For Goodness’ Sake

Every other week of the world, Friday is full of good things. Barbeques and kids’ sleepovers, happy hour and road trips, family game night or movie night, the beginning of Sabbath, baseball, and blessed downtime. But this week…this week, we say every year: what is possibly good about Friday?We mark Jesus’ suffering death and explore stations of the cross. We hear the chilling last words. Silence, darkness, acts of God that shake the ground beneath our feet… Powerful, yes. Meaningful, certain … [Read more...]

Pink Bags (and Other Baggage)

Is this a post about Jesus? Not so much. I somehow couldn't manage to fit 'Jesus' and 'pre-teen lingerie' into the same sentence...Let's just call it a 'sacred embodiment' piece.I have sad news today for men who are married to/partnered with strong, confident alpha-girls: your wives and girlfriends are not shopping at Victoria's Secret anymore.No, it is not something you said. You are not in the dog house, you are not being 'cut off,' and you are not being punished for that thing you sai … [Read more...]

The Way the Wind Blows

I'm watching. You probably are too. While thousands of faithful Catholics have been waiting in Vatican square for days, the white smoke invites curiosity and anticipation from all over the globe.Why is that? The Pope is not the boss of me. If you are a Protestant, and atheist, an agnostic, a humanist, a Buddist/Muslim/Jew, then the Pope is not the boss of you, either. So why do we wait for this news?In the course of this process, a Catholic official said that the new Pope would not just … [Read more...]

Everything I Really Needed to Know About Ministry, I Learned as a Sorority Rush Chair


In a small group at church last weekend, we were asked to complete the following sentence: "When I was 10, I wanted to be __________."While some folks had actual answers (the hands-down winner was "Seaworld dolphin trainer!") it was apparent that none of us had become that which we thought we'd be. At least, not exactly.Even if our life's calling is not a clearly defined career path, we each have a set of inborn gifts and graces. Hopefully, we also bear an impulse to use those gifts in th … [Read more...]

Year of the Dude: Hyper-Masculinity in Marketing, Media and Mega-church


Any time i post an especially pro-woman bit of commentary, i get feedback saying that i clearly--clearly--have a problem with men.For the record, I love men. My husband, my brother, my father, my good friends and male colleagues in ministry, the male members of my church, the stranger at the grocery are great. They are important to me, and to the world in general.So no, I don't have a problem with men. Who I've got a problem with is 'dudes.' More specifically, the many ways … [Read more...]

Out of Joint

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I hesitate to say this out loud and jinx myself so--knock on wood, or stucco, or whatever's handy but--i have not been sick in over a year. Not even a cold or a 24-hour stomach thing. No sinus infection, which i used to get chronically, no upper-respiratory gunk, nothing. I'm not sure what i've done to gain such a run of great good health, other than 1)take my kids out of daycare, 2)yoga and 3)drink lots of green tea. Whatever it is, it's working and i'm grateful for it.However--i am unwell … [Read more...]

The “Yes”es Have It

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I spent the weekend at a mountain camp/retreat center with other church leaders from around Arizona. If you've ever been to this sort of thing, you'll know that it involved a lot of 'sharing;' a lot of coffee; some dancing, silliness and general hilarity; and group-building activities involving things like rope, pvc pipe, and blue plastic tarps. (yes, we have pictures).Which is to say that, in many ways, once you've been to some kind of leadership retreat, you've been to them all. However, th … [Read more...]

Cold News

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The Phoenix area news last night was hilarious. Temperatures were to drop down in the THIRTIES overnight, and desert folk were losing their mind.I realize that if you are living through a Midwest winter, or a Plains-state winter--or pretty much any other winter that is actually winter--lows in the 30s with highs in the 50s for a week does not constitute a 'cold snap,' or a 'frigid blast.' But around here, it is the dang apocalypse.I watched neighbors run around yesterday, throwing … [Read more...]

In Church, at Christmastime

The phone is ringing off the hook,The sanctuary’s hard to book.Yes it’s clean--dare you to look--In church, at Christmastime. One hard-working secretaryIs a little tried and harried.Under bulletin notes, she’s buried,In church, at Christmastime. The kids are plenty sugar wired,the moms all look a little tired,and we all know how that transpiredIn church, at Christmastime. Cause church ladies are such a soft touch … [Read more...]