they are old enough to question things and seek the answers themselves.

    Everything about this man and the way he lives his life oozes insecurity… EVERYTHING.

  • CompanionCube

    What is UP with that hand gesture he keeps making, that looks like he’s grabbing a pole or something with both hands? It seems to have nothing whatsoever to do with anything he’s saying.

  • Baby_Raptor

    There ARE relationships where women are the dominant one…Mine is one of them. I wonder if that knowledge drives him insane?

    I hope it does. I would wear the badge of driving sexist men crazy with honor.

    • baal

      My wife isn’t (me either) dominant but she does make twice my income (and works longer hours) and I do the vast majority of the housework. We are much happier for it. We both prefer my cooking and I don’t want to work as much as she does. If I had to be the primary earner, both of us would have a reduction in our standard of living (and flourishing).

      I do make it a point of letting my conservative co-workers know. They complain from time to time about how much they aren’t getting in a raise and I remind them that they should have married a woman with a higher paying job than theirs.

      • http://www.facebook.com/clairmaurice Clair Maurice

        Baal please tell me some journalist has written about you in an article somewhere… choosing roles based on skills and preferences rather than genitalia – now there’s a novel concept!!! Good on you

      • Gus Snarp

        My wife and I make about the same, but my schedule is more flexible, with fewer hours, so I do most of the cooking and cleaning and child care. I guess we’re going to Hell, or something? Oh wait, we don’t believe in Jesus, I guess we were going to Hell anyway, might as well keep doing what works for us!

      • ruth

        I made more than my husband. Years ago when I asked for a raise I was told I should have married someone who made more money.

  • Dorothy

    has anyone reached out to this woman? heard her side of the story? offered her asylum? it’s funny to watch him, but not so funny to think what her life must be like

    • Gus Snarp

      You mean you aren’t familiar with her crazy Christian, conspiracy theory, altmed, antivax blog?

      http://stevenandersonfamily.blogspot.com/

      I don’t know if she’s a victim of abuse, but she’s not about to say she is, apparently.

      • Miss_Beara

        She most likely grew up in that environment, which is no excuse at all and those 7 unfortunate children are growing up in that toxic environment. Hopefully the boys won’t become cavemen and the girls dutiful helpers but the chances are strongly against it.

        • Gus Snarp

          Yes. Those were my thoughts last time this guy came up and I first saw the website. Those poor children.

        • http://www.facebook.com/henriette.wesselman Henriette Wesselman

          No she didn’t she is from Germany, her father is Hungarian.

      • allein

        Can’t help but notice that the url for her blog is his name.

        • coyotenose

          Gah. Somehow that little detail squicks me out comparably to what she actually writes.

        • Gus Snarp

          The whole thing is just deeply troubling.

      • http://itsmyworldcanthasnotyours.blogspot.com/ wmdkitty

        Of course she’s not about to say he’s abusive!

        She knows what the consequences will be…

        • http://squeakysoapbox.com/ Rich Wilson

          She may not even be at the point that she sees anything as abusive. Especially if there isn’t any physical abuse.

          How many Christians think it’s perfectly rational that their loving God is going to send people to hell for not believing in him. Not that he wants to, but he somehow ‘has’ to.

        • Gus Snarp

          Yes. I hope I didn’t imply anything different. I certainly didn’t intend to. For the record: the blog certainly doesn’t prove that she’s not a victim, it’s only suggestive of just how deep into this she is.

    • http://www.facebook.com/henriette.wesselman Henriette Wesselman

      http://www.stevenandersonfamily.blogspot.nl/

      This is her blog read and weep. She is awful.

  • JadeWilson

    Out of morbid curiosity I went to his website, which linked to his wife’s blog. She’s just as bat shit as he is. For example, here’s her reasoning on why women shouldn’t be allowed to vote… http://stevenandersonfamily.blogspot.ca/2010/11/why-i-dont-vote.html

    • Miss_Beara

      Holy crap. A lot of nonsense on that blog that is for damn sure. The usual anti LGBT and bodily autonomy BS, and so much more. Someone commented that she has PCOS and debilitating cramps and this nutjob’s response was that, if natural remedies don’t work like tea (seriously) it is better to have debilitating cramps and PCOS than using the pill to kill children. I guess she is under the stupid impression that women could always possibly be pregnant, even if they don’t have sex, so don’t take the pill because of the children you are murdering! Unbelievable.

      I feel so bad for their 7 children, especially the girls.

      • TailorMade

        She also believes that IVF is murder.

    • Tainda

      He lets her on the intarwebz??!! LIBERAL!

    • Gus Snarp

      Well, that certainly gave me some Bible verses to point out that the authors were typical bronze age misogynists.

    • ruth

      At least she doesn’t vote.

    • allein

      I’m not sure what’s worse, the reasoning for not voting at all or the comments from the women who vote for whoever their husbands tell them to.

  • http://twitter.com/cryofly anuran

    Wow, some people have their brain and testicles transposed. No, this is not a spam posting. I mean, they do not know what produces thoughts and what secretes testosterone. Are these crass men any different than sexual predators? These guys are harassing women by sheer talk in the name of their religion and god. If they are sure that it is what their religion preaches, then it is time to ban their religion and place the followers on sex offender registry.
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    Religious freedom – It is time to dismantle the oxymoron.
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  • http://www.bynkii.com/ John C. Welch

    BAAAAHAHAAHAHA…

    Dear Steven Anderson: Dude, I am so sorry about your penis.

  • Andrew L

    You know what every husband heard on the way home from church that Sunday, “Don’t even think about it . . ., It’s not going to happen”

    On a more serious note, what a potent demonstration of the infantilization of women that goes on in the extreme of fundamentalism.

  • Gus Snarp

    So I’m just going to leave this here it’s not a spam link, it’s website created by Pastor Anderson and linked under one of his other videos. I have lots of things I might say about, but I’ll leave interpretation up to you: http://www.truebornsons.com/index.html

    • Miss_Beara

      Apparently social safety nets are “communist programs” in his tiny little brain. Paranoid delusions.

  • Ahab

    This man-child’s ego is so fragile that he needs to bully and belittle women to feel good about himself? He belongs in kindergarden, not the pulpit.
    My heart goes out to this poor man’s wife, whose life must be sheer hell.

    • onamission5

      Kindergarteners IME are at by far and away one of the sweetest and most egalitarian stages of child development. This guy? Unlike the person who made that “everything I ever needed to know I learned in kindergarten” poster way back when, this guy didn’t learn *anything* his teacher tried to teach him in kindy. Not saying please and thank you, not taking turns, not sharing, not cleaning up his own mess, not asking permission before using someone else’s things or touching them, none of it. So yeah, he may need to take that grade over again.

    • onamission5

      Kindergarteners IME are at by far and away one of the sweetest and most egalitarian stages of child development. This guy? Unlike the person who made that “everything I ever needed to know I learned in kindergarten” poster way back when, this guy didn’t learn *anything* his teacher tried to teach him in kindy. Not saying please and thank you, not taking turns, not sharing, not cleaning up his own mess, not asking permission before using someone else’s things or touching them, none of it. So yeah, he may need to take that grade over again.

  • The Captain

    And if I ever want you to go somewhere that you don’t wanna go, you know what I’m just showing you, I have the power to pick you up and take you there.

    And his wife has the power to kick him in the balls if he tries that! That is if she has any?

    I know about mentally abusive relationships and how some people are just timid and all, yada yada yada, but the more I hear about this guy I can’t help but lose all respect I should have for his wife.

    • Miss_Beara

      She is an anti reproductive choice, anti LGBT, anti vax, etc. She is just as awful.

      • Baby_Raptor

        In other words, don’t feel bad about not respecting her. She doesn’t deserve any.

    • coyotenose

      Mental abusers slowly take away the victim’s ability to make the choice to resist. Don’t trivialize that.

  • John_in_Vegas

    “I’m the man and you are the woman.” Is he trying to convince his wife of that or himself? It must be a truly sad existence for his wife to be married to a self-loathing gay man, especially one who thinks masculinity is measured by physical strength instead of integrity.

  • Waltz707

    I could easily pick him up and throw him across the room. Does that make me a man? Because last time I checked, I have a vagina…. but hey, maybe he isn’t telling the truth! hmmm……

    • http://www.patheos.com/blogs/friendlyatheist/ Kevin_Of_Bangor

      I’m sure you would do it for free but I would pay to witness this.

    • http://twitter.com/Cl0udStrifeFF7 Jesus Christ

      Yes, it does.

  • LesterBallard

    “Hey, I’m stronger than you. I’m the boss.”… “Hey, I’m a man and you’re a woman! I’m gonna pick you up. I’m gonna carry you to that side of the house and carry you back.” equals “My dick is just three inches long when erect”

    • http://www.patheos.com/blogs/friendlyatheist/ Kevin_Of_Bangor

      Giving the man some credit I see.

      • LesterBallard

        I’m a nice guy.

    • Baby_Raptor

      I dated a guy who managed 2 inches rock hard a few years back. Okay guy, til the insecurity fits kicked in. I can see this “Pastor” being just like him.

      I pity his wife.

      • LesterBallard

        I’d be insecure, too. I’d just hope I wouldn’t . . . you know, be a dick about it.

  • vic

    What a marvelous waste of life — not only what this guy does, but even watching this guy and his endless bullshit. These con artists are all the same.

  • houndies

    This one tops the mark! I just feel sorry for his wife she’s missing out on a great life, but she’s tied herself to this asshole. Anyway, taking someone anyplace against their will is kidnapping which is a felony, so maybe there’s hope for a long jail sentence for this guy.

  • Darwin’s Dagger

    It’s not enough for this guy to make an ass out of himself with everything he says, he’s got to prove he’s a beast of burden by carting his wife around the house everyday.

  • Sicile

    I wish i had been there. I’d of shown him who’s boss!
    What an idiot.
    And people were agreeing with him!
    *forehead slap*

  • http://twitter.com/enuma enuma

    What’s really scary about this to me is that my family used to use this exact same method… as nonviolent negative reinforcement when training a particularly stubborn Great Pyrenees. This guy treats his WIFE the way I used to treat my DOG.

    Actually, I’d bet in the long run I still treated my dog with more respect, even if I occasionally carried her around the living room to remind her of the pecking order.

  • http://www.facebook.com/clairmaurice Clair Maurice

    “I’m not saying you need to be just like me…” but if you don’t do this, your marriage is wrong, your spirituality is wrong, God is not on your side, you have no wisdom and you’re never going to have the Holy Spirit working through you.

    Welcome to thought control, people.

  • http://itsmyworldcanthasnotyours.blogspot.com/ wmdkitty

    It puts us in the right role of our marriage, showing, like, “Hey, I’m stronger than you. I’m the boss.”

    Funny, that was my abuser’s rationale… “I’m bigger than you, I’m stronger than you, and I will do to you what I please with zero regard for your needs or wants.”

    • onamission5

      Funny* how often “I can pick you up and carry you because I am bigger than you are” turns into “I can slam your head into this wall because I am bigger than you are,” isn’t it.
      *funny as in awful, not funny as in funny

    • Leigha7

      The whole mindset (and especially your phrasing) reminds me of Matilda’s dad–”I’m smart, you’re dumb; I’m big, you’re little; I’m right, you’re wrong, and there’s nothing you can do about it.”

      Oh, and funny thing, he was deliberately and obviously an abusive and neglectful parent, and the Trunchbull (who echoed the sentiment later) was obviously a horrendously abusive headmistress. I’m pretty sure they said that in part to make the abuse blatantly obvious. Funny how this guy thinks it makes his marriage look wonderful and biblical.

      • http://itsmyworldcanthasnotyours.blogspot.com/ wmdkitty

        …and I just figured out why he always followed the abuse with “makeup sex” (read: rape) — to establish his dominance and ownership of me.

  • Anders Rosendal

    I agree with him actually :-)

    None of the girls I have been with wanted me to be female. They LIKE that I’m a man and LIKE when I show it off.

    “he’d take control of you, against your will,”

    Who the hell said anything of the sort?!

    Did I miss where he says she’s resisting?

    • indorri

      “And if I ever want you to go somewhere that you don’t wanna go, you know what? I’m just showing you, I have the power to pick you up and take you there.”

      Weird wording. “Oh I could if I wanted to, you know, force you to do what I want.” :: hint hint ::

      • http://itsmyworldcanthasnotyours.blogspot.com/ wmdkitty

        Implicit threats like that are also classic abuse tactics.

      • http://gamesgirlsgods.blogspot.com/ Feminerd

        You know, I know where you live. And here’s a picture of your dog. I need $300. Just saying, ya know. No pressure …

        EDIT: Sooo much snark, no real threats. I realize I do need to clarify just in case.

    • coyotenose

      He uses abuser language. And this incident isn’t occurring in a vacuum. It is colored by all his other garbage.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1351473675 Matthew Baker

    I get the feeling he was a little demon as a child, a little shin kicking demon that terrorized his family and the schoolyard. I have no sound basis for this which bugs me even more.

    • Carpinions

      Or his dad was as overbearing as he is now, and taught him to be that way. Bonus points for being one of those types that sanctions spanking with the quip “I was a child that needed it.”

      Outside chance that “Mr. Anderson” was once a free spirit doing most anything he wanted with his life, but a conservative religious intervention of some sort convinced him he was a waste of space, and the only way to change that status would be to become a hard line religious zealot.

  • Carpinions

    Hate to make everyone’s day worse, but sexism and misogyny are a more consistent undercurrent, even in our society, than many think. I encountered thinking in the direction this pastor takes us, amongst some co-workers years ago. Their own marriages certainly sounded much more equal than this pastor makes his out to be, but when you nailed these conservative men down on the subject, they gave this opinion of the modern age that essentially distilled to “Well, things are the way they are now and women have more power, but if society was REALLY going to improve, men would have the most power and gender roles would become commonplace again.” It wasn’t as virulent as this pastor describes, but the virulent aspect simply comes about from baldly sexist organization. Add to that allusions to finding women unfit for voting in elections, holding positions of power over men where highly important decisions are made with major consequences (I’m not even talking about women running the country here), or even having a career in some cases, and you have textbook misogyny, at the very least.

    Which means that for my part, as a man in a very committed 50/50 marriage, I’m quite glad it’s a social taboo to be so overtly sexist, and that overbearing, women-hating men are seen as colossal, cave-dwelling douche nozzles if they discuss their “perspectives” in this manner.

    Speaking as a current AZ resident, this guy I think is an absolute anomaly in Tempe, as Tempe is otherwise solid blue when it comes to state and federal elections. He’s been in the news several times since 2008, and became infamous for once saying he hoped the current President would die or be killed in some manner. He is a textbook example of the kind of skill-free, uneducated, misogynistic, radical right tin-hat power monger that our “faith based” tax dollars get wasted on. I would gladly pay for $50,000 government toilets over letting dickweeds like this prosper for doing nothing with their lives while spreading only the finest grain ignorance and superstition.

  • Tracy

    I really appreciated this article, but I can’t post it on my facebook because the picture of the man with the shaving cream at the end detracts from the article. Is there any way you could remove the picture or post a 2nd copy of the article without the picture?? I’d really like to share it. Thanks.

    • http://gloomcookie613.tumblr.com GloomCookie613

      Oh dear! A picture of jiggling pecs?! Won’t somebody think of the children?!

      Lighten up.

      • coyotenose

        Tracy isn’t the one being dismissive and insulting over the issue. Lighten up.

        • http://itsmyworldcanthasnotyours.blogspot.com/ wmdkitty

          I’ll give her “distracting”… but really? It’s not obscene or inappropriate at all! (And the picture won’t show up in her FB post, so…)

          • coyotenose

            Nope, not obscene or inappropriate. Requesting it be changed in that mild tone wasn’t inappropriate either, but at the same time the request doesn’t need to be heeded.

            I have to scroll past that GIF quickly because the more I look at it, the harder I laugh, and I just had two wisdom teeth out. :-(

    • TheBlackCat13

      If you had seen the old spice commercials you would understand its relevance to the article. Look them up on youtube.

      Rather than detracting from the article, I think it adds considerably. It is a well-understood meme these days.

    • TheBlackCat13

      If you had seen the old spice commercials you would understand its relevance to the article. Look them up on youtube.

      Rather than detracting from the article, I think it adds considerably. It is a well-understood meme these days.

  • Amber

    I wonder if he uses the time that he’s carrying to bring up her weight.

  • Rain

    He’s been watching too much “He-Man”.

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZZ5LpwO-An4

  • ecolt

    Oh darn! My spouse is permanently disabled from a back injury. He can pick me up, but there’s no way he could carry me around the house. However, he outweighs me by about 90 lbs so I can’t carry him around either. What does this mean about our relationship? If neither of us can prove that we’re the man, does that make us lesbians?

  • SteveC

    You know what my wife and I do in the morning?? You might call me insance, but if you are smart you’ll listen to me. We get up, get ready and GO TO WORK!

    • http://www.facebook.com/henriette.wesselman Henriette Wesselman

      You think they pee first?

  • Sunny Day

    What a horrible thing to tell people.

    What happens when the man gets sick, or injured? Is he not a real man anymore? Should his wife leave him? What an idiot.

  • http://www.facebook.com/stanrferguson Stan Ferguson

    Given what I’ve learned from Mike Gundy, the only thing you need to be a man is 40. So, this dude’s obviously going above and beyond.

  • http://www.facebook.com/henriette.wesselman Henriette Wesselman
  • kaydenpat

    Wow. Speechless.

  • RowanVT

    I almost wish he’d try that with me…. because I’d pick *him* up and trot him around quite happily to show that I am definitely at least as strong as he is.

  • slantrhyme

    Sounds more like he prefers the God of Deuteronomy. Especially the good bits.

    And after reading WAY more of this guy’s sermons than is good for anyone, he’s really more of a horrible, backwards, sexist social commentator than he is a religious preacher. He pretty much just stomps and stammers about the “modern world” and puts a few biblical quotes around it. (Not that it’s hard to do, nor is he the first).

  • http://www.facebook.com/hellbound.alleee Hellbound Allee

    They have to do this ritual and go through the motions why? Because none of his nonsense is actually true, and even they have to convince themselves about it.

  • Renshia

    What a prick.

  • allein

    Did anyone else think of that gym commercial (Planet Fitness, I think)?
    “I pick things up and put them down.”

  • Erica

    “There is no longer Jew or Gentile, slave or free, male and female. For you are all one in Christ Jesus” (Galatians 3:28). Males and females are equal in the eyes of God. This man should not bully his wife. In doing so, he misrepresents Christianity. Christianity is supposed to be about love and sacrifice. A big part of that is serving others, not oneself.

  • Erica

    God is righteous. He is love. <3 He loves everyone, regardless of whether they believe in Him. There are too many stereotypes surrounding Christianity (I acknowledge that many of them develop because some Christians' behavior is antithetical to Jesus' teachings of love and mercy). However judging Christians is as intolerant as the judgments that some Christians make. Spread peace, not hatred. Love conquers all.

    • allein

      We’re not judging him as a “Christian”; we’re judging him as a misogynistic bully who uses his religion as an excuse to be a misogynistic bully.

    • coyotenose

      “However judging Christians is as intolerant as the judgments that some Christians make.”

      Right, just like arresting and imprisoning a kidnapper is just like committing kidnapping.

  • A friend

    Prayer of Salvation; For those that want to be Saved.
    Pray this prayer; Dear Jesus, I am a sinner and I need a Savior.
    Please forgive me of my sins. Jesus I am ready to place my trust in you.
    I believe you are the Son of God,
    that you came down from heaven and gave up your life for all sin
    and rose from the dead. Jesus, I need you in my life,
    I am inviting you into my life today. Thank you, Amen.

    • allein

      “I don’t believe in salvation
      I don’t believe in sin”

      -Shelley Segal

      http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sFujSgJ9C-c&feature=player_detailpage#t=45s

      • allein

        OK, how do I put in a link without creating a giant image?

    • The Praetor

      Hurr durr, it’s a preachurr.

    • Guest

      You’re no friend at all, “A friend,” if you’re trying to get us to accept a mythical human sacrifice and allow someone to die in our places to avoid being tortured for eternity by a hissy-fit god.

      From where I’m sitting, the Sinner’s Prayer looks remarkably like the Mark of the Beast. Stick it where the Son doesn’t shine.

  • A3Kr0n

    Nothing like a class on domestic abuse training.

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Matt-Kovach/1270634973 Matt Kovach

    this guy is crazy and giving him attention is a waste

  • http://www.facebook.com/steven.rowlinson Steven Rowlinson

    Men can pick their wives;
    Carrying your wife is ‘biblical’;
    Therefore Christian men can pick up and carry their wives.

    I suppose that explains why I am not a Christain: I’m about eighty pounds of skin and bone. Good to know!

  • jod

    Sorry that is the meanest, sorry/sad pathedic action of male dominance I’ve read in a very long time. Dude, you have a penis, your wife know’s your a man and guess what…God know’s too! You poor sad creature. Its the 21st century, strength is having power, wisdom and self control NOT to use the physical strenght to bully a weaker person like…your wife, you cave man!!!

  • Nicky

    Oh that was depressing! Having a controlling little idiot like that bossing you around. Even the audience/congregations laughter sounded a little weak/bemused at times.

  • http://twitter.com/TweetThatSheet Daniel Brown

    I definetly laughed out loud when i read this on his site:

    “Over 4.0 million mp3 sermons have been downloaded from this site!”

    “4.0″? Why the “.0″? Just say “Over 4 million”. Also, what’s with the inclusion of “mp3″? This just looks like it was written by a young kid in the 90′s who’s just learning about computers and technology.

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Kenneth-Williams/100000104244858 Kenneth Williams

    LMAO

  • Shoe3ck

    Don’t you mean “personnel carrier?’ Lol

    The thing is, it’s easy to spot the demeaning of women in the Bible’s telling of gender and sex. Not as easy, but so damning and ugly now that I have given enough thought to be able to see it, is the demeaning of men–sure, they get to be in charge and all that, but they are expected and encouraged to think of themselves as brutish idiots.

    “You’re a man, you don’t need to think! Just flex those MUSCLES and carry things, interact with your lover like she is a goat!! You’re the BIGGEST and you’ve got the baby-maker spear, and that means the one who can own other people the most!” is a sickly, hollow, and disturbing a set of blessings–maybe not as bad as what women get, but still a set of insults.

    I.e.; “You’re a woman, you don’t need to think! Just moosh those BOOBIES over that litter of little humans and submit to sex no matter what!! You’re a MOTHER waiting to happen, born with that baby-maker hole, and that makes you more valuable than a goat! But also more likely to be enslaved”

  • Cheeky beast

    He needs to get his suit tailored he looks like a kid wearing his dads clothing. At least he could try and look the part of someone who knows what the hell is going on.

  • http://springygoddess.blogspot.com/ Astreja

    Someone needs a surprise visit from the Slipped Disk Faerie.


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