Separation Anxiety 3.0

I read something a while back that touched me so deeply that I know I’ll never forget it. It was an article on separation anxiety and the author explained that this happens in babies around 6 months old because before that they have no idea that we, their mothers, are separate beings from them. Before 6 months they think we’re actually physically connected and only begin to realize this is not the case at around 6 months when they begin to experience anxiety. I clutched my heart when I read th … [Read more...]

Graduating from the Kiddie Table

My husband and I traveled to my parents' house for Thanksgiving weekend. We were prepared with diapers, our laundry, and the ingredients for the cornbread stuffing. We were also ready to sit with our siblings. Thanksgiving day would bring both sets of in-laws, mine as well as my older brother's, and it promised to be an eventful day. For the "kids" (ages range from 16-27), it would include stuffing our faces with all the delicious food that we wished would magically appear in our own kitchens as … [Read more...]

One Step Forward, Ten Steps Back

A few weeks ago I went with my family to the WALK NOW FOR AUTISM walk, in Washington, D.C.Groan. Talk about walking three miles with two two-year-olds who don't want to walk at the pace of the other hundreds of people. Or with your group. Or with Mama or Baba. Or according to anyone else's wishes.Nope.Two-year-olds walk the way THEY want to.So we started at 10 a.m.By 10:05 we were way behind our group. By 10:10, I couldn't see our group anymore. By 10:30, I couldn't even … [Read more...]

Spilling Over

The Prophet (saw) narrated the story of the Pharoah's hairdresser who was combing the hair of Pharoah's daughter and dropped her comb on the ground."Bismillah, in the name of God," she blurted as she bent down to pick it up.She and her four children were burnt to death because of this slip of tongue and then her refusal to deny her belief in Allah. Her baby was one of the few who spoke in infancy, reassuring her in remaining steadfast, before she was killed.I heard a beautiful … [Read more...]

The Pacifier

The Pacifier. Yes, I capitalized the P. Where do I begin? My son hated it the day he was born. On day two, while getting circumcised, the doctor was trying to force it to stay in his mouth. I guess other baby boys don’t scream during the procedure. I thought the doctor was going to tape it over his mouth. My son must’ve gotten the point, because he suddenly took it. And kept it. Nineteen months later, I’m trying to take it away now.Don’t get me wrong, it’s not like it’s always in his mouth. S … [Read more...]

Babysitting

I attended a qiyam at the local masjid a while back and left my daughter at home so that I could focus and get the most out of a spiritual event that – although it should - does not happen very often.  As I went around, passing my salaams to friends and strangers alike I was asked over and over again, “Where’s your daughter?” to which I replied, “At home.”What followed was so funny and so telling; over and over again I was looked at and asked … [Read more...]

Reason Number (insert high number here) I’m Grateful To Be Muslim

A generation ago there were two brothers in my family (my grandmother’s brothers). One was a laborer. The other was a doctor. They were both married. They were both alcoholics. The laborer lost his life to a failed liver (a direct result of his alcoholism). The doctor took his own life leaving behind his wife and children (although it is impossible to know the exact reason he committed this act, the increased depression that resulted from his addiction to alcohol was undoubtedly a f … [Read more...]

The Great Reciter of Alexandria Part III

Umm Al Sa'ad of AlexandriaHer studentsWhen asked about her students Umm Al-Sa'ad said:"I remember every one of them, there were some who received Ijaaza in one of the recitations, and there were some (and they were very few) who received ijaaza in all ten recitations. They are the ones who received an ijaaza with a special seal that I have that I always keep with me, I never give it to anyone no matter how much I have trust in them."The happiest days for Umm Al-Sa'ad are the days of … [Read more...]

Shattered Glass

It was Friday night and my ten year-old son invited one of his best friends over for his first sleepover.  Naturally, the boys were excited and I let them stay up late.  I, on the other hand, was ready to sleep at 8:30.  I was very tired from a long week of not getting enough shut-eye and it had caught up to me.  I struggled to stay awake until the boys finally settled into bed.As I was saying goodnight and looking forward to crawling into my own bed, I heard a very loud crash coming from the … [Read more...]

Deep Roots

I once attended a gathering where a gentle sheik was speaking. A women raised her hand and asked, ”In North America there are not many Muslims, should we move back to our home country to raise our children?” The Sheik paused for a moment and replied in a soft, kind voice, “You are not alone here, sister. Look outside; do you see the trees, plants, flowers, and all the nature? They are all souls of Allah SWT. In fact, you are the majority in this land, not the minority.” To this day, his words sti … [Read more...]