The Everyday Struggle

Motherhood has been bogging me down lately. Now that I've said it, I can hopefully move on. How can I work on elevating my role as a mother when I am dealing with a 4 year old who now qualifies everything as boring? What a boring home! You’re the boring-est mom. Playing with you is so boring! A big THANK YOU to whoever taught her that word. In the low points, I wonder where I went wrong in her upbringing. Maybe she’s (gasp)…spoiled. Maybe it’s just a phase. I hope it’s just a phase. Still, even t … [Read more...]

Begin with the Backyard

I have a well sustained reputation of being all thumbs in my garden and unfortunately, none of them are green!  Despite this fact, we decided to invest in a backyard garden and give ourselves and our children the invaluable experience of growing our own food. Perhaps it was because of my husband, who recently turned vegetarian or perhaps it was the beautiful spring weather in Northern California, or maybe even Michelle Obama's White House garden that everyone is talking about, but whatever the … [Read more...]

The Ultimate Gift

Growing up, I was a part of a big North Jersey Muslim community. There were Quran classes, sunday school, iftar parties, Ramadan and Eid prayers, and gatherings of all sorts at the masjid. On occasion, I would attended funeral prayers at our mosque. Sometimes it was for an older auntie or uncle I knew, but not too well. Sometimes it was for a stranger. In my carefree, unaffected, and apathetic youth, these funeral prayers were just another gathering. That all changed as I started to grow … [Read more...]

Grow Mama Blast from the Past: A Gallon of Milk Means Love

Last night was movie night in our house.  We were camped out on the bed, hubby on one side, me on the other, baby in between, with my oldest son teetering on the far edge while his brothers and sister came and went.  They were more interested in fighting space battles with plastic light sabers than watching a shoot-em-up bang-bang movie on TV.The movie was pure action adventure, with an unlikely hero pitted against a stereotypically evil bad guy.  At one point, Bad Guy tells Hero that he mu … [Read more...]

My Ramadan Guilt

I’ve never been to the masjid during Ramadan. It might sound unbelievable, but it’s true. Mother’s with small children might know what I am going through-  with the fasts being so long these past few years I find it almost impossible to get out of the house to go pray taraweeh. My daughter is six-years-old and while it may be arguable that she’s ready to be attending the masjid, I just don’t see how it’s possible. And that is what gives me “Ramadan Guilt” almost every year. I’ve read several ar … [Read more...]

The Ramadan Sale

I love a good sale.  When I had my second daughter I started what has become a close and personal relationship with online shopping.  I was able to try things on in the privacy of my own home and when things didn’t work out I simply returned them.  But most of all the deals were great.  I reassured my husband on more than one occasion that I was saving money, not spending it. But I’ve stopped online shopping now.  I’ve given up online sales for an even better sale: Ramadan.  Siraj Wahhaj once sa … [Read more...]

Celebrate Ramadan in the Prophet’s Way

Everyone knows that Ramadan is full of blessings and benefits for our minds, bodies, and souls. Even the little ones are aware of how special this month is. They eagerly want to get involved in the planning and preparing for all the festivities, participate in fasting, and join in the prayers and gatherings in the mosque. If we make it exciting and welcoming for them now, they will grow with beautiful memories of Ramadan being full of happiness, blessings, and togetherness. Some simple ways to … [Read more...]

Cave of Solitude

The other day a friend of mine was lamenting the fact that she was unable to fast this Ramadan because she is nursing her three-month-old baby. She remarked that because of that and her other demands as a mother of five she was finding it difficult to catch the Ramadan spirit. It reminded me of the first Ramadan I was unable to fast. I had a two-month-old son and was breastfeeding. As the blessed month approached I felt a little sad and confused as to how to capture the feeling of spiritual … [Read more...]

The Ramadan Spirit

It's that time of year. One can sense the adrenalin rushing in to get things in place, to buy gifts and groceries, to stuff freezers with samosas and kababs, to get the house in order, all so that we can focus on getting our spirits ready for Ramadan. In the focused frenzy to prepare our homes, our families and ourselves, I've noticed a lot of folks decide to put education on the shelf for the whole month. Yes, this blessed month of Ramadan is a time for self reflection and remembrance of God, … [Read more...]

GrowMama Picks for Ramadan

1. Here are some fun Ramadan crafts your family will enjoy.2. Kids getting restless? Here are even more Ramadan activities to keep them entertained.3. Here is an inspiring post from a mom who didn't let her inability to fast stop her from reaping rewards.4. Enjoy these recipe ideas for all your Ramadan meals, from suhoor to iftar.5. Don't miss your chance to get your hands on these great Ramadan books for kids.6. You'll be surprised to learn what kids find most enjoyable. Re … [Read more...]