Looking for the Living

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I had the pleasure of being a part of an ordination service a few weeks ago at Christ Church Cathedral in Houston.   It was a lovely space and a wonderful service. Walking in, a friend and I commented on how you could smell the history of this place… the beautiful aged wood and generations of incense and prayer.  Somewhere in the process of the service, I noticed a beautiful stained glass window behind the altar. Though the image I offer you now is not very good (I really need a class in iPho … [Read more...]

Repentance redefined: Giving up exhaustion and opening to change

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Day 4: Repentance redefined: Giving up exhaustion and opening to change “exhaustion was not fertile soil for growth and change” We had been meeting for about two years when my directee said to me: “You know the most helpful thing you’ve said to me since we’ve been meeting is “God is not in favor of exhaustion.”” As a woman who struggles with over-work, conversation about balance and spiritual practice were a large part of our conversations together.  But it wasn’t until we began to talk about … [Read more...]

Repentance redefined: standing tall

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" Not one more day did Jesus want this woman to live bent over." As I was completing work on my third book, My Own Worst Enemy,  I encountered the story of the woman bent over.Listening once more to this Jesus-initiated, compassion-driven, Sabbath day healing of a woman bent over for 18 years, I was suddenly overwhelmed with all the ways that we as women may live bent over:We tend to the needs of others while neglecting our own. We exist in life as a “living apology,” seeking to earn … [Read more...]

Repentance redefined: silent no more

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Day 2:            "The pattern of Hannah’s spiritual growth echoes that of many, many other women in Scripture: growth toward a larger sense of voice and personhood rather than silence." I grew up in a faith tradition that believed women were to be seen and not heard in the church and, for most part, at home, too. Based on a few verses from the Epistles, an entire gender, including myself, was silenced.Yet new questions rose within me as I began to listen to the collective stories of women … [Read more...]

A Holy Rant

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Why is it that most Christians assume that spirituality is a unisex reality?Why have I, in 55 years of church attendance, never heard a sermon on gender differences in spirituality and only one that even acknowledged it as real (thanks Bob C.)?Why is it that in a culture where we talk more and more about gender difference in how we shop and have heart attacks and think, we neglect to talk about how we experience God differently?Why is there not a course in gender different … [Read more...]

Focusing Self-compassion on Limitations

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I admit it: I’ve not bought a single Christmas gift yet. My husband, God bless him, has ordered a few things.  My guess is that Amazon is going to become my best friend over these next few weeks. My work schedule has been full as well as continuing to make doctor and physical therapy appointments and block off several whole days for injections. Oh, and my husband had some minor surgery this month, too.There are only 15 more days until Christmas (all of them shopping days online!)As I fa … [Read more...]

A love letter to my body

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It seems I am forever just behind the culture curve… just outside the conversation.  But when this invitation from SheLoves and Megan Gahan came across my field of vision yesterday, through this blog of fellow Patheos blogger Enuma Okoro, I knew I wanted to attempt to include it here because it’s such a part of my current life struggle/growing edge. A love letter to my body Clearly, I need to begin with an apology. I have not loved you well. I have treated you like a machine Rather than hono … [Read more...]

Subtle shaming

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"He subtly shamed her deeply held desire for a child even as he sought to elevate the power of his love in her life. " When I read the stories of women in Scripture, I often listen to my internal responses as a way of listening to the story.  For example, in Hannah’s story (1 Samuel 1), I would always cringe when I read Elkanah’s response to Hannah’s weeping.  So, a few years ago, I stopped and listened there for a while, trying to unpack the very complex and swirling relational dynamics as best … [Read more...]

Uni-sex spirituality?

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“Though the church may have missed noticing gender different spirituality, God had not missed writing it into that ancient sacred book.”Many of us in the Christian world grow up with an assumption of a unisex spirituality. Though we readily admit that men and women are different biologically and psychologically, we often stop there in our thinking.  In 54 years in church, I’ve never heard a sermon on gender different spirituality.If we do think further, sometimes we realize that the forms … [Read more...]


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