How Can We Live?

The news of the unrest and violence in Egypt is inescapable. Much of the it has unfolded in full view of video cameras. I have seen bodies piled in the mosques, I have seen a woman in niqab shot to death by a sniper, I have seen grown men weeping over the bodies of their fallen sons. It is a tragedy on every level and it seems to be something that will not be resolved soon.A friend of mine asked today how one can cope with life in the face of such tragedy. Let's not forget, Egypt is only the … [Read more...]

The Everyday Struggle

Motherhood has been bogging me down lately. Now that I've said it, I can hopefully move on. How can I work on elevating my role as a mother when I am dealing with a 4 year old who now qualifies everything as boring? What a boring home! You’re the boring-est mom. Playing with you is so boring! A big THANK YOU to whoever taught her that word. In the low points, I wonder where I went wrong in her upbringing. Maybe she’s (gasp)…spoiled. Maybe it’s just a phase. I hope it’s just a phase. Still, even t … [Read more...]

The Ultimate Gift

Growing up, I was a part of a big North Jersey Muslim community. There were Quran classes, sunday school, iftar parties, Ramadan and Eid prayers, and gatherings of all sorts at the masjid. On occasion, I would attended funeral prayers at our mosque. Sometimes it was for an older auntie or uncle I knew, but not too well. Sometimes it was for a stranger. In my carefree, unaffected, and apathetic youth, these funeral prayers were just another gathering. That all changed as I started to grow … [Read more...]

My Secret Identity

There are some moments when I feel like I’ve got this whole ‘motherhood’ thing down. I’m whipping up fabulous meals to ravenous children. Potty training is a snap. I'm disciplining like a rock star.  I’m rocking, I’m strolling. I'm the best mom, ever! I’m so awesome, it literally hurts. And stings. Huh? And I turn over in bed to realize that there is a three-year-old ninja kicking me in the face. Where is my husband? Correctly assuming that a king sized bed is not sufficient for the two of us an … [Read more...]

Kids Belong in the Masjid

The first time I visited Masjid Al Haram, or the Grand Mosque as it is also known, in Mecca, was two years back on a Hajj trip. I was 30 years old. There was an immediate connection and sense of belonging I felt. I left there wanting my kids to experience the same feelings and connection and made du’a to be able to bring them there soon. I wanted my children to be able to go at their young and impressionable age so that they would develop a deep love, longing, and attachment to the holy cities o … [Read more...]

GrowMama Relationship Roundup: Quality Time

The doorbell rings. “Baba’s home!”, scream the children, as they climb all over him. Even though he just spent the last hour commuting, after a long workday, he manages to conjure up the energy to laugh and smile, plant some kisses, do a few tosses in the air, read a book, much to their delight. We tackle bedtime together, and a little while later, we sit down to enjoy some hot chocolate and hang out.That’s how evenings should go, but every couple in the real world knows that it’s not always … [Read more...]

The Entitled Ones

We want the best for our kids, so naturally we give them the best.  The best food, the best care, the best toys and gadgets.  We shower them with praise, make sure they know that we love them unconditionally, and buy them anything that our pocketbook can afford.  Unfortunately, sometimes we look back and wonder what went wrong.The society we live in is a privileged society that knows the value of children, the value of praise, and has no limitations on spending.  So why are we also a society wh … [Read more...]

Keys to Successful Parenting- Managing Behavior Problems

This is the final article in our series, Keys to Successful Parenting Series. In case you missed them, click here for Part I (Improve Eating Habits) and Part II (Improve Sleeping Habits). --- Behavioral problems are very common in children and need to be dealt with carefully in order to effectively manage them and to encourage positive behaviors in their place. One important thing to remember is that every behavior has a function. Maybe your child is trying to communicate something to you … [Read more...]

Keys to Successful Parenting- Strategies to Improve Kids Sleeping Habits

Bedtime problems and night wakings are common in young children and one of the most common complaints made by parents to health care professionals. Studies have suggested that when left untreated, bedtime problems and night wakings in young children do not spontaneously resolve.Why might children wake up during the night?Some parents try everything they can to ensure that their child is sleeping in a comfortable and safe environment. Even then, their child continues to awaken frequently … [Read more...]

Keys to Successful Parenting- Strategies to Improve Kids Eating Habits

GrowMama presents an important series for our readers. In the next few weeks, we will bring you Keys to Successful Parenting, with strategies to tackle some of parenthood’s biggest challenges, from Runda Ebied, an occupational therapist. The series is a glimpse of the wealth of information available in an online course that we welcome our readers to sign up for here.---Parenting is one of the most important, most challenging, and most rewarding roles in a person’s life. It is filled with ma … [Read more...]