Aaron Loy (below), writing for the Chrsitian site RELEVANT, offers “five really bad reasons to leave your church”.
As it turns out, he’s right. They’re really bad reasons:
1. “I’m not being [spiritually] fed”
“As a Christian, you shouldn’t require spoon-feeding for the rest of your life. Eventually you need to learn how to feed yourself so that, in time, you can actually feed others.”
2. “It’s getting too big”
“If you have a problem with big churches… you definitely won’t like heaven.”
3. “I don’t agree with everything that is being preached”
“The truth is when you choose to stay despite disagreeing on some things, you, your pastor and your church are better for it.”
4. “My Needs Aren’t Being Met”
“The Church doesn’t exist to meet your needs. You are a part of the Church that exists to meet the needs of the world.”
5. Unresolved Conflict
“When we leave at first sign of real conflict, it shortchanges God’s best work in our midst. It sidesteps the process of repentance, forgiveness and grace.”
Here’s the problem: All of these things boil down to one idea: If you want to leave the church, there’s something wrong with you. The church and the pastor can do no wrong. It’s worth getting more specific, though, and for those of us who don’t go to church, feel free to replace that word with “college” because the arguments are almost identical.