My (unsolicited) advice to new moms

I’ve got two kids, ages 5 and 3, so yes, I’m an expert on motherhood. Ok, I kid. But here’s what I’ve learned in the past few years. Just read my thoughts with  an open mind.1. Breastfeed your kids. Or don’t. Sleep when the baby sleeps. Or don’t. Do  what feels right to you, and eventually, you’ll see that it was right for YOU. Every mother out there figures out how to get into her groove. It takes some trial and  error, and lots of second-guessing yourself.2. Ask for help! People LOVE to hel … [Read more...]

GrowBaba Spotlight: A Push, a Jiggle and the Earthquake

"Baba, I didn’t do anything!" Yeah right. Every teen’s famous last words.Though my 14-year-old’s occasional hormonal / behavioral fireworks often lead me to think he is the cause of all evil in our household, yesterday I learned that’s simply not true. As his father, I realize I  need to get off his case more often.Back up to yesterday evening. He and I are sitting at the computer desk checking the NBA schedule and chatting. He got his fill and pushed  against the desk to get himself out … [Read more...]

GrowMama Relationship Roundup: Quality Time

The doorbell rings. “Baba’s home!”, scream the children, as they climb all over him. Even though he just spent the last hour commuting, after a long workday, he manages to conjure up the energy to laugh and smile, plant some kisses, do a few tosses in the air, read a book, much to their delight. We tackle bedtime together, and a little while later, we sit down to enjoy some hot chocolate and hang out.That’s how evenings should go, but every couple in the real world knows that it’s not always … [Read more...]

Lean In, Lean Back, Reach Up, Fall Over

I washed my face for the third time that morning. “I can do this,” I thought to myself as I slowly clamored out of the bathroom, willing myself to drive to work. Even though it was still relatively early, I was going to explain my circumstances to my supervisor. As I made my way to his office, I found myself speaking to Allah in hushed tones;Please Allah don’t let me throw up in his office.Oh Allah, tell me what is the best thing to do...I am at a complete loss.Please guide me and give me s … [Read more...]

The Landlord and the Tenant

Moving is not easy. It's even more difficult when you've left behind a perfectly well-formed life to start afresh. Since moving from an owned house to a rental house, I'm on a constantly watching the kids closely, trying to prevent the house from any damage. I seem to seize every opportunity to remind my kids not to touch the walls with dirty hands or run the truck too hard over the hardwood floors. I ask them to close the cupboard doors gently, walk softly, and be extra mindful and careful of … [Read more...]

Turning Kids Towards Prayer

Salah, or prayer, was the first salient form of worship prescribed by Allah the Almighty to our Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) and his followers. It is a vital part of our faith. Once a Muslim reaches puberty, prayer becomes obligatory on him or her five times a day. At this age, the person is accountable for his or her actions and take on a whole new level of maturity and responsibility. For a child who is suddenly considered an “adult” in Islamic standards, this may seem to … [Read more...]