Remembering the Goal

Before getting married, marriage was all we thought about. We thought about it while attending conventions, walking to class, in class, leaving class, and surfing the Internet. “Who will complete half my deen?” It was an all-consuming thought that would sneak into our very core, putting our intentions into question. We even used to say, “Once I’m married, it will be so much easier to memorize Qur’an.” “Once I’m married, I can more easily work for the sake of Allah.” “Once I’m married, I can begin … [Read more...]

Our Choice: Public School

There is a fascinating thread on the GrowMama discussion board about the benefits of public schools versus alternative schooling. This piece was written before that discussion was underway and is not a response. We hope readers will share their thoughts on this topic in both the comment section of the blog and on the discussion board!My husband and I are committed to sending our daughter to public school. On a very rudimentary level, we took this for granted since we both went to public … [Read more...]

The Good Word

Many people lose their ability to speak after experiencing a stroke. My uncle was one of them, may Allah grant him a speedy recovery. They understand speech, but cannot formulate words, read or write due to ensuing damage in a particular region of the brain. They can, however, still curse. One explanation is that speech requires higher intellectual functions, whereas the ability to curse comes from a more primitive part of the brain. So, is it biologically easier for us to curse? I don’t know ab … [Read more...]

A Mother’s Reflections on Freedom Uprisings

As mothers, we always think of the children first. We know behind the headlines there are children who do not understand, hiding behind thin walls that do not protect them from gunshots and shouting in the streets.  Our hearts break for them, and we imagine what their mothers feel. Still, I remind myself that if I am feeling this way, then Allah is infinitely more merciful than me. Even in the most frightening, dangerous places on earth, Allah swt sends His servants to comfort the innocent and … [Read more...]

Wedding Jewels

Some brides have the honor (and accountability) to receive more than ample wedding jewelry.  Ornamented in heavy metal leaking with gems has never been a pleasant pass time of mine. However recently, it’s been a very nice mother-daughter time with my five year old.For years, I’ve had most of my wedding jewelry stored away safe and sound in a place far away from my mind. As little girls grow, you start to see their interests and mine was definitely inclined to glitter, glitter and glit … [Read more...]

My Heart’s Content

I have come to realize that I spend far more time asking my Lord of things than thanking Him. With a supportive, compassionate and understanding spouse and healthy, fed, and safe children, all I ask is that Allah almighty keeps this mother's heart content.-Kariman ElmuradiKariman is a loving mother to three beautiful children. She enjoys discovering California's natural beauty with her family. … [Read more...]

I Took My Kids to Tahrir Square

Today, armed with two strollers and a diaper bag, my husband and I took our 3 kids age 1, 2.5, and 5 to Tahrir square. We were quite the sight amidst the thousands of protesters who smiled to the kids as they waved their Egyptian flags that we purchased on our way in. We were welcomed by everyone, and more than 30 people asked to take the kids pictures and gave them dates and other goodies.As we stood with the thousands of protesters chanting the slogans against the regime, I was uplifted by … [Read more...]

Roadblocks to Mercy

If He opens a door for you, thereby making Himself known,pay no need if your deeds do not measure up to this.For, in truth, He has not opened it for you but out ofa desire to make Himself known to you.(from the Hikam)Since becoming a mother I’ve started to appreciate the incredible blessing of free time.  (Or, as they say, “you don’t know what you’ve got ’til it’s gone”:P)  Busy with daily responsibilities, it’s almost impossible to maintain the same level of focus and time dedicated … [Read more...]

16 Lessons From 6 Month Old Parents

1) You don't need a ridiculous amount of money saved in order to have a child. Allah has opened so many doors for us right after our daughter was born and this has been observed by many other parents as well. 2) It is not socially acceptable to describe the size or consistency of your baby's dirty diaper in public.3) Parenting while plugged in is an oxymoron. We've been trying to be mindful of how often we are with our child physically, but not mentally. Children will know that they will … [Read more...]

Kitchen Pot Holders

I’ve been married for 11 years. Like a treasured friend, are my kitchen pot holders. The pair are stained with curry and tomato paste, faded, tethered and almost burnt through in spots. There are several new pairs in the drawer but, for some reason I just can’t let these ones go.My pot holders were there during those first newlywed meals and traveled with me from our studio apartment to the one bedroom, then the two bedroom, later cross country. Each floral square teamed nobly by my side while … [Read more...]