To the working mother: you are not alone!

A dilemma many working mothers face: do I go back to work or do I stay home with my little one(s)? I remember having this internal dialogue for months during my maternity leave. The mere thought of leaving my child to the care of someone else for eight hours a day shook me to my core and left me feeling miserable for days on end.As my maternity leave came to an end, I couldn’t fathom not having the flexibility and spontaneity with which I was spending my days with my son. I began to stress a … [Read more...]

GrowBaba Blast from the Past: My Mom Promised Me A Skyline

Growbaba spotlights provide a space for Muslim fathers to share their voice, reflections, and insights with our community.Let’s admit it folks, there is nothing more quenching to the embattled soul than long awaited sweet revenge. Don’t worry, no blood or terror here –though there are definitely battle scars.You see, back when this 44 year-old father of three was in 6th grade, they used to ask me, “how can you just stand there?” and “why don’t you fight back?.”Day after dreary Midwest … [Read more...]

Archery: Mental Focus & Grace

Images of Katniss Everdeen from Hunger Games rekindle fond childhood memories. I find beauty in watching an archer mount their bow and release with balanced form, precision and calm. Growing up in Canada, I enjoyed many sporting activities. Of all sports, archery influenced me the most. It enhanced mental focus, taught me patience, physical awareness, and emotional control. In many ways, archery prepared me for life. I believe archery teaches competition within oneself. Joining a team offers … [Read more...]

Honey, I Burned the Beans

As my ten-year wedding anniversary approaches, I’m thinking about how far my husband and I have come from those early, awkward newlywed days. One thing I’m sure my husband is glad to see behind us is my ineptitude in the kitchen. We married when we were both still undergraduates. I had been living on my own for a few years by then and my diet at the time consisted of popcorn and spaghetti with meat sauce, an easy, cheap meal I couldn’t mess up. When I wanted to “splurge,” I headed for the value m … [Read more...]

Tackling Temper Tantrums (Part 1)

GrowMama is pleased to share some real life advice from a mom deep in the trenches. GrowMama contributor and mother of three, Hala Amer, shares her tried and true tips to help diffuse and deactivate temper tantrums in this week's two part series. Tune in on Thursday, February 21st for the remainder of her tips.When fellow mothers tell me about a child's violent temper tantrum, I feel a flood of heat surge through my body as I am reminded of my own experiences with my boys. It was often … [Read more...]

The Time Has Come to Move

“My dears, the time has come to move.” I still remember the line from The Berenstain Bears’ Moving Day book that was given to us by the moving company taking us from coast to coast. It was a delightful story to share with my boys and we read it countless times.Over a decade later, here we are moving again, not so far this time, but still a significant move nonetheless. My boys have outgrown The Berenstain Bears, but it is me who keeps thinking back to that beloved children’s book. “The time h … [Read more...]

An Ode to the Stay at Home Mom

Many of us chuckled during the blackouts in the aftermath of Hurricane Sandy when we read the internet meme that read: "Being at home reminds me of how much I miss my crappy job." It's seems to be a toss-up whether being home creates more work or allows the time to catch up with it. What is certain is that being with multiple kids at home full-time is an impressive feat not for the faint of heart. Although some seem to be managing quite well, I suspect that many struggle with home and child … [Read more...]

Taking my 20-month-old to the Grocery Store

          Sometimes our toddlers surprise us and teach us more about patience than we thought possible.  I took my 20 month old to the grocery store today and he surprisingly behaved himself and didn’t have a temper tantrum when I picked up a box of oatmeal chocolate cookies and told him we had to wait to pay for it first before he can eat it.I mean, yes, in the span of 15 minutes he said ‘latta’ (short form for ‘chocolata’) about 15 times; nonetheless, he waited without screaming and kicking … [Read more...]

The Swings

It was a sweltering hot summer day when I was visiting my parents at their home. It must have been at least 100 degrees outside and the AC in their brick house was out of order. My daughter was begging me to take her to the playground. I was already miserably hot, but I figured it couldn’t get much worse by stepping outside. We hopped in the car and drove a couple of miles to a local park.When we arrived, I immediately scanned the playground for a shady area where I could sit, but Duaa d … [Read more...]

Frustrated?

Did you ever get frustrated, angry and started shouting at your kids? I used to do so, sometimes, followed by a feeling of tremendous guilt. I knew what I was doing was wrong but I didn’t know what to do, I didn’t know how to direct this energy. I tried many techniques to calm down, sometimes it worked and sometimes not.Then I heard a lecture by Sheikh Sudais [Imam of the Holy Mosque in Mecca], where he told mothers to watch what they say to their kids when they get angry. He mentioned a sto … [Read more...]