The Woman I Met

I met you in the park today.You were playing with a little girl, who looked to be your grand daughter. You asked me where I was from, then told me you were from out of town, taking care of the little two-year-old, while her dad was in the hospital, dying of brain cancer.You said it so matter-of-factly, I could tell you were way past grieving.He was only 34 years old, and the cancer had been in remission for 7 years, but had come back 4 months ago. This little girl was his only child, … [Read more...]

Building Up: A Reflection on Adoption

My husband and I didn’t know that attending the charity event benefitting orphans in the community and abroad would dramatically affect the way we viewed building up our family. We generally jump at the opportunity to sponsor orphans or donate to institutions that provide care and support for them. In part this is due to the strong encouragement in Islam to care for orphans, as the prophet Muhammad stressed it so much that even his poorest companions would be among the first to come to the aid o … [Read more...]

The Right Choice, His & Mine

My 12 year old stood before me at the very start of the weekend and announced quite matter-of-factly, “I’m not going back to school.” I stopped myself from forming an angry retort and decided to ignore the comment. I figured by the end of the weekend that whatever had instigated his remark will have dissipated.But all weekend long, every time I reminded his siblings to complete their homework, he’d say “I’m not doing my homework, because I’m not going back to school,” or “I don’t have any any … [Read more...]

You Just Never Know

“I have to go.”  I blurted and quickly hung up.  I was sitting with a coffee in a shopping area, talking to my sister when I saw her.  She stared at me and I stared back, taking a couple of seconds to realize who she was.  “I thought it was you!” she said softly.  I got up to give her a hug.  She was Tammy, a former workplace mentor, and it had been more than five years since we had seen each other.  I  heard that she had gotten married and had a baby so I congratulated her only to find out that … [Read more...]

Book Review: Dwell In Tranquility

We are starting off our Grow Mama Book Club with the book,  Dwell In Tranquility An Islamic Road Map to the Vibrant Marriage ( by Kamal Shaarawy.Some of the most special gifts from Allah SWT are the ones He plops right in my lap. Recently, a dear friend sent me the book, Dwell in Tranquility An Islamic Road Map to the Vibrant Marriage. I smiled when I saw the author, Ustadh Kamal Shaarawy. He was well known in the community I had lived in previously for counseling Muslim … [Read more...]

Engendering American Values

"Would you like to buy some girl scout cookies?"For a hundred years, Girl Scouts have been asking this question with smiling faces- and one would be hard pressed to say "no" to any one of these uniformed diet-busters. As a veteran girl scout leader, I expect to have more than my share of (un)necessary calories each spring, but what I didn't expect was the additional rewards that come with scouting. For a mom of three boys and one girl, my daughter and I have found girl scouting to be the … [Read more...]