Open: The Perfect Christmas Card

I guess it's time to start thinking about Christmas cards. (sigh)This means coming up with a reasonably current picture of my whole family--all together in one place, all looking at the camera at the same time; preferably not in matching outfits, but also not looking like we just rolled out of bed or survived a minor struggle.For some families, this is no big deal. They schedule their professional family photo shoot for the same weekend every fall. They show up at a lovely local setting, … [Read more...]

Those Who Watch for the Morning

On Friday, I got a Holy Spirit memo that the message I started on Monday was not the right one for Sunday. That’s how it goes sometimes. So today, we’re going to have a Good News Sunday. It would do us all some good, and it might do the world some good, to focus on all the ways people are doing ok; all the glimpses of light breaking through the cracks out there. Your Mission today— is to not lose hope. Do not give up on good news, that is still being embodied and enacted, out there in the world … [Read more...]

Get Off the Fence: Why “We Welcome Everyone” Isn’t Enough

Since last week's horrific shooting at an LGBT nightclub in Orlando, many pastors have offered words of comfort for the victims' families; words denouncing violence and gun culture; and prayers for a more peaceful world.Then, there's those other guys. "Pastors," so-called, in Florida, and Texas, who have said unspeakably hateful things about the LGBT community; who have publicly prayed that God might "finish the job" and kill the rest of them; and some other terrible things that I'm not … [Read more...]

They Want Us Dead: Hate and Marginalized Communities

A powerful guest post from my college friend, Shawn McGuffey. An important read that needs to be shared far and wide--and I'm proud to share it here. “They want us dead. I’m gay. They want us dead.”This morning I woke up smiling. Laughing. And making jokes with my partner. While morning laughter is usually as routine for us as eating and brushing teeth, it was notable today because we have not done so since the tragic massacre in Orlando this past weekend where 49 people – primarily Latin … [Read more...]

Disarming Hate: After Orlando

Another day, another mass shooting. Another opportunity for political propaganda-ing and moral posturing and "we'll keep them in our prayers-ing" that amounts to exactly nothing, as long as they are all too cowardly to stand up to the gun lobby that is the boss of everything.This cowardice, for the record, is a bipartisan sin.Yesterday's shooting in Orlando is the biggest in U.S. history, which is not the kind of superlative you want to be winning, not by a long shot, but it is truly … [Read more...]

Transgender Travel: People are Mostly Okay

Airport people watching is one of my favorite activities. In general, airports make me anxious. The crowds; the frenetic sense of urgency as people rush around; the smell of other people's (way too much) perfume or cologne; the bottled water that costs $800; business bros talking loudly into ear pieces so that we will know they are Very Important; constant reminders to guard your stuff, people, terrorists are everywhere!; the thousand ways my day and trip could be derailed by a sneeze or a … [Read more...]

10 Things Scarier Than a Trans Person In Your Bathroom

We know better than to read the comments section.But sometimes I can't help myself. As much as I want to guard myself from the toxic drivel and the deluded persecution complex, I also want to understand what people are so afraid of.North Carolina's Public Facilities Privacy and Security Act has initiated similar legislation proposals in other states (including Kansas). In short, these measures would dictate that a transgender person must use only the public facilities designated for t … [Read more...]

Go Prepare a Place: Holy Week and Political Trans-Shaming

If you haven't been following the Kansas politiscape, then you're welcome. It is a mind-melting, heartbreaking and head-banging-into-the-wall kind of situation, and if you live in another state at the moment, you can thank a Kansan for sparing you the disgusting details of our life right now. The short version is, that this self-proclaimed experiment in Tea Party trickle-down economics is absolutely imploding on itself, but nobody knows how to put the breaks on it without admitting it was a … [Read more...]

The Turning Away

PSSSSSsssttt. You guys. Somebody tell the Southern Baptists that the transgender crowd is not exactly queuing up to join their churches…Is exactly the kind of snarky thing I’m really tempted to say right now, just a few days after the Southern Baptist Convention voted to affirm a resolution condemning transgender people. Because really, telling the transgender folks to get out of the Baptist church? That’s kind of like telling the Portland hipsters to stop shopping at Wal-Mart.It’s almost … [Read more...]