Grow Baba Spotlight: The Visiting Professor

I often feel guilty when it comes to my kids. I know I don’t spend enough time with them.  And when I am with them, I still feel that guilt because despite my initial spike of excitement at seeing them, I realize I don't actually want to spend time with them. I prefer to sit on the couch and surf the web. I mean there is a lot of really important research that needs to be done. Should I get the Galaxy s3 or the iPhone?  And, of course, I need to catch up with my friends on Facebook and see what t … [Read more...]

Growmama Roundup: Ramadan Traditions

We asked our GrowMama writers this question:  What are your family Ramadan traditions?S writes:" On the eve of Ramadan we bake crescent cookies with the children. That's their first Ramadan smell. As a family we put up some Ramadan decorations. I've collected some of their Ramadan crafts over the years and I hang them up around the house along with some white flowered garlands that I bought from Michael's. The kids love to see their old crafts. About an hour before sunset, we sit as a f … [Read more...]

Implementing Qur’anic Verses and Ahadith

We asked some of our GrowMama writers to share a hadith or aya from the Qur'an that they have used to help their children develop a good habit. Here is what they had to say:S writes:Inna Allaaha ma' as-saabireen, "Indeed Allah is with the patient." At times life is hard for young kids. Learning to write their name or tie shoe laces can bring on the biggest tears. I remind them that not everything can come easily. Allah is always with the mindful believer who remains steadfast and patient. I … [Read more...]

Embracing Solitude

I seek silence. Away from my baby's incessant demands, away from the madness of world events, away from talking points and talking heads, away from analysts and experts, away from the clamor disguised as music, away from constructed noise channels that refuse to leave me alone.Even as I shut down everything around me, I don't revel in complete silence. The constant hum of electricity penetrates my senses, the distant wail of an ambulance speaks of an urgency far away, the banging of a … [Read more...]

Picking Apart a Pomegranate

Many things remind me of fall. Stomping on crunchy leaves as a kid, volleyball practice as a high-schooler, and yams baking in the oven, always. These memories are cozy ones and are reignited as the humidity of summer is replaced with early morning dew. And maybe this one particular memory is so embedded in my mind because baba and I have made it tradition…Baba walks into my room. "I think you should put on a shirt that you don't really like. Or, one you don't mind staining."I rummage t … [Read more...]

The Appointed Days Are Here

Dear mothers and sisters,Ramadan was a fleeting visitor that vanished as suddenly as it appeared, leaving us with sweet memories and mountains of reward or regrets. The month left us heart-broken, each for our own reasons. Some of us missed out on the great month, failing to invest in its nights and days. Others savored every moment, growing closer to Allah and increasing their worship. In those few special days, we lived with Allah, the Generous, the Giving; only He knew our sorrow when the … [Read more...]

My Struggle With Infertility II

Part IIAt my follow-up appointment where we would discuss our options, my doctor mentioned to me that this radiological procedure which I had done was not always 100% accurate. She wanted to perform a surgery on me which would be for completely diagnostic purposes; to either confirm the results of the radiological procedure or to adjust the diagnosis. I went through with the surgery, and lo and behold-my tubes were fine!! I was confused, but relieved.Around this same time, my husband … [Read more...]

Remembrance

I had a spiritual experience sitting in a plastic chair in the kiddie play area of a fast food chain this week.  It was while rocking my baby’s car seat, trying to keep him asleep, with an eye on my two older children, all the while reflecting on a verse from the Qur’an.The morning began as usual, except I had to take my son and daughter to the dentist for a check-up, balancing the baby on one hip, pitifully trying to assuage them all at once.  The french fries and sugary drink were their gra … [Read more...]