The Dark Side of Grace

People who are in abusive relationships learn to see themselves as “lucky” for having their abusers in their lives. How is that possible, you ask? The dynamic is really easy to explain. No matter how tough or powerful they may seem, abusive people tend to be deeply insecure. Consequently, they spend a great deal of time and energy tearing down [Read More…]

Why Sex May Be the Greatest Threat to Christianity

I recently tweeted something of an epiphany and I’d like to take a minute to unpack what I meant when I said it: Some days I wonder if an honest look at human sexuality isn’t the strongest counterapologetic to the Christian faith anywhere. — Neil Carter (@godlessindixie) January 27, 2016 That statement reflects a growing conviction [Read More…]

Body Shame 101: Lies the Church Told Me about My Own Sexuality

[Today’s guest post is written by Kylie, a friend and former evangelical who lives in the Pacific Northwest.] We start getting messages about sex and the culturally approved ways of expressing our sexuality long before our bodies even hit puberty. From birth, we are surrounded by these messages and we absorb and internalize them in the [Read More…]

The Perils of Worshiping a Perfectionist God

[Today’s guest post is written by Holly Baer, a religion and gender studies major at the University of Mississippi] “Be perfect, therefore, as your heavenly Father is perfect.” As a child, I felt guilt constantly. I felt constantly bombarded with my failures and short-comings, despite the fact that I acted like the new intellectual savior. [Read More…]

How Christian Groveling Protects the System

At risk of adding to anyone’s Duggar fatigue, something stood out to me this week which I want to highlight once more because it struck a nerve for me personally.  A friend of mine alerted me to one of Greg Garrett‘s responses to the Duggar scandal that’s currently dominating the religious blogosphere.  It’s a self-flagellating mea culpa [Read More…]

Sex as a Southern Woman: A Story of Shame

[Today’s guest post is written by Holly Baer, a student of religion and gender studies at the University of Mississippi.] Three months before my seventeenth birthday, I sat in my room with anxious sweat on my palms. After dating for two years, my boyfriend and I decided we were ready to have sex. My mother, a [Read More…]

You Keep Forgetting to Take Up Your Cross

Recently a reader expressed indignation because once again I compared my leaving the Christian faith to growing up and “putting away childish things.”  It didn’t matter to him that once again I prefaced my comparison by acknowledging the intelligence of the people who don’t see it the same way.  He got defensive and told me [Read More…]

We Are Not Broken

I’m trying to be constructive. Really, I am.  I’m trying to stay positive and optimistic about the prospect of forging a common vocabulary and finding common ground with progressive Christians but right this minute I’m getting very discouraged. See, it only works up to a point.  We start out in agreement on a number of [Read More…]