Remembrance

I've have always known that I have a terrible memory.  Now, after having two children, I sometimes wish it were better. I wish I can commit to memory how elated they looked when they took that first step, or how high their voice was when they said their first word, or that look of surprise on their face at the first taste of sweet, frosty ice cream.  Nonetheless, I have come to the realization that my weak memory has actually been a blessing for me.It took a long time to reach this part of m … [Read more...]

Heartbreak

You know that feeling. That once in a while feeling that "I've got this under control." I'm on time, ticking off items on a checklist, there’s a bounce in my step, I have the right attitude, and everything's where it's supposed to be. Except when it's not.I lump all the times when life does not feel right under the category of 'heartbreak.' I've been here quite often, and the more years that go by, the more forms of it I recognize. It comes and goes, sometimes visiting for an unpleasantly l … [Read more...]

In Remembrance of a Life

Cleaning out my closet, I reach up to the top shelf and my hand hits a bag. I pull the bag down and reach in to see what’s inside and pull out a periwinkle-colored scarf. I hold the scarf in my hand and stare at it with a small smile. Whisper-thin, light as air, yet within the folds of that scarf there is a story, and within that story is a life.2003. My wedding day is fast approaching. After several months of looking and trying on and being dissatisfied, I find the perfect wedding outfit: a … [Read more...]

Discovering Your Passion, Fulfilling Your Life Vision

How many of us dream of having the most righteous and successful family? How many of us envision ourselves making a profound difference in the world? How many of us ultimately dream of the highest level in Jannah, Al-Firdaws?Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him was indeed one of the forerunners in teaching us about great ambition and doing all we can with ihsan (excellence).He (peace be upon him) was the first to encourage us to dream bigger as he says: “If you ask for jannah, then … [Read more...]

A House Concert

We recently attended a house concert by singer Dawud Wharnsby, hosted by our friends who graciously opened up their living room to more than twenty families. The radiant atmosphere and top-notch entertainment were second only to the faces of children rapt with attention.I'll try hard not to gush here, but our family was touched by the evening. It was refreshing to finally meet the down-to-earth, gentle entertainer who can make the audience laugh and sing and cry within the span of a few … [Read more...]

Dirty socks

When my older kids head off to school, I start my other job - the dirty sock picker. I try to look at the bright side while doing this job - keeping my tongue moving in the remembrance of Allah (swt) or simply working out things in my head, keeping my mind busy. I am not perfect though and, sometimes, I do not see the glass half-full and can almost watch my life pass away as I pick up dirty socks, clothes, toys, and anything else that can be thrown on the floor. And on a bad day, the resentment … [Read more...]

Strive to Be Content Wherever You Are

Assalam Alaikum GrowMama Sisters,I recently reconnected with some dear family friends via email.  We both had to relocate for work related reasons from a large and vibrant Muslim community.  I shared our exchange with some fellow GMG moms and they thought it would be beneficial to share with our online community.Our friends write:Good hearing from you, how are you and the family? And how do you like it where you are? Have you guys adapted yet? We're still struggling a bit here. The Mu … [Read more...]

Center Stage

I have known all along that my relationship with Allah was not as strong as it could be. We know that according to the hadith of the prophet Muhammad (S) the highest level of faith is to live life as though you can see Allah, and if you can’t see Him, then to know that He sees you. So is He an actor in my life, or just an observer, or occasionally not in my consciousness at all? I thought I understood what I had to do to better cultivate our relationship: be sincere in my prayer, try to shed t … [Read more...]

Come To Allah….Come To Allah

“Allahu Akbar, Allahu Akbar…..”The beauty of the words of the adhan and the voice of my dear son as he beckons us to pray are familiar sounds in our home on any given day. Today, however, I am stopped in my tracks!In the process of donning my hijab, a shrill little voice also beckons…..“Allahu Akbar, Allahu Akbar……Come To Allah, Come To Allah!”My 2 1/2 year old daughter calls “come to Allah”. Her innocent but attentive mind has mistakenly combined the iqamah with the adhan, replac … [Read more...]

The Woman who Chose Allah

How do you explain to your six-year old daughter why she was born blind?  What do you say to console your autistic ten year old when she complains no one wants to be her friend?  How do you comfort your 14-year-old son when he knows the reason he can’t read beyond the first grade level is that he has moderate retardation?The story of the woman promised paradise might help explain to your beloved son or daughter the answer to questions such as these. This beautiful hadith in narrated by Ata bi … [Read more...]