Overshared Childhood: Parenting and Privacy in the Social Media Age

Friday night situation: everybody's home after Dad's been traveling all week, nobody has anyplace to be, the house is clean, and there's Chinese takeout for dinner. I'll add to this perfect tableau that my kids have mostly graduated from watching cartoons full of grating, whiny voices and now like to watch kids cooking shows on the Food Network.  All in all, a lovely evening--and if you've got a busy family, you know that these kinds of peaceful home nights don't happen often. Or at least, they … [Read more...]

Get Ready for the Polyamory Movement

Guest post, by Katherine Willis Pershey.  As a theologically progressive pastor serving in the United Church of Christ, which is by most measures the most liberal Christian denomination in the country, I have watched and prayed from a comfortable distance as other mainline churches wrestled with questions of human sexuality. Presbyterian and Episcopal communions have fractured over same sex marriage and the ordination of gay and lesbian pastors; meanwhile, the UCC just waves its rainbow flag … [Read more...]

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The Real War on Marriage

I know, I know. I just wrote a piece on marriage. However—it got heavy traffic, which tells me that marriage is on many people’s minds, a lot of the time. And it’s on mine again today. So, here you go.I may be the only person you know who flips the car radio back and forth between Christian radio and NPR. And that’s a post for another day, but meantime; I was on said Christian radio station today, and heard a woman say a thing about the ‘attack on marriage’ in our country. And I started to si … [Read more...]

Good China, Good Sleep, and Sexpectations: 10 Truths from 10 Years of Marriage

We are celebrating 10 years of marriage this month. 10 years, 2 kids, 1 dog, 2 cross-country moves, countless road trips, several bad hair cuts, more than a few miscommunications, and more West Wing marathons than we’ll ever tell…Just to be clear: my marriage is not perfect, nor do I pretend it is on Facebook; I don’t parade it through the sanctuary as the ‘life as it should be’ lesson, and I don’t claim the ability to fix people who are struggling. However: I’m a pastor, and I hear a lot abo … [Read more...]

A Bully is a Bully

Today millions of people are wearing (or facebook posting) purple, in support of GLAAD'S "Stand up Against Bullying" effort.More and more folks are getting on the ‘stand up to meanies’ of band wagons these days. Since the evolution of the Trevor Project, more non-profits, celebrities, schools and entire communities are committed to this same message: stop being mean, meanies. And, if you are NOT a meanie, learn how to, you know, say stop.Thing is, gone are the days of a bully = big kid on … [Read more...]

Out of the (little black) Box

Hey. Watch this real quick. When you're done tossing your pink frosted cookies, come back and we'll chat:Love Story, or beginning of epic slasher flick?Ok. Thanks for coming back. Now, where do we begin: a)terrible acting, b) shameless commercialization of love, or c) icky gender roles and the notion that women are afraid of loud noises?I'm going to go with 'all of the above' and say D) The dangerous notion that love can fit into a little black box.Advertisers have their way with … [Read more...]

Week 1, Day 4: Our Every Gift

When I was a sophomore in college, my grandparents got new furniture, and got rid of the old. Among the outgoing stuff: two slate blue, la-z-boy recliners. They were, honestly, the most comfortable chairs on the planet. Plush and inviting, they rocked, they leaned back, they had just enough give and just enough support to make for the perfect sitting situation. Imagine my great joy upon learning that these chairs needed new homes. One of them came to live with me, and transformed my tiny dorm … [Read more...]

A Perfect Day

Following a pretty rotten day, the universe will sometimes throw you a nearly perfect one. Or maybe it's just that, for me, two consecutive rotten days are unacceptable. In any case, yesterday= pretty dang crummy. Today, however, rolled something like this:Day started, per usual, with a small girl crawling into bed with me and firmly wedging herself in my back to snooze for a few more minutes. Then it was up and around for breakfast with the fam at our favorite pancake place.  Unseasonably c … [Read more...]

The English Major Diet: Valentine’s Day Edition

Like many of you, I have mixed feelings about Valentine's Day. I'm all for telling our loved ones that they are...well, loved. But needing a special day to do it is kind of like needing New Year's to make a resolution. Mostly, the whole day is a commercialized fiasco that wastes a bunch of paper, feeds kids too much sugar, and makes single people feel like they are missing something. All the while, real and lasting love dissolves into Hallmark processed cheese, and all the sparkly princess … [Read more...]