Rotten Oranges

Pfffft! My eighteen-month-old son, Ibrahim, spit an orange slice out of his mouth. A few seconds later, my husband, brother in law, and I spit ours out too, realizing that the orange tasted rotten. “How did Ibrahim realize that the orange was bad before us?” I wondered out loud. “I guess babies can sense when something isn’t right,” my husband answered.This incident stuck with me all evening. It reminded me that we are born with a natural instinct, or fitrah, to do right. Our fitrah innately … [Read more...]

Guilt- A Very Powerful Feeling

I hate feeling guilty. It’s a gut-wrenching feeling of disappointment that I let someone down, that someone is upset at me. It’s a powerful feeling that gets hold of me and can make my mind spin in ten different directions. It makes me read people’s faces to make sure they aren’t too angry at something I may or may not have done. It makes me say extra sweet words (even if they were the ones who initiated the altercation), just to make the situation better. It makes me feel bad about myself. The … [Read more...]

Does Mama Know Best?

His eyes bulged, his jaw dropped, and he clapped his hands excitedly as he jumped up and down. And this was all before I took it out of the box. I had just bought my seventeen-month-old son, Ibrahim, a talking, singing Elmo. When I opened the box, Ibrahim grabbed Elmo and hugged him. They’ve been practically inseparable since. Elmo eats with him, sleeps with him, rides his toy car with him, and even takes medicine with him. Ibrahim was in love.When I saw Elmo at the store, I knew Ibrahim w … [Read more...]

Eid Mubarak from GrowMama

Eid ul-Fitr commemorates the end of our blessed month of Ramadan. May we be granted the reward of Ramadan, and may God accept all our worship and charity. On the day of Eid al-Fitr, Imam Ali bin Abi Talib (peace be upon him) delivered a sermon in which he said:   "O people! Verily this day of yours is the day when the righteous are awarded and the wretched are losers. It is a day which is similar to the one on which you shall be standing (before your Lord). Therefore, when you come out of you … [Read more...]

Ya Qaafidu, Ya Raafiu

Indeed All praises are for You, My Lord. May Your Peace and Blessings be upon our Beloved Rasool.Today Ya Allah, I reach for you in the lowest of health. Ya Qaafidu do not abase me. Ya Raafiu elevate me to a high honor. Let me be one who is oft loving and pleasing to You in intention, word and action. Give me the breath, knowledge and strength to serve You as a mother, daughter, sister, neighbor and however You see fit. Show me how to use my skills to be one of your beloved. Teach me … [Read more...]

A Letter to Ramadan

I had just finished putting the baby down for his nap sheepishly awaiting some scream free time when my four year old exclaimed, “What can we do now?” It's her most oft repeated question and it often feels like my well has run dry of ideas. I gave her a blank stare for about a minute and thought to myself that I can sit her in front of the computer and have her play a PBS kids game or really try to take advantage of the moment. I started towards the construction paper and told her we'd write a le … [Read more...]

GrowBaba Spotlight: Six Things The Husband Of A Homeschooler Should Never Do

Join us this month of May as we highlight the vast world of education through our contributors and guest writers. Join in on the conversation by submitting your own piece to growmama@gmail.com. We welcome all viewpoints on this special topic. DON'T add to her stress DO figure out ways to relieve her stress DON'T Compare your children with other children DO compare your child to their own abilities DON’T Ask her why the house is not clean or why the food is not cooked. DO co … [Read more...]

Coming Up: May is Education Month on Grow Mama

ed·u·ca·tion:n. (ĕj′ə-kā′shən): the knowledge, skill, and understanding that you get from attending a school, college, or university.Merriam Webster could not encompass the world of education in the span of a one line definition, and it continues to be a hot topic for millions of people.GrowMama is taking a look at it this month with a series on all things education. Join the conversation and consider contributing a piece to our blog. Email us at growmama@gmail.com.“Play is often … [Read more...]

Cupcakes for Two

I hated who I was when I became a mother for the first time. I was angry, low, stressed and I did not take care of myself mentally, spiritually or physically. I remember it being tough time for me and my marriage. I had become a negative person and pushed away a lot of family members. I fought with my husband daily. My daughter was born 2 months premature and I think I read too many books that made me paranoid. I hated listening to advice from family members and just wanted to “break free” from … [Read more...]

Recovering Lost Connections

I recently returned from a wedding where, for the first time, I made some observations from the lens of a mother. The groom was busy enjoying time with his bride, as usual, while his mom gracefully stood aside. After some time, he left to go to the men's party when his mother noticed he had forgotten to eat his meal. So she picked up his plate and ran after him, heals, ball gown, and all. It hit me. All too often, we overlook the fact that even though we may let our connection and consideration … [Read more...]