Grow Baba Spotlight: The Visiting Professor

I often feel guilty when it comes to my kids. I know I don’t spend enough time with them.  And when I am with them, I still feel that guilt because despite my initial spike of excitement at seeing them, I realize I don't actually want to spend time with them. I prefer to sit on the couch and surf the web. I mean there is a lot of really important research that needs to be done. Should I get the Galaxy s3 or the iPhone?  And, of course, I need to catch up with my friends on Facebook and see what t … [Read more...]

Flawless Imperfection

It was a dark night, with the moon nowhere to be seen. We were driving home after having a great time at a family gathering. The best part was witnessing my three-year-old, Maryam, genuinely enjoy herself. My heart would just burst with joy every time she lit up, getting a thrill from seeing the pizza, the princess cake, the bounce house, and of course, all her friends and family. This invariably led to her falling asleep in the car on the way. So let me rephrase: it was a dark and peaceful … [Read more...]

An Apology Remiss

20 caskets, small and shaped like angels, sublimeSouls taken so early, you were still much less worldly THAN you were divineAnd with you, royal innocence crowned,Are buried all of our excuses, six feet beneath the groundEntombed are our alibies that we were too busy and that we couldn’t make a changeThat we had bigger problems, and that you’re killer was just derangedWe excuse ourselves into thinking we had no partAnd we forgive ourselves without asking for forgiveness from ou … [Read more...]

The Time Has Come to Move

“My dears, the time has come to move.” I still remember the line from The Berenstain Bears’ Moving Day book that was given to us by the moving company taking us from coast to coast. It was a delightful story to share with my boys and we read it countless times.Over a decade later, here we are moving again, not so far this time, but still a significant move nonetheless. My boys have outgrown The Berenstain Bears, but it is me who keeps thinking back to that beloved children’s book. “The time h … [Read more...]

GrowMama Round Up: Talking to kids about friends with bad influences

A young girl asked her elder female relatives about advice for dealing with friends that are engaged in un-Islamic behavior, such as talking inappropriately to boys. She wanted to know how to make her friends stop without becoming alienated. Here are some responses that we hope give you ideas for how to advise your own children.A says:First of all your responsibility is for you to be pure and happy and follow the footsteps of our beloved Prophet (pbuh) without compromising your Islamic … [Read more...]

Please Don’t Look Away

My four and half year old daughter Sarina has twinkling brown eyes, beautiful long, black curly hair, dimples like her daddy, a big toothy grin like her mama, and spastic quadriplegia cerebral palsy. She is not defined by her diagnosis, but it is an essential part of her life, and ours. My husband and I have been on a long journey to come to terms with the reality of our lives and have found ways to find the hidden blessings in it. We have formed a stronger bond with each other and our children. … [Read more...]

Grow Mama Blast from the Past: The Wait

I baked up a storm and the breads and granolas are stealthily disappearing. I caught up with laundry and organized closets, the next cycle is already starting to pile itself up with clothes rapidly throwing themselves into disarray. I organized all the toys, puzzles, and books in the basement and just when I turned away, it seems they grew feet and started clambering out of the neat shelves spilling over the basement floor into the living room and bedrooms.Every time, I take a deep breath … [Read more...]

Home for Christmas

It’s that time of year again, when the snow begins to fall, the sky is a silver ribbon, and the cold air hangs low, seeping into every bone. Fireplaces burn bright, hot cocoa sits on the stove top, stockings hang low, and families gather to decorate their Christmas trees, as the scent of pine fills their homes. Presents are wrapped with love and care, and cookies and milk placed on bedside tables as hopeful children anticipate the return of Santa Claus. On this special day, relatives come from n … [Read more...]

GrowMama Roundup Part II: Easing the Heartache of the Newtown School Shooting

The country is still reeling in the wake of the Newtown, CT. shooting. The killer has been identified; he started the day by shooting his mother and ended the day by turning the gun on himself. In between, he shot and murdered twenty schoolchildren, all between the ages of six and seven-years-old. He also killed six women who worked at the elementary school, those that taught, nurtured, loved, and in the end protected the children, paying the price with their own lives.Grow Mama readers … [Read more...]

GrowMama Roundup Part I: Easing the Heartache of the Newtown School Shooting

The headlines say it all. “20 children among the 28 killed in Connecticut slaughter.” Those whose lives were only just beginning, their innocence barely touched,  gone in a flash. The recent school shooting in Newtown, Connecticut has left not only our country, but also the entire world stunned and hearts everywhere, shattered. Whether or not you are a parent, no one can escape the tragedy that is now identified as the second deadliest school shooting ever in the United States.Like mill … [Read more...]