GrowMama Roundup: Birthdays

We turned to some of our GrowMama readers and writers to see how they deal with birthdays in their families.  Let us ask you the same question, “Birthdays… What do you do?”B wrote of a fresh twist on the traditional birthday party,“It finally happened... my daughter asked for a birthday party. Before this, my husband and I were undecided about birthday parties. I grew up with them; his family barely acknowledged birthdays. We have, however, developed a philosophy that we would not simply … [Read more...]

GrowMama Roundup: The Season of Motherhood

A constant question that arises in our minds as mothers is how we can maintain individual fulfillment while making sure that our children are being nurtured and cared for. One of our GrowMama mothers posited the question this way: Why is the mother’s role frequently limited to raising leaders instead of being leaders, or being the seekers of change? Am I raising two girls so that they will raise more girls who will raise more girls? Sometimes I wonder when WE get to be our own people in … [Read more...]

GrowMama Roundup: Approaching Halloween

We asked a couple of our awesome mamas: How does your family approach Halloween season?  Following are their responses.S wrote: We, as a parent group at school,  request that the teacher have a Fall Harvest Celebration rather than Halloween. The primary reason is that the costumes are scary for little ones and the educational value is limited. Also, there are families that do not participate in the practice of Halloween.  Many parents of all backgrounds like the idea, especially since we do a … [Read more...]

The Woman who Chose Allah

How do you explain to your six-year old daughter why she was born blind?  What do you say to console your autistic ten year old when she complains no one wants to be her friend?  How do you comfort your 14-year-old son when he knows the reason he can’t read beyond the first grade level is that he has moderate retardation?The story of the woman promised paradise might help explain to your beloved son or daughter the answer to questions such as these. This beautiful hadith in narrated by Ata bi … [Read more...]

The Ninety-Nine Names of Allah Tree

As the new school year begins and a shift of seasons takes place,  my girls and I decided to make a tree with the ninety-nine names of Allah adorned on the leaves. It is a simple and beautiful project, and a wonderful learning opportunity. As we glued the names on the leaves we discussed what the different names of Allah meant and tried to give examples. In Islam we do not have images of Allah, but through these beautiful names we can gain a better understanding of who He is. By encouraging them … [Read more...]

Multi-schooling

 “O Humanity. Behold, We have created you out of a male and female, and have made you into nations and tribes so that you might come to know one another.” (49: 13)I have been taught that this verse from the Glorious Qur’an is a prescription for us to embrace   language and ideas which will build relationships between all of members of humanity. With this mindset, I want to propose a new term into our discussions - multi-schooling. Our family “multi-schools.” Likely, so do many more. Whether w … [Read more...]

Ramadan Maintenance

As the years go by, I continue to make the intention to maintain my “Ramadan passion” when our dear friend passes. And here we are again on the verge of watching our beloved Ramadan leave us. This past year I tried something different and would like to share those experiences with you. When my passion was starting to wane, I held on to its light by enrolling in an online class with Seekers Guidance. Each week the lesson focused on one aspect to apply in my daily life. The aspect I welcomed like a … [Read more...]

Remembering Ramadan at the Intersection

We’ve seen her regularly over the last couple of years, standing near the corner of a main intersection, waving a promotional sign for a store in the nearby plaza.  She’s a familiar face to us now and her hand gestures consistent...high, medium and low.  She stands in the brutal Canadian winter cold.   She stands in the sweltering heat of the summer.  And it seems every time we see her, I think about what a tough job she must have.  My kids have noticed too; my twelve year-old son has even declar … [Read more...]

Building A Foundation

Alhamdulillah I have been Muslim for ten years now. I grew up in a household without religion but with a strong sense of spirituality. We were God-conscious but without a religious home. My father became a Muslim when I was eleven years old. I became a Muslim eleven years after him.As Muslim parents, my husband and I are facing the challenge of establishing an Islamic tradition in our family. Alhamdulillah I see how blessed our son is to be brought up as a Muslim. In a way, insha’Allah, this w … [Read more...]

Give Me Back My Shoe

I am not a fuzzy-wuzzy mother.  Ask either of my daughters - I’m loving but downright tough most times.  I don’t put up with nonsense from my own girls, so far be it from me to tolerate ill-mannered children that don't belong to me, in private or public places.Having said that, I am of late rather bothered by numerous complaints from others, actually just other women, about being bothered by children in the masjid.  I have heard complaints about the disruption of khushu’ from children bouncin … [Read more...]