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I am age 78, once a Catholic priest for five years (in the 1960's), then a math teacher for 44 years up to the present day. I became an atheist a few years ago. My hobbies are music and chess.
Thanks for posting a beautiful, secular message of support!! Very inspirational!
Edward, You’re simply awesome! Thanks for being such a great human being.
Way better than prayers would be if the friends offered to actually HELP out.
She probably would love for someone to cook and deliver a meal to her and her family while she is recovering.
Or drive her to/from the doctor’s office.
Or pop out to the store for that random item that she wants at home but isn’t quite up to running out for.
Or bring her some flowers. Or bring her books on tape/CD while she is recovering.
Or for those who can’t be there in person, a phone call during her recovery would probably be nice. Fifteen minutes of cheery conversation can do a good bit to help liven up a day spent lying in a darkened room, which is a pretty standard part of recovering from eye surgery.
When a friend who lives a day’s drive from me had to have surgery, I spent two and a half days prior texting her to keep her nervousness at bay. Silly jokes, animal videos, whatever she wanted to talk about, anything to distract her. I have CFIDS, which is both why I was available and why sleeping only when she did was such a strain that I collapsed after they wheeled her off and went kinda comatose for the next few days, but point being, it doesn’t take much to offer a tangible benefit. A housebound hunk of junk can manage it.
Of course everyone who prays doesn’t do any of these things.
Praying while driving might not be helpful, especially if the prayee is in the car.
Some folks who prayer actually ALSO do the additional work to give some real help. Some do not.
But if you are going to make me a sandwich as a way to help me through a rough time, then you praying first is only a distraction.
And for many, many people they will do NOTHING except the praying part (and yet they’ll be self-satisfied that at least they have done *something* to help the other person when really they have done *nothing* to help the other person at all).
Reminds me of the video of the comedian Hannibal Burress saying that instead of someone praying for him, he would rather that they make him a sandwich.
Find it on YouTube as: “Don’t pray for me, make me a sandwich!!” or this link: http://youtu.be/feXnZZ2o5ys
I left a comment on one of those prayer requests:
“Pray that your doctor doesn’t pray”
My comment was deleted.
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