When I was younger, people told me about the importance of communication skills, and I sorta didn’t believe them. They sounded like mushy BS and like they weren’t actually about communicating, but just making people feel better.
Since then, I’ve learned better. Communication skill are very important. And they’re actually about asking questions like: “Do you like hack and slash? Or is it more about the story and portraying your character’s personality? Or are you really just here to hang out with your friends, drink beer, and eat pizza? Is it important to you to have a rich campaign setting that you can integrate into your character’s background? How do you feel about total party kills: never, when the party fails to figure out the correct tactical response to an encounter, every session, or multiple times per session?” (The last two answers indicate you should be playing Call of Cthulhu or Paranoia, respectively.)
Alternatively, they’re about asking, “how do you like your rope bondage?”
(At this point in my life, I should no longer be surprised by the overlaps between BDSM and nerdom.)