Lost and Found: A Parable In Socks

You know what was great about living in the desert all those years? Among other things--not having to wear socks. Ever.Maybe occasionally with running shoes or hiking boots, if you were going out on a trail. Because, you know, rattle snakes. But otherwise, it was 10 months a year of sandals. Glorious, breezy, open-toed, sock-less freedom.Sure, I love a warm fuzzy pair to wear around the house on a cold winter day. But even better was the complete absence of cold winter days. For the most … [Read more...]

Sidestepping Sexism: It’s Just Easier

Yesterday a blog troll called me a fascist bitch.Also yesterday--an elderly funeral director told me that I'd sure be cute...if I had red hair. (Read: I find your purple hair unbefitting a  proper lady. Also, I think you are 12 years old, and women should not be ministers).These are two totally different things. But also, they are exactly the same.First, why they are different; the troll was coming from a place of hostility (hostility being the official language of troll-dom) while … [Read more...]

Handing Hate the Microphone

Kansas legislators recently introduced a measure that would require transgender students (at public schools and universities) to use the restrooms corresponding to their gender-at-birth. Other states have similar policies but, of course, Kansas always has to go one-up on these things. So in our state, students who "catch" a classmate using the wrong facility would receive a $2500 settlement.  Because, you know, the trauma of it all.I know, ick.A group of student LGBT advocates from on … [Read more...]

7 Ways From Sunday: 7 True Things From 7 Years of Blogging

Yesterday, I logged into my "back end" blog stuff to edit something and noticed--purely by chance--that I've written 499 blog posts. Ever.499.... That means that this, right here, is my 500th blog post. **Cue fireworks and champagne and fancy outfits!**Actually. Cue coffee in a local dive, a morning of people-watching (my favorite) and rain-day hair. That's what I'm rocking for this momentous occasion.7 years ago, I got a free Wordpress account and started messing around. I had … [Read more...]

10 Things Scarier Than a Trans Person In Your Bathroom

We know better than to read the comments section.But sometimes I can't help myself. As much as I want to guard myself from the toxic drivel and the deluded persecution complex, I also want to understand what people are so afraid of.North Carolina's Public Facilities Privacy and Security Act has initiated similar legislation proposals in other states (including Kansas). In short, these measures would dictate that a transgender person must use only the public facilities designated for t … [Read more...]

Gaps in History: Talking to Kids About Race and Privilege

 My niece--my daughter's cousin and BFF since birth--is biracial. Together, these girls choreograph synchronized dance routines and wear matching outfits and get identical toys at Christmas. And it has never once occurred to them that there is any difference between them. That to some people's eyes, they do not look like family. I've always been grateful that skin color is not even on the radar for them.Maybe at some level, I thought the depth of that relationship could take the pl … [Read more...]

The World is Our Home: Terrorism, Holy Week, and Other Things We’d Like to Forget

If you know anything about personality typing, then I can tell you I'm an ENFP, and a 7...and you'll know that, among other things, I'm an escape artist.On a good day, that means I'm a day dreamer. In healthy expressions and moderate measures, I'm imaginative, creative, a visionary; I can see past the pain or discomfort of a present moment into a more hopeful future.In my dysfunctional moments, it means I bail out out of the present when it gets uncomfortable. In times of stress or … [Read more...]

Something Wicked This Way Comes: When Trump Comes to Town

He's coming. To Kansas City. Tonight. It is a gray, dull, drizzly day here, which is fitting. As though Mother Nature herself conspired to dress appropriately for the orgy of hatred that is unfolding across the prairie. Nay, across all the land.Yes, I said "nay." Sorry, something about that man makes me draw up Elizabethan-speak from the bottom of my English major soul. Something wicked this way comes...But enough about him. It's not about him. As we well know, he is just a mouthpiece. A … [Read more...]

No Tribe But Ours: A Refugee Story

I really just carried the fruit basket... But I'll tell you about that in a minute.While Kansas, Arizona, and other states draft fresh, angry legislation to keep refugees from entering their boundaries, hundreds of families are quietly coming to resettle in an American city near you.And 99.99% of them are not terrorists. Despite what some politicians would have you believe.My congregation, like many faith communities, has been deeply moved by images and stories of refugees around the … [Read more...]


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