Archives for February 2009

While You Are Not Watching

This was the title of an email I received few days ago. Basically, it mentioned that kids learn more from what they see you do than from what you instruct them to do. When I read this email, I remembered my 12 year old son's words, "Mama, when you grow old I'll take good care of you like you do with Geddo (grandfather)". My eyes filled with tears and I was thankful to Allah.SubhanAllah!!!! I have the honor to care for my 80 year old father after he suffered a stroke. After my son's words, I … [Read more...]

Resigning from the Etiquette Police

I give up. I’m surrendering.  I won’t do it any more—it’s an impossible mission.  It is no longer my responsibility if kids get hurt, property is damaged, our image gets tarnished, food gets wasted, or it’s noisy during Taraweeh prayer. Are you listening? I am officially resigning from my twenty-five year stint as a self-appointed member of the Etiquette Police.... I’m worn out. Exasperated.  Defeated.I have only myself to blame.  I took on the job thirty years ago when I reverted to Islam. N … [Read more...]

Rantings- One Mother’s Way Out

It’s rather bizarre how most of the thoughts that run through my head these days are like a rant. A long-winded rant. A rant that ranges from my latest obsession with schooling options, to philosophical thoughts about motherhood and sacrifice, to aging parents, and finally around to getting some brown colored shoes. What’s wrong with me? Why have I become so incoherent – in my own thoughts?! I feel the onset of dementia sometimes.It’s no doubt, motherhood has made me a worrywart, about everyt … [Read more...]

Tips for Teaching Quran to Young Children

The responsibility of teaching young children the Quran is a heavy weight on my shoulders. I imagine most Muslim parents feel this way.Part of my discomfort is that we are a non-Arabic speaking family. For years both my husband and I have struggled to memorize the Quran. I remind my self daily, despite the circumstances, that every Muslim is obliged to make attempts to learn and understand the book of Allah (swt) in the best way possible. I tell my five-year-old son and three-year-old … [Read more...]

Stay At Home Moms

Stay at home moms. Hmm, I wonder where this term came from. I think it's supposed to refer to moms who are out of the work force, who are the main caregivers of their children, and whose primary job it is to manage their homes. I've been a "stay at home" mom since I jumped off the career track when my first child was born about 8 years ago.For a brief time, I tried to be a "work at home" mom, but an inability to concentrate – or even finish a thought – got the better of me. As the years pas … [Read more...]

Sunshine

Looking back now it’s funny to think that by my mid-twenties I had thought that all my exciting firsts were behind me.  However in the past 2.5 years I’ve experienced a lot of firsts that have pushed all my other firsts to second place.  Getting married, my first home, my first child and inevitably, my first emotional moment as a mother.I was singing to my little girl while changing her, "You are my sunshine, my only sunshine.  You make me happy when skies are grey.  You’ll never know dear, … [Read more...]

That Feeling

The feeling had been with me from the start of the day: that something exciting was going to happen, though for the life of me I couldn’t figure out what it was.So in the car we all piled, with both babies fed and changed, and headed for the medical center. We got to the ophthalmology department and my husband checked in. By then I was feeling really silly, wondering why on earth I had felt the need to escort my husband to an eye exam, pushing the twins in their double stroller and making a s … [Read more...]

Underdosing

It’s a cruel rite of passage that most new parents experience during their first year on the job. Having escaped the trial with my first, I was put to the test with my second child.At around midnight, I heard my 10-month-old daughter crying in a way that told me she was not just turning over or wanting an extra cuddle. Something sounded wrong and sure enough, she was burning up. I promptly went to the medicine cabinet, took out the infant Tylenol and gave her the dose listed on the bottle.  By … [Read more...]