In general, when I find myself disagreeing with people I know and like, I’ll reach out to them privately to see if we can clear up any confusion and fix things that way. I’ve been criticized plenty of times by people who know me, but when they didn’t like something I wrote, they took the public-shaming route instead of giving me a chance to respond to their concerns first. It’s lazy, it’s irresponsible journalism, and (most importantly) it usually doesn’t work. It just causes the other person to double-down on whatever they were doing before.
So when I saw this post by Dusty Smith, a popular YouTube atheist under the handle “Cult of Dusty,” it bothered me. I usually “get” his sort of politically-incorrect humor even if it’s not for everyone, but there’s just nothing funny about this: