Guilt and The Secret Formula

As parents, one of our deepest, most powerful desires in life is to raise our children to be God-fearing, principled, and successful in every sense of the word. Perhaps that is why motherhood is one of the most guilt-ridden jobs on earth. The sight of spoiled lettuce in the fridge or dirty fingernails is enough to make you feel like the worst mom ever. You just can’t escape the guilt—and when you do, you will find it in another’s eyes and hear it in her voice.Subjects like schooling, health d … [Read more...]

Making Family Time Happen

As a working mother (though currently on maternity leave) and a devoted wife, making time for family used to feel rushed and forced. We were just too busy with everything else going on around us. We would leave the house without breakfast and go to bed each at different times. It was clear we had to make some changes, but not so clear how. Over time, I’ve found the following to help us a great deal, and I hope inshallah in sharing it would benefit others as well.Professional home cleaners. I … [Read more...]

Hearts and Homes

 Abu Yusuf 'Abdullah ibn Salam said, "I heard the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, say, 'O people! make the greeting common practice, provide food, maintain ties of kinship and pray while people are asleep and you will enter the Garden in safety.'" [at-Tirmidhi] After hearing this Hadith, I realized that the one thing our Ummah is losing and needs to hold on to is the act of feeding people. I see this Hadith in clear light as I notice how few people open their hearts … [Read more...]

Growmama Picks for November 2011

Growmama Picks is a collection of fun, interesting, and/or inspiring links that we share with you at the end of every month. Enjoy!This post breaks down empathy into four steps so it is teachable to young children.Two bloggers give a personal, heartfelt glimpse into the challenges that mothers of special needs children face in navigating the Muslim community. Read this post on attending an eid celebration and this one on dealing with the preconceptions of quick-to-judge … [Read more...]

When Little Ones Worry

I have been struggling for a while with my little girl. She cries everyday when I leave her for Kindergarten. In fact, she cried all summer at the thought of starting Kindergarten. Since birth, spending time away from mom has been very hard on my daughter. She worries about things that many young children don’t seem to think about. For example, this year, on the first day of school she asked her brother, “Are there lots of hard tests in Kindergarten?” Knowing my daughter’s nature, I insisted that … [Read more...]

If I Could Tell You One Thing…

Flipping through a copy of Parenting magazine, I came across an article in which staff, readers, and a handful of writers were asked, ‘What is the one life lesson you want to pass on to your child?’  The question made me think about my life and what I have learned, and the ways in which I learned them.  Life lessons are often learned through mistakes, far too often our own.  I am the type of parent who loses sleep worrying about whether I am adequately preparing my child for the “real world.”  My … [Read more...]


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