Good China, Good Sleep, and Sexpectations: 10 Truths from 10 Years of Marriage


We are celebrating 10 years of marriage this month. 10 years, 2 kids, 1 dog, 2 cross-country moves, countless road trips, several bad hair cuts, more than a few miscommunications, and more West Wing marathons than we’ll ever tell…Reflecting on the joys and challenges of all that, I’ve been (mentally) working them up into a blog post; then dang it if Rachel Held Evans  didn’t beat me to it and write the post first. Yesterday. I read hers and thought it was pretty great. No need for mine. … [Read more...]

A Bully is a Bully


Today millions of people are wearing (or facebook posting) purple, in support of GLAAD'S "Stand up Against Bullying" effort.More and more folks are getting on the ‘stand up to meanies’ of band wagons these days. Since the evolution of the Trevor Project, more non-profits, celebrities, schools and entire communities are committed to this same message: stop being mean, meanies. And, if you are NOT a meanie, learn how to, you know, say stop.Thing is, gone are the days of a bully = big kid on … [Read more...]

I Never Wanted Church


Guest Post by Sarah Stewart HollandIn 2009, I convinced my husband to leave our fancy six-figure lives in Washington, DC, and move back to my hometown of Paducah, KY. Well, convinced is a strong word. I got pregnant and then told him me and the baby were moving to Paducah and he was welcome to join us.A decade before I had loaded up my cherry red Oldsmobile Cutlass and headed away for college convinced I was leaving the town of my birth forever. My dreams were too big to be contained … [Read more...]

$*^! Jesus Says: The Lay Down Your Weapons Edition


"You have heard it said, the only thing that can stop a bad guy with a gun, is a good guy with a gun. But verily, I say unto you, that this woman is a total badass...and her only weapons were prayer, courage, and compassion. Verily I say unto you; the world is violent, but there is always another way."Alright, so I don't say 'verily' much. But Antoinette Tuff deserves a 'verily.' She verily saved the lives of countless children yesterday. When a gunman entered the school where she works, she … [Read more...]

Most Smartest and Sacred: Are Atheists Really Smarter than Us?


According to 63 studies conducted over the last 80-some years, Atheists are OFFICIALLY smarter than people of faith. Officially. I read that this week.My first reaction was to take offense.  I mean... I'm a reasonably intelligent person. So are (most) Christians I know. So are the Jews, the Muslims, the Buddists... I mean, I've got no gripe with people who don't align themselves with a belief system, but seriously; how does faith (or lack thereof) speak to smarts?For my money, that just c … [Read more...]

The Conviction of Things Unseen: on Mystery Priests and Modern Miracles

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The mystery priest came out of the closet. I mean...not that closet. But he came out of hiding, anyway. So, I stand corrected. I never thought we'd hear from him.Last week, a young woman in Missouri was hit head on by a drunk driver. Her vital signs were dropping quickly, and some of the rescue equipment was malfunctioning. In the midst of this grim scene, the girl asked the first-responders to pray with her. According to witnesses, a priest then appeared out of nowhere and anointed her with … [Read more...]

Happily Mostly After

Happily ever after is a lie.And no, I'm not having man problems. I don't hate my job. I'm not sick. I'm not in weather-related funk, and I'm not overly discouraged about the state of the economy. I've just got this on my mind... A photographer staged some life-sized vignettes of 'princesses' in their ever after.  These renderings show anything but a fairy tale ending. Belle--addicted to plastic surgery?; Cinderella--drinking away her disappointment.  There's more. Check it out.To some, th … [Read more...]

Undeclared (The College Survival Edition)

This is a re-post from a couple years ago; for all y'all who are headed off to college in the next few weeks--or maybe just reminiscing about the good ol days--some thoughts on moderation and living life 'undeclared.'I started teaching dance when I was 16; I was a student minister/camp counselor 10+ years ago; I have a brother-in-law and sister-in-law who were 6 and 8 when I started dating their big brother–they are now 18 and 20(!).  Every August, Facebook reminds me that many of these “kid … [Read more...]

The Sacred Maybe


I have a boy who is almost 3, but he's been talking like 4 since he was 2. He didn't get the memo that boys and/or second children do not develop vocabulary as quickly as their female/first child counter parts. I mean, boy likes to chat. At his two year check-up the nurse said, "does he know a) 5-10 words, b)10-20 words, or c) more than 20 words?" My husband and I kind of looked at each other and said, "um...why don't you ask him?"For all his articulate advancement, there are certain turns … [Read more...]