GrowBaba Spotlight: What’s your bike?

Wives tell us husbands to do so many things that we really don’t believe in or even understand. For a variety of reasons which us husbands are and are not willing to admit, we end up doing most of those things for our women. I can’t answer for all the husbands out there, but my own introspection about the trust my wife and I share lead me to an incident that happened about 3 years into my marriage.I was married young (I was 22 and she was yes, yikes 17 … we are still married 25 years later) a … [Read more...]

Scrambled Eggs, Bubblegum, and Sex

          This morning, over a relaxing weekend breakfast of scrambled eggs and tea with his mother and I, my 10-year-old was explaining to us that fourth grade is unlike third grade because now “everyone in fourth grade cusses.” He then added that, “they use all the cuss words like sh-- and a-- but the most common word is the F-word.” After a round of talking about what his own options are in such instances, he naturally then asked, "so what does the F-word mean anyway?" Without missing a beat, … [Read more...]

GrowBaba Spotlight: Take Money From Your Kids

I take money from my children. I checked around and others do it too. You should try it. Seriously, you should.Though there have been many with my older two boys, this was the first such incident with my youngest. Despite the slow taming of my internal torment from such incidents, I remain amazed at how intensely it still pulls at my heart.You see, towards the end of our family’s attendance at a local carnival this past Saturday, my nine-year-old son asked to purchase a $3 toy. His r … [Read more...]

GrowBaba Spotlight: Fatherhood, Level 2

THAT DAY in late December 2014, I felt a new sense of elation, bliss, contentment at a level which all of my fathering years had yet never felt before.Like it was yesterday, I remember the overwhelming, majestic very first very moment that each of my three boys entered this world. Like it was yesterday, I remember how it felt when my wife and only son (at the time) returned from their first vacation without me… like angels descending from heaven back into my life. I remember and savor these a … [Read more...]

GrowBaba Spotlight: If You Love Them, Set Them…Fishing

GrowBaba spotlights provide a space for Muslim fathers to share their voice, reflections, and insights with our community."Good-bye guys, I should be back around 10 pm."Not unfamiliar words to parents of an 18 year old. This time he’s off for some solo evening fishing. You see on this particular day, the Islamic holiday Eid, we offered each of our three kids their choice of how to spend the evening since the first half of the day was spent at prayer and with our extended family. The y … [Read more...]

GrowBaba Spotlight: Hold My Hand

GrowBaba spotlights provide a space for Muslim fathers to share their voice, reflections, and insights with our community.We were crossing a busy Los Angeles street together. Half-way through the intersection, he held my hand and we calmly crossed the rest of the intersection. I was 38 and he was my father.A few years have passed since then, yet that feeling never went away. Folks, I actually liked holding my father’s hand. The problem is that it bugged me that I liked it. It bugged me t … [Read more...]

GrowBaba Spotlight: My Mom Promised Me A Skyline

GrowBaba spotlights provide a space for Muslim fathers to share their voice, reflections, and insights with our community.Let’s admit it folks, there is nothing more quenching to the embattled soul than long awaited sweet revenge. Don’t worry, no blood or terror here --though there are definitely battle scars.You see, back when this 44 year-old father of three was in 6th grade, they used to ask me, “how can you just stand there?” and “why don’t you fight back?.”Day after dreary Midwes … [Read more...]

In The Nick of Time…

To all the pilgrims headed and heading to Hajj this season, May Allah accept your Hajj!  Hajj Mabrour!- GrowMama Team--------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------In the nick of time, he grabbed my arm.Earlier this past Ramadan, I had the opportunity alhamdulillah to perform ‘Umrah, and despite what seems so routine for the millions of Makkah-going Muslims, every visit to that blessed place holds a unique treasure from The Most … [Read more...]

Friday Patty-Cake

A Father's ReflectionI opened my palms in prayer at the end of the Friday khutbah.  Along with a couple thousand other Jum’a-goers, I dutifully replied ameen after the Imam’s heartfelt and well spoken supplications.  Like everyone else, I certainly aim for God’s generous reply to my prayers.  God All-Knowing and full of Love for His creations knows best how to answer our prayers.This Friday however, the reply to my ameen was a generous slap on both my palms by none other than the gentle f … [Read more...]