Polish Church Officials Say Child Sex Abuse Victims Were Just Looking For Love and Fulfillment

Did you know? Child-abusing priests were just trying to spread some love.

Another Polish cleric has claimed that broken homes are a catalyst for paedophilia.

Father Ireneusz Bochynski, from the city of Piotrkow Trybunalski in Central Poland, has said he knows of 10-year-old children who “went to bed with adults, wanting to be fulfilled, and it was the choice of the child.”

Father Bochynski insisted that “now that we have so many broken marriages, where most often there is a lack of a father, it will happen more and more often that children without such figures will cling on to men.”

His controversial remarks echo those of [the] head of the Polish Episcopate, Archbishop Jozef Michalik, who claimed that children involved in paedophilia cases were often “searching for love” as they came from broken homes.

It reminded me of this satirical piece from The Onion:

“As Jesus said, ‘Let he who is without sin cast the first stone,’” the pope continued. “We must send a clear message to these hundreds — perhaps thousands — of children whose sinful ways have tempted so many of the church’s servants into lustful violation of their holy vows of celibacy. The church forgives them for their transgressions and looks upon them not with intolerance, but compassion.”

Of course, to untold numbers of kids molested by clergy, it’s not exactly a laughing matter.

In the Polish case, the archidiocese of Lodz announced that disciplinary action has been taken against Bochynski.

(Thanks to Taneli for fact-checking help)

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  • Stev84

    They can’t even get their stories lined up. If the victim is a boy it means they were seeking gay sex. And the Catholic Church preaches that gay sex can’t lead to happiness and fulfillment.

  • closetatheist

    They’ll just claim the kids were *music* “Looking for love in all the wrong places…”

  • Gunner Miller

    Every time I hear something from ‘church officials/leaders’ I say to myself that they cannot top it, and in just a short period of time they prove me wrong. It is why stuff by Pat Robertson never surprises me. You kind of expect it. Same goes for situations like this.

  • James Stevenson

    ‘the choice of the child’.

    ‘more and more often these children will cling to men’

    Well glad to know we know who is responsible. Those evil evil children and their manipulative ways taking advantage of our poor priests.

  • Highlander

    Even if it were true that the victims were “looking for love” (which it isn’t) that doesn’t mean the priest can stop being a responsible adult. Responsible adults tell children “no” all the time. Catholic priests are especially good at it, “no sex before marriage”, “no contraception”,”no abortion”,”no comprehensive sex education”,”no asking hard theological questions”,”no doubting”,”no telling anyone about the touchy feely in the rectory”, but somehow they just can’t say no to a child who wants a sexual relationship with them. *gag*

  • closetatheist

    NO. *IF* children from broken homes are more likely to be the victims of sexual abuse by clergymen it would be an example of someone in a position of authority preying on a child’s vulnerabilities and insecurities…especially on those insecurities that the church purposely plants in them. You know, bullshit about them being horrid sinners, desperately needing a mediator between themselves and god, and probably the sentiment that clergymen are above reproach.

  • fmfalcao

    Since when does love = sex?

  • C Peterson

    I suspect that children with psychological damage, emotional turmoil, or the like- sometimes, no doubt, because of problems at home- are more vulnerable to the advances of pedophiles. So what? It’s sick to blame the children when the pedophilia occurs. It’s like excusing the thief who breaks into your house because you forgot to lock the door, or excusing the rapist when the victim was wearing a short skirt. Sick, sick, sick.

  • C Peterson

    Kid seeks love, sick priest responds with sex. Even sicker church justifies sick priest because kid was vulnerable due to sinning parents. You have a problem with that logic?

  • EuropeanCommunist

    Father Ireneusz Bochynski, from the city of Piotrkow Trybunalski in Central Poland, has said he knows of 10-year-old children who “went to bed with adults, wanting to be fulfilled, and it was the choice of the child.”

    Oh I really hope his doing the usual lying for Jesus shtick because it really does sound like he’s speaking from experience…

  • http://www.everydayintheparkwithgeorge.com/ Matt Eggler

    Love = sex when you subscribe to a belief system that has a warped and repressed view of both love and sex.

  • Michael

    Childproof pill bottles exist because, when a child wants something, you don’t automatically give it to them without question. I’m sure some of these children wanted sexual contact, but so what?

  • Olive Markus


    That should never have to explained to anybody.

    The entire Catholic hierarchy is a monumental sociopath.

  • Itarion

    Umm… No, just the premises it follows from.

  • Buckley

    How much more does the church have to say before they reject the nonsense that is religion? I have no more time for those who still cling to this bull shit.

  • LesterBallard

    Oh, Jesus Fucking Christ, do I want to destroy the RCC.

  • Carmelita Spats

    You and me both. This Polish priest is not the only one suggesting that slutty kids seduced paunchy, overstuffed, maladjusted, 60-year-old, male virgins. The bishop of Tenerife, Spain stated, “There’s children who want to be abused. They even provoke you.”


    Father Benedict Groeschel, the former head of the Office of Spiritual Development for the Archdiocese of New York, a professor of pastoral psychology at St. Joseph’s Seminary, and founder of the Franciscan Friars of the Renewal shares the same sentiment: slutty kids seduce hapless priests.


    I have urged family members to LEAVE the Roman Criminal Church and join one of the other 40,000 Jeeezus cults but they remain because it’s the only place where they can open wide for a mouthful of Savior on Sundays. It’s all about swallowing Jesus and damn everyone else. They are more upset at the desecration of the Eucharist (Cookie Jesus) than at the vicious rape of a child. They would be willing to die in defense of the Eucharist but not in defense of the children victimized by their cult. It’s sick. Religion stunts moral reasoning.

  • Robster

    “Over to the Great book of excuses, let’s start at ‘c’, oh look, it’s the fault of the children, all born with sin so it’s all the fault of the kids”, my staff are not at fault. Signed Frank.

  • Amor DeCosmos

    I am the father of two little kids. If any adult ever told me me that my kids had seduced them, I would punch that adult in the nose. I’m a pacifist mostly, but that would push me over the edge.

    History shows that there are large groups of people who think like this. This week, I read about the 14 year old girl who was whipped to death by the villagers because she had been raped.

    Blaming the victim. …sucks…

  • smrnda

    Totally this. It is the job of adults to tell kids NO to all kinds of things. If a priest is in such danger of being tempted, he had a responsibility NOT TO WORK WITH KIDS.

  • Miss_Beara

    There will always be people who look the other way or say “we are all sinners” and go about their merry way to the church that claims they are the moral beacons of society. Also the ones that agree with the church regarding those evil temptors who lead the men of god astray.

  • Miss_Beara

    There was catholic outrage regarding a hamburger with an unconsecrated host on it. Why am I not hearing catholic outrage over child rape and the subsequent victim blaming?

    I guess i don’t have to ask that question.

  • Randay

    He says “most often there is the lack of a father”. That is rich coming from a guy who pretends to have chosen celibacy. The RCC has taken so many men out of the potential “father pool” that they are contributing to the problem with their doctrine. On second thought, maybe not. If priests married, would they be good fathers?

  • Theseus

    Yes. It’s just like when adults use the love word to rationalize a middle aged teacher banging their 6th grade student. The adult is the one with the power and responsibility; even if the kids agree or say they want to, it’s still the adults responsibility to say “no”.

  • http://www.flickr.com/photos/chidy/ chicago dyke, TOWAN

    it used to be fashionable (and still is in some quarters) to say that “all gays are members of NAMBLA” and that was a big reason why homosexuality was evil and sick. we now know that is not fact, and that most gay people are healthy and normal like hets, they’re just gay.

    but what if that were true? what if homosexuality really was a “choice,” and that choice inevitably led to association with, if not also participation in, the activities of NAMBLA? that would make homosexuality indefensible. all good and decent people would leave it, and renounce it. or at least be celibate and closeted.

    this is why i don’t understand practicing catholics. for years, they used that argument on us, to the sad success for many gay catholics. now fact and truth reveal their own faith is this horrible situation that they used to project upon us. how can any decent person stay, and give money to this criminal organization that destroys children’s lives? how?

    there is nothing you can say to me which will justify your choice to be a catholic. nothing.

  • Theseus

    Exactly. “The kid wanted it, so I just HAD to do it”.

    Right, so his responsibility as an adult and mentor flies out the window at that moment? Fuck these hypocritical dipshits.

  • Zachary Hill

    “What do you think caused it?

    What I argue is that these guys represent homosexuality in pure and total
    repression. This is what successful repression looks like: men so
    alienated from their own sense of self that their sexual expressions
    come out in explosive ways.

    Most priests I talked to who had abused kids described the abuse as though
    it came upon them with the same kind of sudden surprise that it came
    upon their victim. This one priest, Father Neil Conway [St. John the
    Baptist Parish, Akron, Ohio], described waking up—that’s the way he
    described it—waking up in the middle of the sexual fondling of these
    kids. He really believed that he was the victim somehow—even though you
    have to honestly see that he created the circumstances [that led to the
    abuse], that he courted these kids, that he flirted with them, that he
    really behaved as a predator. But he couldn’t see it; he was so
    fractured in his psyche. That’s repression in its purest form.”

    – Bruce C. Steele, The Advocate, April 13th, 2004

    “In the darkness, Conway would slip into the child’s room after he had
    fallen asleep and rub his hands all over the boy’s body. The next
    morning, Conway says, he would resume their “breezy” friendship as if
    nothing wrong had happened the night before. In his mind, he would
    assure himself that he was actually helping the boy, forging a bond
    between an emotionally needy youth and a caring adult. “I would convince
    myself it was a wonderful, positive experience,” Conway says. And so
    would begin a troubling sexual journey that would last until the boy was
    old enough to assert his independence.”


  • Carson Steele

    What do you expect when the hero of their fairy tale book is a rapist himself?

  • ansuz
  • Ophis

    They’re just dealing with their problems in order of importance. Once they sort out all the bread-related stuff, they’ll get round to dealing with the worldwide conspiracy of gays, then after that they deal with the child sex, presumably by teaching children to be less clingy and vulnerable.

  • http://roguemedic.com/ Rogue Medic

    Original Sin is just another way of blaming victims.

    Why should anyone be surprised that people who think Original Sin is just think that blaming the victims is reasonable?


  • Ogre Magi

    I can’t stand christians

  • Gail

    Thank you! This priest has a lot of nerve (and cray cray in his head) to say that the children bear responsibility for the sexual abuse. I was molested as a young child for years and when I finally got the courage to tell my mother she accused me of doing something to provoke it. She remained friends with the people who molested me and I practically died inside every time I had to be around them. My mother is Catholic and I believe that had a lot to do with how she viewed what happened to me. It’s practically a Catholic tradition to view children as little devils who are more worthy of punishment than love. How they can be so pro-life, yet not respect that life once it’s born is beyond me. It’s sadistic.

  • Ur worst nightmare

    I just threw up. The son of a bitch who said that better hope I never go to Poland. I will shove an AK so far up his ass, he will beg me to pull the trigger. And that’s not a threat it’s a promise pussy!!!!!

  • Gary Pete

    that’s right – blame the victim