Deep Roots

I once attended a gathering where a gentle sheik was speaking. A women raised her hand and asked, ”In North America there are not many Muslims, should we move back to our home country to raise our children?” The Sheik paused for a moment and replied in a soft, kind voice, “You are not alone here, sister. Look outside; do you see the trees, plants, flowers, and all the nature? They are all souls of Allah SWT. In fact, you are the majority in this land, not the minority.” To this day, his words sti … [Read more...]

The Light

GrowMama's Ramadan Spirit ContestA True Story for Mothers Who Are Unable to Attend Taraweeh PrayersIt was the first night of Ramadan; six year old Mariam was impatiently waiting for taraweeh prayer. It was not only that she loved to pray but also she was going to put on her Fulla prayer hijab set and use her Fulla rug that she got from her parents for memorizing juz' Tabarak. It was a tradition in her house that whenever someone memorized a juz' they received a gift. She had waited the … [Read more...]

Modeling After the Greatest Role Model

I recently came across the story of one of the companions of Rasul (s.a.w.), Hudhayfah ibn al-Yaman. He was of Makkan origin, but grew up in Madinah. Upon Rasul (s.a.w.)’s arrival to Madinah after the Hijrah (migration), Hudhayfah became closely attached to the Prophet. He participated in numerous battles with the Muslims.In the Battle of Uhud, during the confusion and disorder that ensued, Hudhayfah’s father was confused as an enemy and accidently killed by the Muslims. Hudhayfah did som … [Read more...]

Back to School: ‘I Entrust You to God’

A Father's PerspectiveThis morning I handed a piece of my soul over to my sworn enemy. It was indescribably painful, but I actually ripped it out myself and as if possessed, I stood at the gates and handed it over with a smile. I was left with a tortured, torn soul –confused and overwhelmed. How could I do such a thing? I should know better. How could this be right? Is it right? Is it wrong?A hug, a kiss, a pat on the back and off he goes to school. The parents get expectedly emotional, b … [Read more...]

Helping Others

Life is such a blessing and I want to live mine in such a way that I am always cognizant of how truly blessed I am. For me, that means making sure that helping others is a habitual aspect of my life.As a stay at home mom of two kids under age four, it’s easy to get caught up in the idea that I can’t do much in terms of helping others because I have to take care of my children. Of course, that’s true. I can’t go wherever I want whenever I want. My first obligation is being a good mother. I can … [Read more...]

The Spiritual Experience of Cooking

I strongly dislike cooking. I hate being in my usually grimy kitchen, having to watch the stovetop, getting my hands dirty, the kids tearing down the walls in the background, and then having to clean up late at night. All that effort and usually the results are less than perfect. I often cook a large amount and then we eat leftovers for one or two days, so that I can have a kitchen-free day in between.This Ramadan though, I am going to try to make an intention every day before I roll up my … [Read more...]

Setting SMART Goals for Ramadan

Click here for your goal-setting Ramadan Quran Bookmark.Nothing beats sitting down and writing out your goals in hopes of achieving them. In our preparation for this blessed month, let’s take out 15 minutes today for ourselves, in the quiet of our rooms, to think about what we want to accomplish during this Holy Month and what we want to carry over for the rest of the year. Let’s get introspective, let’s do some soul searching, let’s identify our faults, and let’s move forward with SMART goals … [Read more...]

Frustrated?

Did you ever get frustrated, angry and started shouting at your kids? I used to do so, sometimes, followed by a feeling of tremendous guilt. I knew what I was doing was wrong but I didn’t know what to do, I didn’t know how to direct this energy. I tried many techniques to calm down, sometimes it worked and sometimes not.Then I heard a lecture by Sheikh Sudais [Imam of the Holy Mosque in Mecca], where he told mothers to watch what they say to their kids when they get angry. He mentioned a sto … [Read more...]

My Ear Worm

My ear worms started about nine years ago, around the time I started memorizing the Qur’an. I would be doing something completely ordinary, and this ear worm would start going around and around in my head, until I stopped and concentrated, and listened, and then I would understand what it was.My ear worms were ayahs.I would wake up in the morning with an ear worm. Clean the house with an ear worm. Chop salad with an ear worm. Until I came to expect that whatever that thing buzzing in my mind … [Read more...]

No Regrets

My husband has a wonderful trait-once he decides on something and goes through with it, he never regrets it. No matter how nagging I can get, asking him if perhaps we should have looked around for a better deal, perhaps we should have waited, perhaps.... He tells me, 'Khalass, it's over and I don't regret it.' And I love this trait about him, because it helps me feel better about some decisions I feel I may have forced him into!But a few months ago, I did something different. Something that … [Read more...]