The New York Times reports that some gays are worrying that legalized marriage and their new social acceptance will mean a loss for gay identity and gay culture. Some telling quotes in the article: “The thing I miss is the specialness of being gay.” “There is something wonderful about being part of an oppressed community.”
Hey, maybe Christians now can feel special and and will come to enjoy that wonder!
But seriously, one of the arguments for gay marriage made by early proponents such as Andrew Sullivan is that gay people need to abandon the promiscuity that has tended to characterize their culture–which manifested itself in the AIDS epidemic–and embrace the social order found in marriage.
Do you think, now that gays can marry, that we can return to the ethic of no sex outside of marriage? Studies do show that while pre-marital sex is tolerated, being unfaithful to one’s spouse is still seen as a bad thing. Will gays adopt that ethic, or will the sexual exclusivity of marriage be the next to go–some married gays say they are “monogamish”–in which case, will marriage itself lose its point? Or will gays settle down into married domesticity? [Read more...]