GrowBaba Spotlight: What’s your bike?

Wives tell us husbands to do so many things that we really don’t believe in or even understand. For a variety of reasons which us husbands are and are not willing to admit, we end up doing most of those things for our women. I can’t answer for all the husbands out there, but my own introspection about the trust my wife and I share lead me to an incident that happened about 3 years into my marriage.I was married young (I was 22 and she was yes, yikes 17 … we are still married 25 years later) a … [Read more...]

Scrambled Eggs, Bubblegum, and Sex

          This morning, over a relaxing weekend breakfast of scrambled eggs and tea with his mother and I, my 10-year-old was explaining to us that fourth grade is unlike third grade because now “everyone in fourth grade cusses.” He then added that, “they use all the cuss words like sh-- and a-- but the most common word is the F-word.” After a round of talking about what his own options are in such instances, he naturally then asked, "so what does the F-word mean anyway?" Without missing a beat, … [Read more...]

GrowBaba Spotlight: Take Money From Your Kids

I take money from my children. I checked around and others do it too. You should try it. Seriously, you should.Though there have been many with my older two boys, this was the first such incident with my youngest. Despite the slow taming of my internal torment from such incidents, I remain amazed at how intensely it still pulls at my heart.You see, towards the end of our family’s attendance at a local carnival this past Saturday, my nine-year-old son asked to purchase a $3 toy. His r … [Read more...]

GrowBaba Spotlight: Fatherhood, Level 2

THAT DAY in late December 2014, I felt a new sense of elation, bliss, contentment at a level which all of my fathering years had yet never felt before.Like it was yesterday, I remember the overwhelming, majestic very first very moment that each of my three boys entered this world. Like it was yesterday, I remember how it felt when my wife and only son (at the time) returned from their first vacation without me… like angels descending from heaven back into my life. I remember and savor these a … [Read more...]

GrowBaba Spotlight: Dear Son, Make Your Bed

After years of nagging them, the other day I finally took the time to show my sons the actual steps it takes to make their bed. Predictably, my eight-year old popped the question which endlessly bewilders all human males regarding this most counter-intuitive daily chore: “butBaba, WHY should I make my bed?” Preceded by a long empathetic sigh, this daddy spelled out his fully confident, years-in-the-making answer: “Because son, I do it every morning and I know it makes your mother happy, so you ha … [Read more...]

GrowBaba Spotlight: Six Things The Husband Of A Homeschooler Should Never Do

Join us this month of May as we highlight the vast world of education through our contributors and guest writers. Join in on the conversation by submitting your own piece to growmama@gmail.com. We welcome all viewpoints on this special topic. DON'T add to her stress DO figure out ways to relieve her stress DON'T Compare your children with other children DO compare your child to their own abilities DON’T Ask her why the house is not clean or why the food is not cooked. DO co … [Read more...]

GrowBaba Blast from the Past: My Mom Promised Me A Skyline

Growbaba spotlights provide a space for Muslim fathers to share their voice, reflections, and insights with our community.Let’s admit it folks, there is nothing more quenching to the embattled soul than long awaited sweet revenge. Don’t worry, no blood or terror here –though there are definitely battle scars.You see, back when this 44 year-old father of three was in 6th grade, they used to ask me, “how can you just stand there?” and “why don’t you fight back?.”Day after dreary Midwest … [Read more...]

GrowBaba Spotlight: Boys Don’t Have To Be Boys

Go right ahead. Don’t worry. We all pee sitting down here, so the toilets really are clean. Reluctantly but proudly, I now comfortably state what used to be a defensive awkward moment for me when friends or family generously allow me lead time to check our bathrooms before their use… or make gentle remarks or gestures about the presumed lack of cleanliness of our toilets because of the four males that live here: me and my three sons. Newsflash: boys really can always pee sitting down. As a fat … [Read more...]

GrowBaba Spotlight: A Push, a Jiggle and the Earthquake

"Baba, I didn’t do anything!" Yeah right. Every teen’s famous last words.Though my 14-year-old’s occasional hormonal / behavioral fireworks often lead me to think he is the cause of all evil in our household, yesterday I learned that’s simply not true. As his father, I realize I  need to get off his case more often.Back up to yesterday evening. He and I are sitting at the computer desk checking the NBA schedule and chatting. He got his fill and pushed  against the desk to get himself out … [Read more...]

GrowBaba Spotlight: If You Love Them, Set Them…Fishing

GrowBaba spotlights provide a space for Muslim fathers to share their voice, reflections, and insights with our community."Good-bye guys, I should be back around 10 pm."Not unfamiliar words to parents of an 18 year old. This time he’s off for some solo evening fishing. You see on this particular day, the Islamic holiday Eid, we offered each of our three kids their choice of how to spend the evening since the first half of the day was spent at prayer and with our extended family. The y … [Read more...]