We have gay marriage. Now we are also getting gay divorce. The New York Times has published an op-ed piece entitled “I Got Gay Married. I Got Gay Divorced. I Regret Both.” The author, Meredith Maran, tells with poignant honesty how she crusaded for gay marriage, took the plunge, but then went through a long, costly, and painful divorce.
After the jump, theology professor Denny Burk quotes from the article and comments on the problem: wanting the rights of marriage without the norms of marriage (fidelity, permanence).
The same could be said of many heterosexual marriages. But is there anything about gay relationships that makes permanence especially difficult? What role might bearing children play in making marriage permanent? But how would you account for marriages with children that break up anyway? Some people are saying that marriages shouldn’t necessarily be permanent at all, though breakups are still traumatic, even for those who think that way. Do you have any suggestions for lowering the incidence of divorce, including among heterosexual Christians?