Sleepless in Suburbia

         I used to be known as the “log”. Once I fell asleep, I was out cold. It would take forever to wake me up, and I could sleep for hours on end.That all changed once I became a parent. Now my husband and I will be lucky if we can get through even half the night with unbroken, solid slumber. Our kids love coming into our bed at night and look for any excuse to sleep with us. Even though we have a king size bed, it is not meant for four individuals to sleep on it at once.We have come … [Read more...]

The First Time

October is Domestic Violence Awareness month. Not having seen much about domestic violence come out of the Muslim community, I decided it was time to share my story. I chose to write this essay anonymously to protect my children from the pain of my experience and also out of a sense of shame for my perpetrator. He is the father of my daughter and even after all these years I do not want to expose or humiliate him. Whether this is my weakness or strength I will leave for Allah (swt) to … [Read more...]

Changing Hats

 I’ll be honest, it might not show but working away from my family eats away at me. Especially in the early months of motherhood, it pained me to leave my daughter behind. Now that she is more independent, the burden of my working has shifted slightly from causing me self-inflicted pain, to being verbalized by my daughter who pleads with me not to go to work every morning. For a while I thought no good would come to my family as a result of my job, and that working was an entirely selfish en … [Read more...]

Fathers and Sons

My life revolves around building blocks and sticky hands, plastic cars and before-bed giggles, snack time sweets and wind-up trains, and days and nights immersed in the mind of a just turned two year old. Since my son was born I have been exploring this role called ‘mother’, trying to seek out my way, stumbling often, frustrated often, but always aware of the huge blessing and huge responsibility that comes wrapped up in the tiny package of my little boy.I want for him all the good that I’v … [Read more...]

16 Lessons From 6 Month Old Parents

1) You don't need a ridiculous amount of money saved in order to have a child. Allah has opened so many doors for us right after our daughter was born and this has been observed by many other parents as well. 2) It is not socially acceptable to describe the size or consistency of your baby's dirty diaper in public.3) Parenting while plugged in is an oxymoron. We've been trying to be mindful of how often we are with our child physically, but not mentally. Children will know that they will … [Read more...]

A Desert at Home

"Maryam, what do you want to take with you to Tata’s house today: your laptop or baby?" I asked my 1.5 year old. Yes, she already has a toy laptop and even though I consider her my baby, she already has a baby doll of her own. Today she chose the baby. SubhanAllah, she already has motherly qualities about her. She cares for its hat, gives it a blanket to sleep with, and pushes it in a stroller appropriate for both of their sizes.Like many parents we want to provide our daughter with all the e … [Read more...]


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