GrowBaba Spotlight: Boys Don’t Have To Be Boys

Go right ahead. Don’t worry. We all pee sitting down here, so the toilets really are clean. Reluctantly but proudly, I now comfortably state what used to be a defensive awkward moment for me when friends or family generously allow me lead time to check our bathrooms before their use… or make gentle remarks or gestures about the presumed lack of cleanliness of our toilets because of the four males that live here: me and my three sons. Newsflash: boys really can always pee sitting down. As a fat … [Read more...]

GrowBaba Spotlight: A Push, a Jiggle and the Earthquake

"Baba, I didn’t do anything!" Yeah right. Every teen’s famous last words.Though my 14-year-old’s occasional hormonal / behavioral fireworks often lead me to think he is the cause of all evil in our household, yesterday I learned that’s simply not true. As his father, I realize I  need to get off his case more often.Back up to yesterday evening. He and I are sitting at the computer desk checking the NBA schedule and chatting. He got his fill and pushed  against the desk to get himself out … [Read more...]

GrowBaba Spotlight: If You Love Them, Set Them…Fishing

GrowBaba spotlights provide a space for Muslim fathers to share their voice, reflections, and insights with our community."Good-bye guys, I should be back around 10 pm."Not unfamiliar words to parents of an 18 year old. This time he’s off for some solo evening fishing. You see on this particular day, the Islamic holiday Eid, we offered each of our three kids their choice of how to spend the evening since the first half of the day was spent at prayer and with our extended family. The y … [Read more...]

GrowBaba Spotlight: Ticket to Paradise

The day was Sunday April 2, 2006.  It was like any other Sunday, except that it was during the height of tax season, and I was over two hundred miles away from home, in a conference that I did not want to attend, listening to speakers that I did not care to hear.There were only two speeches left before I could finally return home and get back to work.  It was then, at the peak of my boredom, that the penultimate speaker took to the podium. He said that the Prophet Muhammad once saw a man p … [Read more...]

Grow Baba Spotlight: The Visiting Professor

I often feel guilty when it comes to my kids. I know I don’t spend enough time with them.  And when I am with them, I still feel that guilt because despite my initial spike of excitement at seeing them, I realize I don't actually want to spend time with them. I prefer to sit on the couch and surf the web. I mean there is a lot of really important research that needs to be done. Should I get the Galaxy s3 or the iPhone?  And, of course, I need to catch up with my friends on Facebook and see what t … [Read more...]

GrowBaba Spotlight: Hold My Hand

GrowBaba spotlights provide a space for Muslim fathers to share their voice, reflections, and insights with our community.We were crossing a busy Los Angeles street together. Half-way through the intersection, he held my hand and we calmly crossed the rest of the intersection. I was 38 and he was my father.A few years have passed since then, yet that feeling never went away. Folks, I actually liked holding my father’s hand. The problem is that it bugged me that I liked it. It bugged me t … [Read more...]


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