Why “Stay-Home-Dad” and “Mr Mom” are Not the Same Thing

Well. If I thought that telling people I was a minister could elicit a "does-not-compute" expression, imagine the gazes that accompany the latest addendum to the conversation:"...and what does your husband do?""well, he recently quit his job to stay home with the kids."buzzing, clicking, whirring noises. Still processing the chick-preacher component..."Oh, that's wonderful!"And you know, most people really, truly mean it. Once they get over the initial shock, that is. Most p … [Read more...]

Showing Up

I can think of many movies that i love, but my all-time favorite has to be Forrest Gump. Call me a conformist (because that's everybody's favorite movie) but really, what's not to love? A hero you can root for; a tragic heroine; the backdrop of Americana; an epic journey; a satisfying, full-circle kind of ending; and a fabulous soundtrack to accent the whole of it.One of my favorite parts of that movie is where Forrest and Leiutenant Dan are on the shrimping boat, and the nets are, shall we s … [Read more...]

Abundance: Week 3, day 2

Me, to the 3-year-old, as I toss some things in a box: "We are going to get rid of some of your toys, before you get new stuff for Christmas."The kid: "And we'll give it to some other children?" me: "Exactly! Who taught you about that, somebody at church?" Kid: "No, you did!"The joy for the day: that sometimes they listen. That sometimes, the good stuff sinks in. That "home" and "church" are not utterly separate places. And that we have more than enough to share. … [Read more...]

Smell: Week 2, Day 3

My kid's got a nose on her.I don't mean a glaring, unfortunate feature. I mean, she has a sensitive olefactory device. She has been known to tell her daddy that he smells like "beard." (Translation: something involving hops). Or to tell her brother, "Baby brother, you smell like waffles!" No man or child in her life will ever be able to sneak a cigarette, that's for sure. She will never be able to walk by a bakery un-tempted. She will never be able to live in a place that has a damp carpet s … [Read more...]

Between Here and There

I'm not crazy, as it turns out. Well, i might be...but i was not crazy to take a 3-year-old on a 3-day road trip adventure by myself. She was so good. Unbelievably good. Practically shining her halo the whole dang time.Until the last hour and a half or so. Then it was meltdown city. And i was driving in the desert, in the dark, and couldn't do much about it.There might be something spiritual and beautiful about driving in the desert at night, but try telling that to a small child who is … [Read more...]

It’s All in There: Unmasking for Halloween

Some thoughts on finding/creating the perfect Halloween costume:First of all, nix that idea of "perfect." Add to my growing list of What's Wrong With America that notion of the perfectly executed holiday. I mean, i love to flip through Southern Living, Sunset, or the Pottery Barn catalogue as much as the next girl. But let's remember they share IDEAS. By no means does your yard/house/menu/attire/person need to reflect the meticulously coordinated life on the page. Do NOT let yourself get … [Read more...]

A Moving Violation

An organized household, office, car, and bank account seem unattainable for people like me. People who not only have children and a full-time job, but also find right-brained, type-A sorts of tasks tantamount to learning Chinese...meaning, it could be done, but life is too short.However, I have learned time and again that being unorganized has its price. Much as I hate chores, errands, paper work and basically being a grown-up, letting these things go will ultimately amount to even MORE ad … [Read more...]

Girls Run the World

"Rocking it at work. Kicking "being-a-mom's" ass."Reagan--Cristina Applegate's character on "Up All Night"-- is quickly becoming my new favorite TV heroine. Struggling to balance career and family, she is never a victim of work, or of motherhood. You never see her sacrifice one at the painful expense of the other. She has healthy boundaries, leaving work to make her kid's play date, but also empowering her husband Chris (Will Arnett) to be a full-time dad while she works. She doesn't micr … [Read more...]

Empty

Miserable 24-hour stomach flu shared at our house this week. Thanks kids. You are adorable, and the joy of our lives, but you are also grubby, germy petri dishes of bacteria. And it does not help that one of you is a compulsive thumb sucker. Most days i try not to think about all the nasty things they touch and ingest and/or carry into the house. But then some days, all that filth becomes the center of the universe.  It helps, i suppose, that we took turns. Harper first, then me, then the ba … [Read more...]