Dandelion Parenting

Many years ago when I was in college,  I was pregnant.  It was in a child psychology class that I came to the realization of how big the task ahead of me really was.  I was having a baby... A BABY!  Was I really ready?  As if reading my mind my professor asked us, "Why do we have children?"  The question caught me off guard.  He went on, "Why do we, as humans, have babies?"  No one could say anything at first.  Someone responded, "to reproduce, out of instinct," another said "to have a … [Read more...]

Sadness, Depression, and Prophet Musa (as)

I was sitting at home a while ago, the third day into the Snowmageddon of 2010, the third day of not really talking to anyone but my two little ones, with the husband traveling and trips to my parents’ home eliminated because of the grand storm. I tend to get a bit sad, depressed when I'm alone like that, but alhamdulillah I was holding up fairly well during those days. A few nights later, I was trying to memorize some lines from Surat al Qasas, and read over the story of Prophet Moses (as) … [Read more...]

Blissful Moments

What is the meaning of joy? Does it mean you can eat ice cream all day or fill your shoes with sand from the playground as many times as you like? Or maybe it means to swing till you are truly exhausted? Or does it mean you are gifted with a special talent or an exclusive handmade dress? Baking cookies each Friday? Looking forward to the month of Ramadan? Joy is to be found in the small and oh so rich things. True joy can always be found whether one is tall, short, young,old, rich or poor. We … [Read more...]

Al-Kawthar

You never know when something will strike you differently.  I know surah al-Kawthar and recite it fairly often.  As a mom with young kids running about I am often forced to resort to very short surahs in my prayers, and it doesn't get much shorter than this one: 1. Verily, We have granted you (O Muhammad) Al-Kauthar (a river in Paradise) 2. Therefore turn in prayer to your Lord and sacrifice. 3. For he who makes you angry - he will be cut off. I recite it and go on.  But this … [Read more...]

Freethinking Muslim

Freethinking and Muslim? Really? May the peace and blessings of Allah be upon everyone reading this post no matter your religion, value system or viewpoint. Yesterday I decided, just out of curiosity to do a Google search on 'Freethinking and Muslim'. I am sad to say that it produced a shameful mix of hate and confusion. Then I decided to modify the search to 'freethinking Muslim'. Unfortunately the results were not much better. I found a blog that claimed that the Golden Age of Islam, during … [Read more...]

Why Do You Wear It?

For Muslim women who are wearing hijab, hoping to put it on, thinking of taking it off or already have, watching the media put their spin on hijab is surreal. Class, politics, oppression, suppression, economic status, religious superiority, intellectual inferiority, modesty, shame, pride—it’s all been said. The more layers are piled on, the more complicated hijab seems. So, why do you wear that scarf? I’ve been asked that question a hundred times, but sometimes still fumble … [Read more...]

Resentment or Reward?

I have a vision of how I want to earn the pleasure of Allah (swt). This vision is filled with intensive learning, spiritual halaqas, and being in the company of those who fill me with His remembrance. I yearn for a deeper understanding of the Qur'an, learning the etymology of the rich Arabic words that are pregnant with meaning. I dream of going abroad, praying fajr in different masaajid, sitting at the feet of learned scholars, going from one spiritual high to the next. I find myself … [Read more...]

To Him we belong, and to Him is our return.

Being pregnant was a surreal experience for me. I had never liked pets. You probably can’t see the connection between pets and pregnancy, but for a person who was never comfortable around little living, breathing creatures with anatomies that differed from mine, a slight stretch of the imagination is all you need to see what I mean. Plus the two were almost totally absent from my childhood. So when I felt the baby kick, and later hiccup, bend her elbows, and stretch her legs, I was in awe of … [Read more...]

Jannah

Tears streamed down my little ones eyes as they said goodbye to their grandparents yet another time. I gave them a hug and whispered reassuringly, “There are no goodbyes in Jannah.” Jannah. Heaven. Paradise. My absolute favorite discussion topic with young children. When a child is able to understand the concept of Jannah they have reached a very important milestone. They know the end game. Their life has direction. They begin to understand that serving Allah SWT is an essential component … [Read more...]

Remembering the Goal

Before getting married, marriage was all we thought about. We thought about it while attending conventions, walking to class, in class, leaving class, and surfing the Internet. “Who will complete half my deen?” It was an all-consuming thought that would sneak into our very core, putting our intentions into question. We even used to say, “Once I’m married, it will be so much easier to memorize Qur’an.” “Once I’m married, I can more easily work for the sake of Allah.” “Once … [Read more...]