Building Up: A Reflection on Adoption

My husband and I didn’t know that attending the charity event benefitting orphans in the community and abroad would dramatically affect the way we viewed building up our family. We generally jump at the opportunity to sponsor orphans or donate to institutions that provide care and support for them. In part this is due to the strong encouragement in Islam to care for orphans, as the prophet Muhammad stressed it so much that even his poorest companions would be among the first to come to the aid o … [Read more...]

Book Review: Dwell In Tranquility

We are starting off our Grow Mama Book Club with the book,  Dwell In Tranquility An Islamic Road Map to the Vibrant Marriage (www.livingeman.com) by Kamal Shaarawy.Some of the most special gifts from Allah SWT are the ones He plops right in my lap. Recently, a dear friend sent me the book, Dwell in Tranquility An Islamic Road Map to the Vibrant Marriage. I smiled when I saw the author, Ustadh Kamal Shaarawy. He was well known in the community I had lived in previously for counseling Muslim … [Read more...]

Engendering American Values

"Would you like to buy some girl scout cookies?"For a hundred years, Girl Scouts have been asking this question with smiling faces- and one would be hard pressed to say "no" to any one of these uniformed diet-busters. As a veteran girl scout leader, I expect to have more than my share of (un)necessary calories each spring, but what I didn't expect was the additional rewards that come with scouting. For a mom of three boys and one girl, my daughter and I have found girl scouting to be the … [Read more...]

Strive to Be Content Wherever You Are

Assalam Alaikum GrowMama Sisters,I recently reconnected with some dear family friends via email.  We both had to relocate for work related reasons from a large and vibrant Muslim community.  I shared our exchange with some fellow GMG moms and they thought it would be beneficial to share with our online community.Our friends write:Good hearing from you, how are you and the family? And how do you like it where you are? Have you guys adapted yet? We're still struggling a bit here. The Mu … [Read more...]

GrowMama Roundup: Asked By a Child

<img src="http://www.patheos.com/blogs/growmama/files/2012/01/curious-child1-201x300.jpg" alt="" title="curious-child1" width="201" height="300" class="alignleft size-medium wp-image-3727" /Ever been asked by a child why you wear that thing on your head? Seen a mother squirm and hush her child up? Wondered how much you could say without stepping on that mother's toes? How do you react in these situations? Here are three awesome … [Read more...]

Intentional Eating: Meat, Less

A dear friend and I were sitting around the kitchen table as our two children were slowly getting to know one another. These two toddlers, both not even two yet, have already shown certain preferences when it comes to their food. Squeals of joy abounded when the pomegranate seeds emerged as my daughter shouted, "Maan!" and hastily made her way to the center of the table, leaving her half eaten clementine behind. I wondered, and still continue to do so, about the amount of variety I offer my … [Read more...]

Where I Want To Be

Yesterday, I took my young daughters to ride the metro to Washington D.C. As we were standing by the tracks waiting for the train to come, I felt something hit my shoes, and I turned to see a blind man's cane, as he was sweeping it from side to side. He said, “Excuse me,” and walked on, stopping when he felt the raised bumps by the side of the tracks.He stood there, tall and proud, waiting like everyone else for the train. I jumped at the chance to make this a learning experience for my two d … [Read more...]

Hijab Party

I live in a small university town and we have established a very nice tradition here, Alhamdullilah. When our young sisters decide to start covering, we have an all girls’ celebration.  Each girl/mom brings a scarf of their own to share with the new hijabee. We have sweets and socializing followed by an interactive program. A few sisters demonstrate different ways to tie a headscarf and show how to match them up with outfits. The younger sisters are the models. The girls laugh and giggle as they … [Read more...]

Guilt and The Secret Formula

As parents, one of our deepest, most powerful desires in life is to raise our children to be God-fearing, principled, and successful in every sense of the word. Perhaps that is why motherhood is one of the most guilt-ridden jobs on earth. The sight of spoiled lettuce in the fridge or dirty fingernails is enough to make you feel like the worst mom ever. You just can’t escape the guilt—and when you do, you will find it in another’s eyes and hear it in her voice.Subjects like schooling, health d … [Read more...]

Hearts and Homes

 Abu Yusuf 'Abdullah ibn Salam said, "I heard the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, say, 'O people! make the greeting common practice, provide food, maintain ties of kinship and pray while people are asleep and you will enter the Garden in safety.'" [at-Tirmidhi] After hearing this Hadith, I realized that the one thing our Ummah is losing and needs to hold on to is the act of feeding people. I see this Hadith in clear light as I notice how few people open their hearts … [Read more...]