What Bowling Can Teach Us About Prayer

I suppose I started celebrating Father’s Day a day early when I took my nine-year-old bowling yesterday, but of course that won’t stop me from doing it again today when I take her to my favorite place for catfish and hushpuppies (not a normal fare for a guy trying to keep from putting back on [Read More…]

Shame on You for Thinking Prayer Does Anything

In yesterday’s post entitled “Our Biggest Mistake: We Did As We Were Told” I listed several things deconverts like me did that inadvertently led to the demise of our faith. At one point I brought up prayer, and I explained that we approached prayer exactly the way the Bible instructed us to approach it: We came to [Read More…]

Our Biggest Mistake: We Did As We Were Told

Those of us who broke up with Jesus (he wouldn’t return our calls) are accustomed to having our motives and our sincerity questioned by those still happy with their faith. We get it all the time. We hear that we weren’t authentic enough, or we weren’t fully surrendered to the will of God, or we had some [Read More…]

Making Your Faith Impossible to Disprove

A few days ago I reshared an article entitled “Why I Broke Up with Jesus” which always inspires a predictable set of rationalizations from people defending their tradition using the same time-tested tools I learned to use when I was a Christian. I’m always glad they do it, too, because it brings into such stark relief [Read More…]

The Predatory Side of Religion

Those of us who used to be devout face a tricky challenge when we go through trying times. There used to be easier ways for us to share our pains and losses with others and receive support. Church has its drawbacks, to be sure, but after we leave it behind we find we are giving up a source of community [Read More…]

I’m Tired of Prayer

Our world is wracked with tragedy. Much of it could be avoided, much of it is the result of cruel chance. Whatever the tragedy, my friends, family, and acquaintances often have the same response: #PrayFor________ I’m sick of it. Those who know me personally know that I’m a tender-hearted cinnamon roll who cries at basically everything. I [Read More…]

The Most Fantastically Failed Prayer in History

Defenders of the Christian faith love to move discussions about their religion from objective matters to subjective ones, from measurable things to the immeasurable, and from quantifiable subjects to those which are completely nebulous—or more to the point, unfalsifiable. This is a telling compulsion, and every time it happens it reminds me why I eventually lost [Read More…]

When Your Faith Behaves Like a Predator

For the past week or so I have been battling chronic pain unlike anything I’ve ever encountered before.  About an hour after falling asleep each night, I wake up in excruciating pain that starts immediately behind my left eye and spans the short distance to my left temple, radiating out from there to the rest [Read More…]

Taking the Atheist Prayer Challenge

[Today’s guest post was written by Cynthia Jeub upon completion of the year-long prayer challenge I posted about yesterday. She blogs on Insights on Epic Living.] “The prayers that we had prayed were like a drug…I found my faith living in sin.” -30 Seconds to Mars I was already a fan of Neil’s blog when my [Read More…]

Six Testable Claims of the Christian Faith, Plus One Prayer Challenge

About a year and a half ago I wrote a piece about taking the Bible at its own word and how, if you truly take it seriously, I don’t see how you could come away still believing its claims. You have to play fast and loose with what it actually says, and you have to [Read More…]