GrowBaba Spotlight: What’s your bike?

Wives tell us husbands to do so many things that we really don’t believe in or even understand. For a variety of reasons which us husbands are and are not willing to admit, we end up doing most of those things for our women. I can’t answer for all the husbands out there, but my own introspection about the trust my wife and I share lead me to an incident that happened about 3 years into my marriage.I was married young (I was 22 and she was yes, yikes 17 … we are still married 25 years later) a … [Read more...]

Have Mercy on Your Husband

Before I began this blog entry, I asked my husband for ideas. “Write about having mercy on your husband,” he suggested. Thinking he was only joking, I laughed and shrugged it off. “Really,” he insisted. Realizing that he was actually serious, I thought there might be something there.Sitting down to write, I wondered why he felt compelled to push this topic. I began reflecting on the past two and a half years of our marriage, particularly the last sixteen months we’ve spent as parents. As many … [Read more...]

Grow Mama Picks for October

Try practicing a Sunnah of love in all your relationships, like this article recommends. Not sure how to approach Halloween when interacting with your kids and neighbors? Here is a great Grow Mama piece on how to talk to your kids about Halloween. Also, readers chime in about what they do with school celebrations of Halloween. Want to reap a great reward while simultaneously renewing your marriage? This piece contains some very nice ideas about how to treat your husband. This “Map of the U … [Read more...]

Never Too Late

It’s never too late in life.At 26, one child and a eight years of marriage later, I have graduated college with my bachelor’s degree. The decision to begin my academic career post family life was not an easy one. I decided to enroll my daughter at the college’s daycare so I could attend classes full time. I worked hard trying to find a system that made it easy for me to balance housework and studying. I scheduled Friday’s off just to do laundry. Some times I wasn’t so successful doing it all … [Read more...]

Honey, I Burned the Beans

As my ten-year wedding anniversary approaches, I’m thinking about how far my husband and I have come from those early, awkward newlywed days. One thing I’m sure my husband is glad to see behind us is my ineptitude in the kitchen. We married when we were both still undergraduates. I had been living on my own for a few years by then and my diet at the time consisted of popcorn and spaghetti with meat sauce, an easy, cheap meal I couldn’t mess up. When I wanted to “splurge,” I headed for the value m … [Read more...]

Remembering the Goal

Before getting married, marriage was all we thought about. We thought about it while attending conventions, walking to class, in class, leaving class, and surfing the Internet. “Who will complete half my deen?” It was an all-consuming thought that would sneak into our very core, putting our intentions into question. We even used to say, “Once I’m married, it will be so much easier to memorize Qur’an.” “Once I’m married, I can more easily work for the sake of Allah.” “Once I’m married, I can begin … [Read more...]


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