On Being a Woman Without Children: Advice to Mothers and Others

As I sit down to write my thoughts and reflections, I pause to think, where should this story begin and how should it be told. It is an accumulation of 9 years of emotions and confusion, actions and experiences, reflection and clarity, and acceptance with perspective. It’s a simple story of this chapter of my life as a married woman expecting that the next chapter would be as a mother with children. I waited month after month and year after… Read more

Losing My Mind

I recently experienced cranial surgery. During this difficult time, I learned a lot about letting go and asking for help. While I always put my trust in God, this time it did not stop the anxious, pre-surgery thoughts from racing through my mind. Thoughts of “possible human error” got the best of me at night. Fears of not returning to my family often squeezed my chest  just after I tucked the kids into bed. Usually with a good prayer and… Read more

Grow Mama Picks for October 2014

These great reminders for ways to help new moms are spot on. The school year is in full swing, but are you feeling overwhelmed with all the additional time commitments that come along with it? Read here from some tips to achieve a better balance between your (and your  children’s) expectations and abilities. Try taking a personality test with your spouse and then sharing the results together. It could be a great conversation starter and might even give you insight… Read more

The Missing Pieces

It is not an overstatement or a generalization to say that all cultures put mothers on pedestals. Motherhood is, by all standards, sacred. In Islam, we use the hadith “paradise lies at the feet of mothers” not only to remind people to obey and serve their mothers, but also to motivate women to become mothers and to encourage us to remain patient and stick it out. Motherhood is supposedly natural and instinctive, yet many challenges that come with the job,… Read more

Growing Pains

               My son turned five this year. For at least six months leading up to his birthday he was counting down. Many of his sentences started with, “When I’m five…” Five was going to be magical. He was going to be able to run “super” fast, he was going to stay dry through the night, and he was going to eat zucchini. (Still waiting on that last one). What is it about turning five? He… Read more

“Oh, is this your first?”

It seems like an innocent question, “Oh, is this your first?” But inside of me I am not sure how to respond. Do I say, “No, no, it’s my second?” or do I say, “Actually, this is my sixth.” And then watch as they look quizzically for the remainder. Sometimes if I feel a certain kinship with the questioner, I’ll go into it, but then more often than not, I don’t like to hear them say, “Oh, I went through… Read more

Faith, Identity, and Responsibility

My mother likes to tell me how, when I was seven years old and in first grade, I would proudly bring my little prayer rug to the public school classroom, and pray Dhuhr during the class activities period. My teacher was bemused, and my classmates were nonplussed by what they saw as something completely natural to my personal identity. It was just the way things were, molded and shaped by the manner in which I saw my parents treating prayer… Read more

Eid Mubarak from GrowMama

Eid ul-Fitr commemorates the end of our blessed month of Ramadan. May we be granted the reward of Ramadan, and may God accept all our worship and charity.  On the day of Eid al-Fitr, Imam Ali bin Abi Talib (peace be upon him) delivered a sermon in which he said:   “O people! Verily this day of yours is the day when the righteous are awarded and the wretched are losers. It is a day which is similar to the one on which you shall… Read more

God’s Mercy and Times of Hardship

Allah (swt) is more merciful to His believing slaves than a mother is to her child. I love my daughter, almost to a fault. The crinkle of her eyes when she laughs, the way her lips curve downwards when she is asleep. The new words she learns daily and the mischief she always seems to get into. She reminds me of her Baba, may Allah have mercy on him. But I sometimes make decisions that cause her distress. I take… Read more

Ya Qaafidu, Ya Raafiu

Indeed All praises are for You, My Lord. May Your Peace and Blessings be upon our Beloved Rasool. Today Ya Allah, I reach for you in the lowest of health. Ya Qaafidu do not abase me. Ya Raafiu elevate me to a high honor. Let me be one who is oft loving and pleasing to You in intention, word and action. Give me the breath, knowledge and strength to serve You as a mother, daughter, sister, neighbor and however You… Read more

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