Rotten Oranges

Pfffft! My eighteen-month-old son, Ibrahim, spit an orange slice out of his mouth. A few seconds later, my husband, brother in law, and I spit ours out too, realizing that the orange tasted rotten. “How did Ibrahim realize that the orange was bad before us?” I wondered out loud. “I guess babies can sense when something isn’t right,” my husband answered.This incident stuck with me all evening. It reminded me that we are born with a natural instinct, or fitrah, to do right. Our fitrah innately … [Read more...]

Life Lessons I Learned Living Abroad

We stepped off the plane, walked to baggage claim and waited...and waited. Our luggage never made it to our connecting flight. We took a cab through our new and unknown country. Upon arriving at our apartment, we find the door is locked. I look down at my children and back at my husband as we stood on a desolate street, tired and hungry, with only the clothes on our backs. At that instant, I was filled with a sudden feeling of dread. What had I done? I made a terrible mistake! After all, it was … [Read more...]

The Ramadan Sale

I love a good sale.  When I had my second daughter I started what has become a close and personal relationship with online shopping.  I was able to try things on in the privacy of my own home and when things didn’t work out I simply returned them.  But most of all the deals were great.  I reassured my husband on more than one occasion that I was saving money, not spending it. But I’ve stopped online shopping now.  I’ve given up online sales for an even better sale: Ramadan.  Siraj Wahhaj once sa … [Read more...]

Cave of Solitude

The other day a friend of mine was lamenting the fact that she was unable to fast this Ramadan because she is nursing her three-month-old baby. She remarked that because of that and her other demands as a mother of five she was finding it difficult to catch the Ramadan spirit. It reminded me of the first Ramadan I was unable to fast. I had a two-month-old son and was breastfeeding. As the blessed month approached I felt a little sad and confused as to how to capture the feeling of spiritual … [Read more...]

My Purple Carpet

            I was told when I first got married, that my relationship with Allah would be different. That I would find a new "normal" and get accustomed to it. And that after having kids, a woman doesn’t have the time she used to have, to sit down for hours reading the Quran, or get up and pray every night while everyone else sleeps. But no one ever told me I wouldn't find my purple c … [Read more...]

I Run for Boston

For  the last few years, I've run the local Deckers Creek Half Marathon in my hometown. It's been a good way to get in shape and enjoy the trails in early spring. This year I was not planning on training because of health issues.When the Boston marathon was bombed, it hit very close to home.  I know the euphoria you have when crossing a finish line. Runners often train for months to mentally and physically prepare for the long distances, dehydration, leg cramps and the many other obstacles t … [Read more...]

A Natural Woman

I just finished reading an interview with Diane von Furstenberg.  For those of you not familiar with the name, she is most notably recognized for creating the wrap dress which curvy girls all over the world thank her for.  During the interview, she was asked about her motivation to begin designing clothes and her answer really sparked something inside of me.  She said,“...I didn’t always know what I wanted to do but I knew the kind of woman I wanted to be.”For someone who is at a stage wh … [Read more...]

What Time Is It?

What time is it? I ask my son for the umpteenth time. I’m counting every minute lately, and still I’m racing, racing, racing with the clock as it tick, tick, ticks away.  I’m juggling laundry and making Eid sweets, making sure there is something for everyone at iftar time, helping my kids with homework, the baby is on my constant tail, tugging at my skirt. My daughter announces she needs to take a token gift for her classmates (we decide to remold old crayons), the boys need to be dropped off at … [Read more...]

Strive to Be Content Wherever You Are

Assalam Alaikum GrowMama Sisters,I recently reconnected with some dear family friends via email.  We both had to relocate for work related reasons from a large and vibrant Muslim community.  I shared our exchange with some fellow GMG moms and they thought it would be beneficial to share with our online community.Our friends write:Good hearing from you, how are you and the family? And how do you like it where you are? Have you guys adapted yet? We're still struggling a bit here. The Mu … [Read more...]

Setting SMART Goals for Ramadan

Nothing beats sitting down and writing out your goals in hopes of achieving them. In our preparation for this blessed month, let’s take out 15 minutes today for ourselves, in the quiet of our rooms, to think about what we want to accomplish during this Holy Month and what we want to carry over for the rest of the year. Let’s get introspective, let’s do some soul-searching, let’s identify our faults, and then move forward with SMART goals that we are determined to achieve this Ramadan, with the he … [Read more...]