Archives for October 2011

Growmama Picks for October 2011

Growmama Picks is a collection of fun, interesting, and/or inspiring links that we share with you at the end of every month. Enjoy! 1. We are in the middle of the ten days of Dhul hijjah. Make the most of these short moments!2. Rules of Effortless Parenting is short, unique, and almost perfect parenting advice in a nutshell.3. For mothers who have ever lost a child or have been separated from loved ones, this video explores loss from a spiritual perspective.4. These mini-tafseer books … [Read more...]

A Halloween Conversation

Because my kids are homeschooled, the pressure around holidays is not as intense. But when the neighbors in our new neighborhood went all out and decorated their home with pumpkins, ghosts hanging in the trees, and a two-story, inflatable Frankenstein, I knew this was the year we would talk about Halloween. My children are very fond of their next-door playmate, a little boy the same age as my oldest first-grader.“Why is Ryan’s house all decorated?”A few days earlier, I enjoyed a visit wit … [Read more...]

Orthodox Diversity

I live in what is labeled, "the safest city in America"- although I'm not leaving my doors unlocked based on this recognition. After living on our little cul-de-sac, I'm convinced that this may be one of the most religiously diverse cities in this nation. Our street seats six homes, each with a family practicing a different religion. Initially when we moved here we were excited to get new playmates for our kids but we sensed apprehension from our neighbors. So we sat back and let the kids work … [Read more...]

The Best Innate Quality

Has it occurred to you that in children’s fashion, as the size gets bigger the clothes get skimpier? As a mom to two young girls, my biggest challenge has been to find clothes that compliment the innate nature of our children – which is to be modest. Due to the images that are flashed across shopping centers, magazines and television channels, children are quickly becoming desensitized and get mixed messages when their inner being wants them to behave a certain way but the world around them doe … [Read more...]

GrowMama Roundup: Approaching Halloween

We asked a couple of our awesome mamas: How does your family approach Halloween season?  Following are their responses.S wrote: We, as a parent group at school,  request that the teacher have a Fall Harvest Celebration rather than Halloween. The primary reason is that the costumes are scary for little ones and the educational value is limited. Also, there are families that do not participate in the practice of Halloween.  Many parents of all backgrounds like the idea, especially since we do a … [Read more...]

Waiting

I have to admit, it’s been hard to find inspiration lately. Part of it has to do with saying farewell to Ramadan. Another part of me feels like I’m waiting; waiting for a creative genius inside me to flourish, a travel expedition, or meeting a person I can connect with easily. I feel like I have been in this funk for a while. Maybe it’s because the past three years were so new and exciting: new job, marriage, daughter.I constantly find myself asking, “What now?” The answer is puzzling. Like o … [Read more...]

The First Time

October is Domestic Violence Awareness month. Not having seen much about domestic violence come out of the Muslim community, I decided it was time to share my story. I chose to write this essay anonymously to protect my children from the pain of my experience and also out of a sense of shame for my perpetrator. He is the father of my daughter and even after all these years I do not want to expose or humiliate him. Whether this is my weakness or strength I will leave for Allah (swt) to … [Read more...]

Taking my 20-month-old to the Grocery Store

          Sometimes our toddlers surprise us and teach us more about patience than we thought possible.  I took my 20 month old to the grocery store today and he surprisingly behaved himself and didn’t have a temper tantrum when I picked up a box of oatmeal chocolate cookies and told him we had to wait to pay for it first before he can eat it.I mean, yes, in the span of 15 minutes he said ‘latta’ (short form for ‘chocolata’) about 15 times; nonetheless, he waited without screaming and kicking … [Read more...]

My Cup Is Already Full

In focusing on my everyday life I find that I can unconsciously tune out the world around me.  Maybe I don’t check my e-mails or my Facebook page for a day or two, or don’t watch the news on TV.  I am not trying to be ignorant of what’s going on locally and globally, it just happens.  But I wonder sometimes if I am subconsciously tuning out.  I’d be lying if I said it didn’t feel good to “forget” about the suffering of others for a little while.  Why does it feel good?  Because when it comes to t … [Read more...]

Growmama Roundup: Raising bilingual children

We asked a few awesome mamas what approach, tools and resources they use to raise their children to be bilingual (specifically Arabic/English speaking).F says: "Before we had children, my husband and I tried to get into the habit of speaking to each other in Arabic, at least most of the time (took some effort esp since we both speak different dialects of Arabic with our parents and find English to be our stronger language). Once we had our first daughter, we made sure to speak to her in … [Read more...]