Why Christians Don’t Like Sharing Their Faith

A few weeks ago I attended my family’s church because my oldest was being recognized among the seniors graduating from high school (yes, I’m old enough for such things). Attending the church of my youth is always interesting and entertaining, and most likely in all the wrong ways if what they’re hoping is that I’ll [Read More…]

But What If You’re Wrong? A Response to a Christian Pastor

During any given week, I have a number of conversations ongoing with inquisitive folks who read the blog and want either to send me encouragement or else to challenge me to reconsider my disbelief in their religion. From time to time I like to share a sample of those conversations with the rest of you [Read More…]

When Your Christian Friends Give You Reconversion Homework

I have several well-meaning believers in my life. These people, for good or for ill, often come to me with requests: “Will you come to church with me?” “Will you read the book of John for me?” “Will you listen to this song for me?” So far, I’ve only said no to one of these [Read More…]

Four Kinds of Love That Aren’t Really Love

For all its benefits, being an empath does have its downsides. I tend to absorb the troubles of other people, and I don’t always do a good job of separating my feelings from the feelings of others when they are going through extremely trying times. That’s a skill I’m still trying to learn. A few months ago [Read More…]

Everything You Do Is Wrong

Two-thirds of the way through a book entitled The Reason for God, Tim Keller openly admits on page 162 that he isn’t even going to attempt to provide evidence that God exists. Why not? Because, he says, you already know God exists. All of you. Atheists, too. He’s just trying to make you see that [Read More…]

Preacher Says Atheists Prey on Fear, Prejudice, and Ignorance

I used to think the Christian faith equipped individuals with superior tools for self-analysis and critical introspection. Boy, was I wrong on that one. I started out my journey away from faith fully expecting to find that non-Christians are far less self-aware than Christians, allowing vices within themselves which the high standards of the Christian [Read More…]

Advice for Our Young Apologist Friends

This past weekend I had the pleasure of attending the launch party for a new “secular ministry” called Life After God. You may recall at the beginning of 2014 how former Seventh Day Adventist pastor Ryan Bell embarked on a yearlong journey to see what difference it would make to live each day “as if [Read More…]

Christianity Has a Major Boundary Problem

Holiday season is upon us, and that means many of my fellow deconverts will once again be facing their families for the annual “Come to Jesus” speeches, the subtle and not-so-subtle attempts at evangelism, and in general the myriad forms of manipulation that have kept them at a fair distance for all the other months [Read More…]

Evangelical Christianity and Low Self-Esteem

Like most swimmers, I try to get in some laps almost every day, but there is only one health club with a pool within decent driving distance from where I live. It doesn’t call itself a Christian gym, but it plays primarily Christian music overhead, holds prayer meetings and Bible studies, and incidentally it also [Read More…]

Dear Christian Evangelist, Whom Are You Trying to Save?

Last week I did something I try to do often:  I had a public dialogue with a Christian about the ways in which I feel non-believers like myself are misunderstood by people of faith.  I was invited onto the podcast of Phil Vischer, creator of Veggie Tales and an evangelical Christian with an ongoing ministry among [Read More…]