Repentance redefined: silent no more

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Day 2:            "The pattern of Hannah’s spiritual growth echoes that of many, many other women in Scripture: growth toward a larger sense of voice and personhood rather than silence." I grew up in a faith tradition that believed women were to be seen and not heard in the church and, for most part, at home, too. Based on a few verses from the Epistles, an entire gender, including myself, was silenced.Yet new questions rose within me as I began to listen to the collective stories of women … [Read more...]

“M” is for mystery and for mystic

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"The more I listened, the more I recognized within myself a deep hunger to be more aware of the Mystery all around me." I don’t know why it is that when I attempt to meditate, my mind resorts to Dr. Seuss. It has been more than 30 years since I was first read Dr. Seuss’s ABCs to our son, but it is still stuck deep in the crevasses of my neural folds. Big “A” little “a”, what begins with “A”? Aunt Annie’s alligator “A”, “A”, “A.” Big “B” little “b” what begins with “B”?  Barber, baby, bubbles, … [Read more...]

A Holy Rant

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Why is it that most Christians assume that spirituality is a unisex reality?Why have I, in 55 years of church attendance, never heard a sermon on gender differences in spirituality and only one that even acknowledged it as real (thanks Bob C.)?Why is it that in a culture where we talk more and more about gender difference in how we shop and have heart attacks and think, we neglect to talk about how we experience God differently?Why is there not a course in gender different … [Read more...]

Focusing Self-compassion on Limitations

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I admit it: I’ve not bought a single Christmas gift yet. My husband, God bless him, has ordered a few things.  My guess is that Amazon is going to become my best friend over these next few weeks. My work schedule has been full as well as continuing to make doctor and physical therapy appointments and block off several whole days for injections. Oh, and my husband had some minor surgery this month, too.There are only 15 more days until Christmas (all of them shopping days online!)As I fa … [Read more...]

Ungodly contentment

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"So many women spend their lives playing small. I call it ungodly contentment. "It's funny how adept we are as humans at turning something helpful and good into something less than helpful.  Contentment is one of those characteristics that can be a quality of spiritual maturity, or it can be a sign of our refusal to grow up. Though likely just a teen, Mary seemed amazingly mature as she let go of contentment and opened to something new and "troubling." This is how I write about it My Own … [Read more...]

Self-compassion and self-advocacy

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“It is hard to extend compassion to ourselves when others are not doing the same.”It is hard to learn to actively offer compassion to ourselves, to advocate for ourselves.We are given so many messages that say we are supposed to wait for others to discover our needs and find the compassion and courage to advocate for us.And we are fed so many messages that say we are over-reacting when we speak our genuine pain and suffering because it may not look like the pain and suffering of tho … [Read more...]

Positive change, negative response

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"If we can muster the courage for the initial choice, we expect affirmation and blessing." It is a moment of being invited to grow up.  It is usually an unwelcome invitation.When we make a difficult but wise choice, something in us expects that the world will rise up and bless us.And sometimes that does happen: Mary’s sign from the angel was Elizabeth’s encouraging proclamation.But sometimes… not so much.We are looking for affirmation and we get complaint. It happened to Mary of … [Read more...]


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