Gaps in History: Talking to Kids About Race and Privilege

 My niece--my daughter's cousin and BFF since birth--is biracial. Together, these girls choreograph synchronized dance routines and wear matching outfits and get identical toys at Christmas. And it has never once occurred to them that there is any difference between them. That to some people's eyes, they do not look like family. I've always been grateful that skin color is not even on the radar for them.Maybe at some level, I thought the depth of that relationship could take the pl … [Read more...]

Clergy Survival Guide: Flu Season Edition

I once had a teacher who suffered from severe mysophobia (fear of germs) to the point that it significantly interfered with her life. Her husband taught in the next classroom over, so every morning he would open all her doors, turn on all her computers/projectors, etc, and set her up for the day. She rarely stepped out from behind her desk, and as far as I can tell, never ventured to the bathroom or the cafeteria. We all thought she was nuts.But now, I kind of get it. Because, you guys, kids … [Read more...]

5 Real Reasons You Want to Win the Lottery: But Mostly Why You Don’t

If I won the lottery, I would not buy a fancy house or car. I would not quit my job. I would not trade in my kids or spouse for robot versions that always do what they're told.I would, however, go on vacation to wherever, whenever I wanted. I would not be at the mercy of Southwest sales, "off-peak season" deals, or my husband's hotel employee discount.Also, you'd better believe I would have a housekeeper. Possibly of the live-in variety, like Alice on the Brady Bunch.And then I would … [Read more...]

Talking to Strangers: Scene in a Bar

I was drinking a beer. That was her first clue that I wasn’t a real Christian.When she asked me what I did and I mentioned that I was a pastor, I’m guessing that sealed the deal.So when she asked me to tell her about my church, I could have quoted our denomination’s identity statement, keeping it light and generic. Or I could have told her about youth group and women’s ministries and mission work in El Salvador. But I figured I was already batting zero—drinking a beer AND being a lady min … [Read more...]

All the Weird, Wonderful World: A Back-to-School Prayer

As I mentioned last year, I am usually not the parent crying into my latte on the first day of school. For one thing, my kid LOVES school, so I am just happy to see her skipping off into hours of playtime, new-friend-making, and math--which she loves, which is beyond me, but go girl anyway. Mostly, I am just trying to get out of the massive crush of suburban parenthood without a)having a panic attack or b) absolutely losing my $h^t at the mom who is TEXTING IN THE DROP OFF LANE and blocking the … [Read more...]

Thin Pink Line: Teaching My Daughter About a Woman’s Place

The poorly applied fuchsia lipstick. The nervous stage mothers pounding Starbucks. (The GLITTER SPRAY. God as my witness, there will still be glitter spray eons after the apocalypse. It will outlive the cockroaches and Ted Cruz...) The piles and piles of bobby pins. Strains of Katy Perry lurking around every corner…It must be recital season. Mercy.I used to be a dancer. Then I was a dance teacher. Making the leap from performer/choreographer to dance mom has been a stretch for me. No … [Read more...]

A Post Not About Caitlyn Jenner

People are tired of talking about Caitlyn Jenner.Or so my newsfeed says. Best I can tell, there are two camps of people who want to be done talking about this:1-Those who say there are plenty of other transgender people in America who are not making news, and one person’s journey should not be so elevated just because of their celebrity; and 2-Those who see the whole story as “a man who decided to become a woman,” misunderstanding the complexity of gender identity, and therefore think … [Read more...]

The Ultimate Summer Slacker List: Reclaiming Sabbath

Hey, all y'all “summer bucket list people.” I love you and you’re adorable, and I am in awe of your ambition. But you are really, really cramping my style. Your lofty goals make it hard for me to embrace the epic, glorious laziness to which I am committed for this season. One day, my kids are going to be old enough to read the internet, and they are going to want to know why I have not planned craft projects, group play dates, homemade ice cream extravaganzas and neighborhood theater productions … [Read more...]

Beyond Pink Carnations: Why I Don’t Do Mother’s Day at Church

Most Sunday mornings, I take a few prayerful moments before worship. I stand at the window, and I watch people come.They come with hope and thanksgiving. They come with expectation, and hella heavy baggage. They come with joy and they come bearing gifts. Often, they come with heartbreak. And while I don’t always know what that is for each person, I often do. I spot the one with the recent diagnosis; the newly or nearly divorced; the struggling to make ends meet; the care-worn who just moved i … [Read more...]


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