GrowMama Round Up: Talking to kids about friends with bad influences

A young girl asked her elder female relatives about advice for dealing with friends that are engaged in un-Islamic behavior, such as talking inappropriately to boys. She wanted to know how to make her friends stop without becoming alienated. Here are some responses that we hope give you ideas for how to advise your own children.A says:First of all your responsibility is for you to be pure and happy and follow the footsteps of our beloved Prophet (pbuh) without compromising your Islamic … [Read more...]

Please Don’t Look Away

My four and half year old daughter Sarina has twinkling brown eyes, beautiful long, black curly hair, dimples like her daddy, a big toothy grin like her mama, and spastic quadriplegia cerebral palsy. She is not defined by her diagnosis, but it is an essential part of her life, and ours. My husband and I have been on a long journey to come to terms with the reality of our lives and have found ways to find the hidden blessings in it. We have formed a stronger bond with each other and our children. … [Read more...]

Better Hands than Mine

My Experience with Vaginal Birth after C-SectionI had just arrived at my obstetrician’s office after finishing the five-month ultrasound at the hospital. I was expecting a quick visit since I was gearing up to switch doctors. It was time to make the first all-important decision of my pregnancy: who will delivery me via VBAC (Vaginal Birth after Cesarean). My current doctor doesn’t do VBACs, but isn’t against them. That did not console me much. I had spent five-months searching for her rep … [Read more...]

Unsettled

Perhaps it is because of recent events, personal strife or the gloomy winter season- this overbearing sense of loneliness, uneasiness, and fear of the future going around. Everyone feels these emotions at one time or another. What's a person to do when this unsettling feeling starts taking over and getting in the way of taking care of yourself and your family? How can you see past the clouds and look to to a bright and springy future?Humans have a tendency to fear the unknown. When current … [Read more...]

Heartbreak

You know that feeling. That once in a while feeling that "I've got this under control." I'm on time, ticking off items on a checklist, there’s a bounce in my step, I have the right attitude, and everything's where it's supposed to be. Except when it's not.I lump all the times when life does not feel right under the category of 'heartbreak.' I've been here quite often, and the more years that go by, the more forms of it I recognize. It comes and goes, sometimes visiting for an unpleasantly l … [Read more...]

By Heart

It was a peaceful night last night. Besides for my munchkin being fast asleep, I was home alone. So for the first time in a while, I picked up the Quran to continue the daunting task of rememorizing what I had once known by heart. Quran memorization was heavily emphasized in my childhood Islamic school. And I did well at it. I absorbed chapter after chapter and enjoyed having the beautiful words in my heart, and on my mind. Since that time, my connection with this amazing scripture has … [Read more...]

A Mother’s Guilt

Every night around 11PM, as soon as my 1-year old son begins calling for me with his unique cry, I feel like a failure; a “mommy-fail,” if you will. He’s a happy, energetic, social and curious toddler by day, and a semi-monster by night. He goes down in his crib most nights without a struggle, but 3-4 hours later, he wants nothing to do with his crib and wants nobody but me. I have tried many a sleep training methods, read several sleep training books, consulted countless mothers, but to no avail … [Read more...]

Growmama Roundup: How To Train Children To Fast

We asked two of our Growmama writers to share with us how they train their children to fast. Here are their replies:S writes:When the kids were preschoolers I would let them stay up for iftaar and make a yummy spread so that they understood that Ramadan and fasting was very special. Now that they are almost 6 and 8 years old they need more training. It's hard because many of us have conditioned our kids to eat. Phrases like "Finish your plate, drink more water, eat your veggies" don't s … [Read more...]

Ramadan: A Month of Reflection and Renewal for the Soul

A month of fasting from all food and drink from sunrise to sunset may not sound like anything to look forward to but Ramadan is the most beautiful and most anticipated month of the year for many Muslims, myself included.  It is the month in the Islamic year that unites all Muslims from all ethnicities and social classes, a month that reminds us all that the only thing that makes one person better than another is their piety, not their wealth or status.  It is the month in which we humble o … [Read more...]

Setting SMART Goals for Ramadan

Nothing beats sitting down and writing out your goals in hopes of achieving them. In our preparation for this blessed month, let’s take out 15 minutes today for ourselves, in the quiet of our rooms, to think about what we want to accomplish during this Holy Month and what we want to carry over for the rest of the year. Let’s get introspective, let’s do some soul-searching, let’s identify our faults, and then move forward with SMART goals that we are determined to achieve this Ramadan, with the he … [Read more...]