Reassurance from Fear

I have always been scared. Growing up, my peers would never have guessed. Valedictorian of my high school and undergraduate classes, cross country and crew team medalist, and voted Most Likely to Succeed, I certainly did not seem scared. But I was terrified.I remember after my first day in the grade six Gifted Program, I sat on the stairs, crying, and told my mom that I did not belong in the program because I couldn't understand algebra. Fast forward over ten years later, I came home to my … [Read more...]

The Missing Pieces

It is not an overstatement or a generalization to say that all cultures put mothers on pedestals. Motherhood is, by all standards, sacred. In Islam, we use the hadith “paradise lies at the feet of mothers” not only to remind people to obey and serve their mothers, but also to motivate women to become mothers and to encourage us to remain patient and stick it out. Motherhood is supposedly natural and instinctive, yet many challenges that come with the job, such as doubt, guilt, exhaustion and anx … [Read more...]

God’s Mercy and Times of Hardship

Allah (swt) is more merciful to His believing slaves than a mother is to her child. I love my daughter, almost to a fault. The crinkle of her eyes when she laughs, the way her lips curve downwards when she is asleep. The new words she learns daily and the mischief she always seems to get into. She reminds me of her Baba, may Allah have mercy on him. But I sometimes make decisions that cause her distress. I take things away from her that I know will cause her harm. Not everything is a toy, not … [Read more...]

Preparing to Excel in Ramadan

The doors of heaven are open while the doors of hellfire are closed. The devils are tied up while Allah increases your rewards in multiples for every good that you do. It really is the most blessed time of the year; it is Ramadan. It is a time of revival for everyone – those who have been practicing for years, those who have just come to realize the beauty of feeling close to Allah and those who may have not fully realized that beauty yet. Ramadan is truly a golden opportunity, as many have had t … [Read more...]

Breathing Space

Often times we find ourselves overscheduled and tired, shuttling ourselves or our children from one appointment to another, from one class to another, from one school to another with barely anytime to take a break. And the frightening part is that we are passing this on to our children: the need to be busy, to always have someplace to go and something to do. But as parents we are also afraid that if we do not fill our children’s time with meaningful, engaging and educational appointments, c … [Read more...]

A Private Sorrow

I have a sadness buried deep within my heart. It’s a private sorrow shared by many of us who don’t realize how we are ultimately connected, sisters in grief. Last year, just a week before Mother’s day, I had a miscarriage.I’m one of the lucky ones who has been already blessed with two children Alhumdulillah. Each time before, I got pregnant months, even weeks, within ‘deciding’ that we wanted a child. I was foolish and arrogant enough to think that it was up to us, specifically up to me, to t … [Read more...]

GrowBaba Spotlight: Dear Son, Make Your Bed

After years of nagging them, the other day I finally took the time to show my sons the actual steps it takes to make their bed. Predictably, my eight-year old popped the question which endlessly bewilders all human males regarding this most counter-intuitive daily chore: “butBaba, WHY should I make my bed?” Preceded by a long empathetic sigh, this daddy spelled out his fully confident, years-in-the-making answer: “Because son, I do it every morning and I know it makes your mother happy, so you ha … [Read more...]

How to Bridge the Gap with Your Child and Guide Them to College

This month, we highlighted the vast world of education through our contributors and guest writers. Thank you to all those that participated in this important conversation.  If you would like to become a contributor on GrowMama, please email us at growmama@gmail.com. College- synonym: freedom. synonym: loss.Some children only see college as a source of 'freedom': freedom from the 8-2:30 daily schedule of their lives, having to wear a uniform, or answering to a principal. Report cards are a … [Read more...]

A Word from my Son

 As I walked into the room filled with kids, “BOOM” went the RPG as the kid blew up his opponent’s head in “Call of Duty 2″ and screamed, “Hell yeah, that’s a streak of ten!” I was at someone’s house for dinner with my parents. It was just me- neither my brother or sister accompanied us this evening. We were one of the first guests to arrive and our host told me to go upstairs to the kids’ room where all the kids were hanging out. She didn’t introduce me to her son or show me where the room was, … [Read more...]

Grow Mama Blast from the Past : Making Choices in Schooling

Join us this month of May as we highlight the vast world of education through our contributors and guest writers. Join in on the conversation and submit your own piece to us at growmama@gmail.com. We welcome all viewpoints on this special topic. "O Humanity. Behold, We have created you out of a male and female, and have made you into nations and tribes so that you might come to know one another.” (49: 13) I have been taught that this verse from the Glorious Qur’an is a prescription for us to em … [Read more...]