Archives for 2011

When Little Ones Worry

I have been struggling for a while with my little girl. She cries everyday when I leave her for Kindergarten. In fact, she cried all summer at the thought of starting Kindergarten. Since birth, spending time away from mom has been very hard on my daughter. She worries about things that many young children don’t seem to think about. For example, this year, on the first day of school she asked her brother, “Are there lots of hard tests in Kindergarten?” Knowing my daughter’s nature, I insisted that … [Read more...]

If I Could Tell You One Thing…

Flipping through a copy of Parenting magazine, I came across an article in which staff, readers, and a handful of writers were asked, ‘What is the one life lesson you want to pass on to your child?’  The question made me think about my life and what I have learned, and the ways in which I learned them.  Life lessons are often learned through mistakes, far too often our own.  I am the type of parent who loses sleep worrying about whether I am adequately preparing my child for the “real world.”  My … [Read more...]

GrowMama Roundup: Prayer Time and Children

We asked some of our mamas, "How do you teach your child to pray?" Following are their inspiring answers.  Please share with us what has worked with you!SM writes:I've always encouraged the kids to join us for prayer. Even if they just come to sit and play with a toy. At around 5 yrs old I actively start saying the words of salah during play time, bedtime, or in the car. Especially the tahiyat. That seems to be the hardest for them. I also, slightly raise my voice during the sunnah … [Read more...]

Silent Giants

I was recently listening to a series on great women in Islam, and was struck by the great names among scholars who were raised by single moms. Al-Bukhari, Imam Shafi’i, and others set off on their paths of greatness because of decisions made by their mothers. These women were so focused and hardworking that they resolved not to remarry in order to instead devote themselves entirely to their children. They are the silent makers of history, who took little credit for their effort and are never m … [Read more...]

6 Inspiring Jewels On Remaining Patient With Our Kids

        We all have our moments.  You finally get a chance to go to the bathroom and no sooner do you close the door than you hear a little fist pounding on the bathroom door, "I have to use it."You remind your "strong-willed" 12-year-old to put away his basket of clothes.  "I'm not doing it," he responds.     When our children do things or respond to us in ways that make us want to lash out at them, that's the time for us to withhold our actions rather than act upon our emotions.  Hitting ou … [Read more...]

All American Reality TV Show

A new unscripted show about a handful of Muslim families from Dearborn premiered on TLC this weekend. Like many other American Muslims, I waited anxiously for the show “All American Muslim,” hoping it would put a more human face on our community through a mainstream media outlet. I watched patiently as one Arab family after another introduced themselves and tried to highlight how their multiple identities shaped their everyday lives. Just a few minutes into the show, my Facebook and Twitter new … [Read more...]

Sleepless in Suburbia

         I used to be known as the “log”. Once I fell asleep, I was out cold. It would take forever to wake me up, and I could sleep for hours on end.That all changed once I became a parent. Now my husband and I will be lucky if we can get through even half the night with unbroken, solid slumber. Our kids love coming into our bed at night and look for any excuse to sleep with us. Even though we have a king size bed, it is not meant for four individuals to sleep on it at once.We have come … [Read more...]

The Water of Zamzam

For most of us, Zamzam water is a novelty. It is stored in a special container at the back of the fridge and rationed out to family members in small quantities so as to not diminish the supply quickly. During our recent trip to Saudi Arabia, we made it a point that throughout our stay we will not drink anything but Zamzam water. We had to purchase drinking water anyway, so why not buy the best and noblest of all waters? I would like to believe that, after Allah’s will, the other thing that kept u … [Read more...]

In the Footsteps of Hajar and Mariam

We are a few days away from celebrating Eid al-Adha. It is a day in which we commemorate Prophet Ibrahim’s sacrifice to Allah (swt). Prophet Ibrahim as well as his family were tested with extremely difficult tribulations. His first wife, Sarah, could not bear children until she had become very old and then had her son, Isaac. Prophet Ibrahim was denounced by his own father, thrown into a blazing fire, left his second wife and only son at that time (Ismael) out in the desert, and also had a r … [Read more...]

Growmama Picks for October 2011

Growmama Picks is a collection of fun, interesting, and/or inspiring links that we share with you at the end of every month. Enjoy! 1. We are in the middle of the ten days of Dhul hijjah. Make the most of these short moments!2. Rules of Effortless Parenting is short, unique, and almost perfect parenting advice in a nutshell.3. For mothers who have ever lost a child or have been separated from loved ones, this video explores loss from a spiritual perspective.4. These mini-tafseer books … [Read more...]